Anonymous wrote:My husband said to me today youll be nothing without me today I just wanted to leave him there and then to prove I would and will be

Valid bump PP

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, so we are talking divorce. And spouse keeps saying stuff like ‘you would be nothing without me’ and ‘I made you everything you are’. FWIW I met him at 30- after I had 2 graduate degrees and the same (not fancy government) job that I have now.
I am not looking to bash him- just understand. In the context of a divorce, what is the motivating reason for folks to say these types of things? I think if I can understand the reasoning behind the feelings I can diffuse the situation better.
We have a kid- hence why I’m looking to build stability.

Whatever little he did to care and support, he feels you don't value it or him. Show due appreciation as he seems to crave it.

Appreciate him signing the divorce terms paperwork. Gracias.

Anonymous wrote:The OP isn’t here, people. This thread is five years old ffs.

Lol

Who bumped this?

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes it's true. My husband comes from trailer trash but their educated mom saw to it that they all got through college. Nevertheless, most of his nieces and nephews have dropped out of high school and his siblings live in conditions as bad or worse than those in which they grew up. He married up (me).
I pushed him to seek promotions, professional friends and our kids seem to be following our example. He is horrified and embarrassed by his siblings' situation.
I've said something similar during blowouts. In happier times he's acknowledged it's true.

You should really do some work to figure out why you are engaging in such low blows during fights.

Anonymous wrote:Ok, so we are talking divorce. And spouse keeps saying stuff like ‘you would be nothing without me’ and ‘I made you everything you are’. FWIW I met him at 30- after I had 2 graduate degrees and the same (not fancy government) job that I have now.
I am not looking to bash him- just understand. In the context of a divorce, what is the motivating reason for folks to say these types of things? I think if I can understand the reasoning behind the feelings I can diffuse the situation better.
We have a kid- hence why I’m looking to build stability.

Whatever little he did to care and support, he feels you don't value it or him. Show due appreciation as he seems to crave it.

The OP isn’t here, people. This thread is five years old ffs.

I picked you out, I shook you up
And turned you around
Turned you into someone new
Now five years later on you've got the world at your feet
Success has been so easy for you
But don't forget it's me who put you where you are now
And I can put you back down too.
Don't. Don't you want me?
You know I can't believe it when I hear that you won't see me
Don't. Don't you want me?
You know I don't believe you when you say that you don't need me
It's much too late to find
When you think you've changed your mind
You'd better change it back or we will both be sorry

He is hurt and angry. Resents that you are looking forward to a future without him.

It is immature and pathetic. Just tune him out.