Driving ability and experience matter. Who is the best, most experienced driver? Is Grandpa a former long-haul trucker? Is Grandma retired from the protective division of the Secret Service? If somebody has credentials like that, give them the “good” car, and there you go. The kids belong in the “good” car regardless who is driving. Another option if you’re set on driving the kids yourself is to ask the grandparents to take the lead on child care after you arrive. Then they and the kids get plenty of fun together anyway.

It’s not at all unusual for parents to want to be their kids’ only driver. People have different values and resources. Some people are professionally trained drivers with a million miles or more under their belts. Others have limited highway experience or are prone to distractions. Some people buy cars because the car is cute or affordable. Some are almost willing to take a second mortgage for better safety. The best driver in a super car is st the mercy of the reckless idiots on the road, subject only to the driver’s trained reactions and the crash worthiness of the vehicle.

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Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.

No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.

Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?

Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.

I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.

Right?? lol
She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want.

Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything.

I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool!

Wrong
He lives at home while attending University of Toronto.

You post as if you think this all makes you a better parent or that it's brag worthy. It's really not!

Do kids who go away to college want to get away from parents? Seems someone insinuated that. Yet mine loved me so much they stayed

Lol ok...you got me (and several other people) but this last post confirms you're a troll. You went a little bit too far over the edge.

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Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.

No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.

Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?

Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.

I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.

Right?? lol
She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want.

Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything.

I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool!

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He lives at home while attending University of Toronto.

You post as if you think this all makes you a better parent or that it's brag worthy. It's really not!

This thread went off the rails fast.

OP, I'm going to assume it's something that has a seriously poor safety rating. If it's a concern to have your kids driving in that car long distance, I think you just have to tell your parents that's the reason. If there are carseats involved, you could swap cars and make it be about not wanting to move them, I suppose.

Sorry I had the luxury of taking my kids everywhere. You people sound jealous. They are/ were my priority, not some lame job. You will nevwr get that time back when you let others do your parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.

No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.

Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?

Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.

I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.

Right?? lol
She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want.

Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything.

I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool!

And I love how she (or someone) keeps saying “why is this strange”? You REALLY don’t see why this is strange?!? 99% of kids and parents participate in carpools and drive other kids around. And yet you think what YOU are doing is normal?

Link?
Because no they don't.

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Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.

No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.

Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?

Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.

Can I ask what nationality you are?
How would you feel if, like OPs parents, your kids did not let their children ride with you as the driver?

I dont need to drive grandkids. Their parents can drive them.

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Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.

No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.

Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?

Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.

I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.

Right?? lol
She's either messed them up with her unreasonable paranoia that they're just as paranoid as she is, or they're definitely placating her by telling her what she wants to hear & then driving wherever they want with whomever they want.

Why do you think her little genius wanted to go off to college so early?? So he could live like a REAL teenager & stop missing out on everything.

I feel so sorry for those kids... some of the greatest bonding moments our kids had were in carpool!

Wrong
He lives at home while attending University of Toronto.

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Anonymous wrote:No, my kids don’t have anxiety. They are successful college students. My 17 year old started early, yay!! He is gifted.

No, we didn’t do carpool. Why would we? We, the parents drove them where they needed to go.

Wow, this is unusual. You ask "why would we?" There are a million reasons! One of the many: did your kids never get invited anywhere with anyone?

Play dates: we dropped them off and picked them up. They didn’t go anywhere overnight.

I know who you are!! And FYI — your kids did so much you never knew about.

Then you know we live in toronto.
Nice try..lol

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. I have never ever let my kids drive in the car with anyone but DH and I. My kids are 19 and 17 now. I’m glad I didn’t. There was no need.

You never once took a taxi anywhere? Do you travel at all? Do your kids have their own cars at college?

Or a school or camp bus? Or charter bus? Or plane? Or train?

What a sad sad life.

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I have never ever let my kids drive in the car with anyone but DH and I. My kids are 19 and 17 now. I’m glad I didn’t. There was no need.

You never once took a taxi anywhere? Do you travel at all? Do your kids have their own cars at college?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t let anyone else drive my kid, so I would say no.

Of course he's four months old now, so it's understandable.

Anonymous wrote:If an accident happens, you want them covered under your car insurance policy, especially if the other driver is uninsured or underinsured. This is why we only let our nanny and other family members drive our kids in our car. We have a million dollar uninsured/underinsured motor policy. If an accident happens in someone else’s car, it does not apply.

No, you are not paranoid about not wanting other people to drive your kid on a long distance trip on hwys. Car accidents are a leading cause of death and injury in kids.

Reading comprehension really isn't your thing, is it?

Parenting has become paranoia. So glad I'm not doing it now.

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I have never ever let my kids drive in the car with anyone but DH and I. My kids are 19 and 17 now. I’m glad I didn’t. There was no need.

Why are you glad you didn't? Because they're alive? My parents let me ride with people all the time in the 70s without a seatbelt and I'm alive too so...