2-3 times a week would be great, though between working FT and having a 2 year old, it usually doesn't work out that way. we shoot for once a week minimum, with twice a bonus.

I do often need to take care of myself an additional 4-5 times a week. I reserve certain thoughts (and people--none of whom I know) for those times. I feel guilty thinking of anyone but my husband during sex, so I mentally separate the two experiences.

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Anonymous wrote:Once a week was great for me, 1 kid, 41 yrs. That's enough time for my energy to build up and have multiple orgasms. However DH being an emotionally/borderline physically abusive jerk destroyed my ability to have sex with him.

If he's not your ex husband, it can only mean you have an an open marriage. Because those are your only options.

He could be nicer to me.

Late 40s, teen kids, married 20

once a week minimum. More as work travel allows.

If there's intimacy in our lives, multiple times a week. Otherwise, I could do without. In the meantime, I put up with it, and hope he's done quickly and I act appropriately satisfied.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once a week was great for me, 1 kid, 41 yrs. That's enough time for my energy to build up and have multiple orgasms. However DH being an emotionally/borderline physically abusive jerk destroyed my ability to have sex with him.

If he's not your ex husband, it can only mean you have an an open marriage. Because those are your only options.

yay, the MRA is here to remind us that no matter how abusive a man is, if you don’t put out, the marriage IS OPEN.

I also have an emotionally abusive husband. Whatever. If someone else wants to put up with his crap and save me the hassle of getting him off, that’s fine with me. Makes my life easier. Problem is he’s suck a jerk no other woman is interested.

Totally wrong. I am absolutely NOT telling you to put out. If you have an emotionally abusive jerk husband, I definitely would not expect you to have sex with him. Rather, you should divorce him. Why would you stay married to an abusive jerk?

But... but... if you DON'T divorce him, well then I am sorry but you are not entitled to his exclusivity.

I don’t WANT his exclusivity. I’ve told my DH to go ahead and get it elsewhere because cheating wouldn’t be anywhere near the top of the list of terrible things he’s done to me.

I don’t understand you men who put your monogamy up on a pedestal and treat it like it’s some great prize. I don’t want your penis and don’t care where you stick it. Go ahead and open the marriage, god knows I’d also love to get some strange.

It sounds like we are in perfect agreement so why did you respond with an eyeroll instead of just a +1?

Because when someone says their husband is abusive, the first thing to pop into your mind shouldn’t be “well he’s just gonna go get action elsewhere!”

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once a week was great for me, 1 kid, 41 yrs. That's enough time for my energy to build up and have multiple orgasms. However DH being an emotionally/borderline physically abusive jerk destroyed my ability to have sex with him.

If he's not your ex husband, it can only mean you have an an open marriage. Because those are your only options.

yay, the MRA is here to remind us that no matter how abusive a man is, if you don’t put out, the marriage IS OPEN.

I also have an emotionally abusive husband. Whatever. If someone else wants to put up with his crap and save me the hassle of getting him off, that’s fine with me. Makes my life easier. Problem is he’s suck a jerk no other woman is interested.

Totally wrong. I am absolutely NOT telling you to put out. If you have an emotionally abusive jerk husband, I definitely would not expect you to have sex with him. Rather, you should divorce him. Why would you stay married to an abusive jerk?

But... but... if you DON'T divorce him, well then I am sorry but you are not entitled to his exclusivity.

I don’t WANT his exclusivity. I’ve told my DH to go ahead and get it elsewhere because cheating wouldn’t be anywhere near the top of the list of terrible things he’s done to me.

I don’t understand you men who put your monogamy up on a pedestal and treat it like it’s some great prize. I don’t want your penis and don’t care where you stick it. Go ahead and open the marriage, god knows I’d also love to get some strange.

It sounds like we are in perfect agreement so why did you respond with an eyeroll instead of just a +1?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once a week was great for me, 1 kid, 41 yrs. That's enough time for my energy to build up and have multiple orgasms. However DH being an emotionally/borderline physically abusive jerk destroyed my ability to have sex with him.

If he's not your ex husband, it can only mean you have an an open marriage. Because those are your only options.

yay, the MRA is here to remind us that no matter how abusive a man is, if you don’t put out, the marriage IS OPEN.

I also have an emotionally abusive husband. Whatever. If someone else wants to put up with his crap and save me the hassle of getting him off, that’s fine with me. Makes my life easier. Problem is he’s suck a jerk no other woman is interested.

Totally wrong. I am absolutely NOT telling you to put out. If you have an emotionally abusive jerk husband, I definitely would not expect you to have sex with him. Rather, you should divorce him. Why would you stay married to an abusive jerk?

But... but... if you DON'T divorce him, well then I am sorry but you are not entitled to his exclusivity.

I don’t WANT his exclusivity. I’ve told my DH to go ahead and get it elsewhere because cheating wouldn’t be anywhere near the top of the list of terrible things he’s done to me.

I don’t understand you men who put your monogamy up on a pedestal and treat it like it’s some great prize. I don’t want your penis and don’t care where you stick it. Go ahead and open the marriage, god knows I’d also love to get some strange.

38 married 6 years. I would love 2ce a week and I think dh would be happy too. But with a toddler, two intense jobs and I’m pregnant it’s just not happening. I’m waiting for second trimester for my libido to rebound. That’s what happened last time. When we do have sex it’s great and we always say we need to do it more but sleep wins right now.

Everday if possible.

We try to do it every other day with period week being the black out; we used to just carry right along through period week but with three children and a washing machine that already works overtime nobody wants to deal with a mess.
There are times where one of us isn’t feeling great or it’s a particularly stressful time at work and we will let it slide but we both get really antsy unless we are getting it on the regular.

47 married, 18 years