Anonymous wrote:Getting back to the thread topic - we stayed at someone’s house who had a policy of not flushing if it was just no.1 or the kids poops. Trying to save the environment. So all the bathrooms would be full of waste when you went in them.

So disgusting!

I, like most people I knew, grew up with shoes on inside the house. We survived. We no more got sick than the shoes off households did nor were our houses any dirtier. You're just being paranoid. Believe me your house is a lot "filthier" than you think and I'm sure your door handles and staircase banister are covered with germs and even worse from your bathroom usage and your husband and son's masturbating. It's entirely in your mind that your house is cleaner by taking your shoes off.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

That’s a reflection more on you than on them. Don’t wear socks with holes, and clean/treat your damn feet! It shouldn’t be a matter of concern to take your shoes off!

Ugh, I hate sanctimonious people like you. I have plantar fasciitis. I need to wear shoes. Give some warning so I won’t come. I don’t want to hang out with loonies like you anyway.

I’ll bet you also drag around an ‘emotional support bull dog’ around to deal with your ‘plantar fasciitis ‘ too.
Because for you , and only you, it’s a permanent and disabling condition.

Oh shut up, PP and go clean your floors in your lonely house. Scrub them well and get a packet of booties for all of your guests. Which I am sure you never have . . .

Am sure no dog would like you. Sad.

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Anonymous wrote:It's 2019, and you live near DC. Assume that if you are going to a household where at least one adult is of Asian descent, you will have to remove your shoes. Get over it. I prepare for all kinds of cultural differences when I go to white people's homes...

I agree with you.

NP and genuinely curious: how do you prepare for cultural differences in white people's homes? (Just curious for the perspective that I might not be aware of.)

NP, but my husband and I always eat before visiting our white friends. We know it's likely that we won't like the food, they won't serve food, or they'll serve something weird to eat at a party like soup.

When we host parties and we know some of our white friends will be coming, we tell them a different time to show up because we don't want them showing up hours before everyone else. We also choose a more "palatable" playlist that won't make them uncomfortable, and we set up a quiet space because they frequently complain that the party is too loud. Conversely, we think it's weird to throw a party with no music, no food, and everyone sitting in a circle staring at one another.

We also eat beforehand mainly because we are vegetarians and will usually find nothing to eat. Once our friends called me to celebrate my birthday and forgot to make something vegetarian and I genuinely was okay with it since I understand that it’s something new for them.
I make sure that I have napkins available during meals at our home( we wash our hands in the sink after meals), cook with less spice for them and always try to make a dish recognizable to them like spaghetti.

What is with this weird white people bashing? I’m a vegetarian and rarely have trouble finding something to eat.

How is this white peoples bashing? The only they served was soup and I couldn’t have the soup but like I said no big deal.
BTW this happens in any home that we visit that are huge meat eaters, especially if it’s like a barbeque. PP asked specifically about white people and all the white people I know are meat eaters.

I’m vegan (and white) and I also have trouble finding things to eat. Once at a cookout they made me a plain grilled portobello mushroom. It was kind, but only around 30 calories so I was still starving. It’s not a big deal, I would have difficulty serving someone who only wanted meat since I can’t cook it worth a damn, so I understand and try to eat beforehand or bring along a dish to share that I can fill up on.

You should ask. Vegan is much harder than vegetarian. If they made you a portobello and they had sides, that is thoughtful. Usually at best its a frozen veggie burger.

Anonymous wrote:Getting back to the thread topic - we stayed at someone’s house who had a policy of not flushing if it was just no.1 or the kids poops. Trying to save the environment. So all the bathrooms would be full of waste when you went in them.

Oh that is really gross. No freakin' way could I stay in a house like that.

My sil is a generally clean, neat person with a stylish house. But every inch of their furniture is covered in pet fur. I love pets, but I hate sitting on fur. It drives me nuts, and I can't understand how they just make themselves comfortable on all the fur.

My mil was so particular about house rules that guests would be in a frenzy by the end of the visit (like a week at their lake house). We'd bicker amongst ourselves about where we were supposed to put our towels because wet ones go in the upstairs bathroom but not the downstairs bathroom unless it's Sunday, and which ceiling fan MUST ALWAYS be left on all night, no she said NEVER TURN ON THAT FAN, and oh crap, she said not to use the red crochet pot holders, or was it the yellow? I think she enjoyed the chaos.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

That’s a reflection more on you than on them. Don’t wear socks with holes, and clean/treat your damn feet! It shouldn’t be a matter of concern to take your shoes off!

