Anonymous
01/15/2019 12:51
Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Good, frequent, adventurous sex.
Anonymous
01/15/2019 12:50
Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:My career.
Gave up FT work from 34-42 while we raised 3 kids born in 5 years, chased hers from DC to SF, to Seattle with long trips or short postings (depending on perspective) all over South East Asia and Africa.
Her career exploded and she's now a SME in an extremely desirable filed.
All my opportunities vanished because I was on the sideline. Started out in a whole new field but did so at 44 so probably going nowhere.
It was a bad idea.
+1. I assume you are a man. The work force has no tolerance for men who take time off to raise children. Not much for women either, I know, but even much less for men
Anonymous
01/15/2019 12:40
Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Having a cat. We've been together for 12 years but cat was there before me.
Anonymous
01/15/2019 12:36
Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
My career.
Gave up FT work from 34-42 while we raised 3 kids born in 5 years, chased hers from DC to SF, to Seattle with long trips or short postings (depending on perspective) all over South East Asia and Africa.
Her career exploded and she's now a SME in an extremely desirable filed.
All my opportunities vanished because I was on the sideline. Started out in a whole new field but did so at 44 so probably going nowhere.
It was a bad idea.
Gave up FT work from 34-42 while we raised 3 kids born in 5 years, chased hers from DC to SF, to Seattle with long trips or short postings (depending on perspective) all over South East Asia and Africa.
Her career exploded and she's now a SME in an extremely desirable filed.
All my opportunities vanished because I was on the sideline. Started out in a whole new field but did so at 44 so probably going nowhere.
It was a bad idea.
Anonymous
01/15/2019 12:24
Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
My whole life. I’m a trailing spouse. I have my job (am able to work remotely), but not the career I could have had locally. I stay in touch, but don’t have the friends and family nearby (still stay in touch on phone and email, but it’s not the same). As I WAH, “our” friends are his friends, and I don’t have a lot of opportunity to socialize independently. Aside from tha l I hate the city we are in.
Of course, I did all these things as advertised, thinking it was 2-3 years and a stepping stone. We’re going on 7. Now, with a child, and my own career a shadow of what I could have had, I don’t have the location, support network, or finances to do it on my own.
But yay, I supporters my spouse.
Of course, I did all these things as advertised, thinking it was 2-3 years and a stepping stone. We’re going on 7. Now, with a child, and my own career a shadow of what I could have had, I don’t have the location, support network, or finances to do it on my own.
But yay, I supporters my spouse.
Anonymous
01/15/2019 11:56
Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:about 9 inches, my previous relationship he had something good.
Dh has a -1 inch penis?
Anonymous
01/15/2019 11:39
Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Sex life. It's once a month, unless something comes up during the week she ovulates in which case it's every other month.
Anonymous
01/15/2019 11:35
Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:Living where I don't want to, having couple friends because DH doesn't like to socialize AT ALL. No dinners or parties on the weekends. We either go out to dinner just the 2 of us or I go alone to gatherings.
I get it. DH has one friend who lives a few hours away.
Anonymous
01/15/2019 11:17
Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
We moved to the DC area for his career. We had a sweet little house where we used to live - I still feel pain over selling it. It is not a house that DCUMers would consider a dream house, but it was my sacred space. Oddly, it has appreciated a lot in value and is worth more than our DC house, but what I miss is the beautiful light in the dining room. Anyway - life is compromise!
Anonymous
01/15/2019 11:02
Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
He's messier than I would like, but it's getting better. Other than that, I can't really think of much.
Anonymous
01/15/2019 10:47
Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
my career
a third child. he only wanted 2.
where we live. stuck in DC, thanks to him.
no sex
a third child. he only wanted 2.
where we live. stuck in DC, thanks to him.
no sex
Anonymous
01/15/2019 10:44
Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
about 9 inches, my previous relationship he had something good.
Anonymous
01/15/2019 10:41
Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:Good sex. My DW is my worst lover, but she is my wife.
Why? Why is she so bad and was she always this way?
Anonymous
01/15/2019 09:47
Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Living where I don't want to, having couple friends because DH doesn't like to socialize AT ALL. No dinners or parties on the weekends. We either go out to dinner just the 2 of us or I go alone to gatherings.
Anonymous
01/14/2019 22:17
Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
A clean and tidy house