Anonymous
Post 02/11/2019 16:43     Subject: Can an affair ever end well?
Define end well? I was done with a capital D with my marriage. My ex didn’t treat me well and my AP was not the man of my dreams, and I never loved him, but I always liked and admired him a ton. He was the man I needed at that moment. That affair gave me the boost of courage I needed to get out. To know that I could do it and that there was life beyond being beaten down emotionally every day. It was short, and it’s over now. My AP and I are the only ones that know. We’re still friends. He’s still married. I don’t pine for him. I’m divorced now and I see my AP and I think how I could never be with him, but how grateful I am for what he was to me.

I have an amazing boyfriend now, and things are so great in my life. I’m great, my kids are great. Even my ex is better. So, it goes back to, how do you define end well?
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2019 16:24     Subject: Re:Can an affair ever end well?
It's "discreet" not "discrete"
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 17:28     Subject: Can an affair ever end well?
Anonymous wrote:I mean what if we just want exactly the same thing and nobody finds out? Can it end well?


It sounds like you just want a one night stand. That can end well. An affair usually does not. Its inevitable that someone will catch feeling and then it can become a mess...
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 16:13     Subject: Can an affair ever end well?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I mean what if we just want exactly the same thing and nobody finds out? Can it end well?


No. It stains your soul.


Not if you are emotionally done with the marriage and plan to divorce...


Couples fall in love because they focus on each other and spend energy pursuing one another. As their relationship develops, it is critical that they prioritize one another and protect their relationship from competing demands of work, friends, kids, family, etc.

It is the failure to pursue and prioritize the relationship that begins the sure erosion of passion that couples once felt for each other. When there’s a void caused by a dwindling emotional balance of what’s being invested into the marriage, something or someone will begin to fill that void.

Your decision of an affair will severely damage you in the long run. Unsure if your AP is married but, this cycle will continue when two people who are married have affairs. You must of been a cheater before you married your husband. Hopefully you told your husband who you were as unfaithful but I assume you probably lie anyways.
Seek professional help.


She is selfish and destructive. Hopefully karma will strike her down and the AP. The kids will pay for the mother's actions. The husband should know that this female is worthless and move on.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 15:05     Subject: Can an affair ever end well?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I mean what if we just want exactly the same thing and nobody finds out? Can it end well?


No. It stains your soul.


Not if you are emotionally done with the marriage and plan to divorce...


Couples fall in love because they focus on each other and spend energy pursuing one another. As their relationship develops, it is critical that they prioritize one another and protect their relationship from competing demands of work, friends, kids, family, etc.

It is the failure to pursue and prioritize the relationship that begins the sure erosion of passion that couples once felt for each other. When there’s a void caused by a dwindling emotional balance of what’s being invested into the marriage, something or someone will begin to fill that void.

Your decision of an affair will severely damage you in the long run. Unsure if your AP is married but, this cycle will continue when two people who are married have affairs. You must of been a cheater before you married your husband. Hopefully you told your husband who you were as unfaithful but I assume you probably lie anyways.
Seek professional help.