Ugh, I hate sanctimonious people like you. I have plantar fasciitis. I need to wear shoes. Give some warning so I won’t come. I don’t want to hang out with loonies like you anyway.

I’ll bet you also drag around an ‘emotional support bull dog’ around to deal with your ‘plantar fasciitis ‘ too.
Because for you , and only you, it’s a permanent and disabling condition.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

I think it's rude for people to ask guests to remove their shoes, especially if it's just for a short visit. I have a bum knee, my sis has plantar fasciitis, and I know many senior citizens who would be more comfortable with their shoes on. For some of us it's painful to walk w/o the support of shoes. As a host it's about making your guests comfortable, not what you prefer. You can clean your floors after the visit. Now if it's for overnight guests, I would ask them in advance to bring slippers/house shoes to wear in the home.

No - just stay home with all of that baggage. Maybe exercise too so you aren’t in such bad shape.

You're neurotic. Don't have anyone over if you can't handle it. Stay home and eat off your floor, freak.

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Anonymous wrote:People with no-shoes-in-the-house policies are rude if they don’t provide medical booties to slip OVER the shoe for guests who need arch support, have feet problems, etc.

this is a total no brainer because hospitality is 100% and not one iota less about making your guests feel welcome and comfortable. If the first thing you do is hit me with a shoes off request without forewarning, you’ve already made me feel awkward.

While I agree with you 100%, sadly the entitled people around here are more concerned with keeping their floors spotless. Who cares about the stinkin’ guests when the maid won’t be here til next week?!?

Key word is ‘stinkin’

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

I think it's rude for people to ask guests to remove their shoes, especially if it's just for a short visit. I have a bum knee, my sis has plantar fasciitis, and I know many senior citizens who would be more comfortable with their shoes on. For some of us it's painful to walk w/o the support of shoes. As a host it's about making your guests comfortable, not what you prefer. You can clean your floors after the visit. Now if it's for overnight guests, I would ask them in advance to bring slippers/house shoes to wear in the home.

No - just stay home with all of that baggage. Maybe exercise too so you aren’t in such bad shape.

The bum knee is from exercising (torn ACL). Maybe get some compassion so your psyche isn't in such bad shape. Jesus Christ. All for your immaculate floors (as if).

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

That’s a reflection more on you than on them. Don’t wear socks with holes, and clean/treat your damn feet! It shouldn’t be a matter of concern to take your shoes off!

Ugh, I hate sanctimonious people like you. I have plantar fasciitis. I need to wear shoes. Give some warning so I won’t come. I don’t want to hang out with loonies like you anyway.

Please - stay home.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

I think it's rude for people to ask guests to remove their shoes, especially if it's just for a short visit. I have a bum knee, my sis has plantar fasciitis, and I know many senior citizens who would be more comfortable with their shoes on. For some of us it's painful to walk w/o the support of shoes. As a host it's about making your guests comfortable, not what you prefer. You can clean your floors after the visit. Now if it's for overnight guests, I would ask them in advance to bring slippers/house shoes to wear in the home.

No - just stay home with all of that baggage. Maybe exercise too so you aren’t in such bad shape.

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am going to someone’s house I make sure my feet are “presentable,” just in case I need to take my shoes off. Those of you who are so inconvenienced by having to do so are inconveniencing us, the people who don’t want the crap from your shoes all over our house.

Maybe the poors who can’t afford a swiffer shouldn’t invite people over.

And the pesticides from outside. Yuck. Try to be civilized- or just stay home.

A stiffer doesn’t clean dirt, fertilizer, pollen and pesticides out of your carpet either.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

That’s a reflection more on you than on them. Don’t wear socks with holes, and clean/treat your damn feet! It shouldn’t be a matter of concern to take your shoes off!

This. PP - get yourself together!

My former mother in law used to always tell me that she put clean sheets on the bed for us. I always thought it was a little weird that she needed to point it out. Like, don’t you always put clean sheets on a bed for guests? She kept a clean house, it’s not like I would have been wondering if we weee sleeping in dirty sheets!