Anonymous wrote:2 under 2 kicked my ass. Why don’t you wait until the second is born?

I was so exhausted and our marriage took a huge hit when second was born. We ended up having a third 5 years later.

Yes, omg 2 under 2 almost killed me too and our marriage too looking back.

I posted above, but wanted to add that while it is good to plan, you never know what life will throw at you. My first was the easiest sweetest baby and I honestly thought that I might be the best mother ever for creating and raising such an angel. I could not understand why new mothers are always complaining.

Fast forward the birth to my twins. One of them came out of the womb angry and with a mind of his own. I am not kidding - from birth he was just . . . difficult. I often wonder if I had had him as my first or as a singleton second, whether we would have stopped. He is exhausting, but lovable. Apparently I'm not the best mother ever.