Anonymous wrote:Think of it this way: Could you be attracted to a different gender just as a fashion statement? Probably not, huh? So if she says she's bi, she's probably genuinely attracted to women. Whether she continues to act on that attraction, is a different story.

Of course you could. You obviously don't know any impressionable, gullible, naive, easily manipulated teen age girls.

When we lived closer to the city. It seemed lots of kids were gay to please thier parents. Now we have moved farther out and kids correct the teachers when they bring up all the new identities. My daughters teacher got really pissed off when a kid told her. I've only seen boys and girls at school. And even the coexist bumper stickers only have boy and girl sexes on them!

Some people know that they are gay/straight/bi at a young age without any dating. And other people don't figure out their sexuality until they start dating. Since OP's daughter is only 17, she has only been dating for 2 or 3 years at most. So maybe, her daughter is trying to figure herself out.

Or OP's daughter has known that she's bi for many years but only chose to disclose now. I definitely know people who knew that they were bi or gay for many years but didn't tell their parents until they were upper hs students, in college, or even into their mid-20s.

OK since the previous poster used the term lipstick lesbian. What is with hyper feminine high school and college women posting in pictures with their hands all over each other (e.g., hands on each other’s butts)?

DD identifies as pan. We’re accepting. She’s only ever had girlfriends though. I always assumed she’s a lesbian. She says she has had crushes on guys but they’ve never come to fruition. I can’t tell if she’s just not able to get a boyfriend for whatever reason or if she doesn’t want one. I can’t imagine her dating a guy at her age (early high school). Maybe someday she’ll settle down with a man, but really she seems to be the definition of a lipstick lesbian. I’m not sure if that’s PC anymore but there it is.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems to have passed for my daughter. She identified as bi and then gay. She now identifies as straight.

At what ages?

I would like to know too.

Bi - I was informed at the end of 8th grade

Gay - 9th grade

Straight - 11th grade

What is interesting is that some of her friends seem to be a bit put out that she has changed over the years. Apparently, it’s ok to be bi, gay, pan, straight, etc., but it isn’t ok to change your mind.

I've been told that the kids are even less patient when people can't figure out their gender. My DC is very tolerant of transgender peers, but a bit more perplexed by the genderfluid.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems to have passed for my daughter. She identified as bi and then gay. She now identifies as straight.

At what ages?

I would like to know too.

Bi - I was informed at the end of 8th grade

Gay - 9th grade

Straight - 11th grade

What is interesting is that some of her friends seem to be a bit put out that she has changed over the years. Apparently, it’s ok to be bi, gay, pan, straight, etc., but it isn’t ok to change your mind.

Yes. My friend identified as straight in high school, lesbian and / or bi in college, and straight as an adult. Married a man by 25 and has several children.

Another female friend was straight until a bad marriage right after college, then lesbian for about 5 years, them married a man at 29.

Another friend identified as straight in high school, and lesbian in college, stayed lesbian.

Many people go thru some experimentation, it's just that years ago they wouldn't tell anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems to have passed for my daughter. She identified as bi and then gay. She now identifies as straight.

At what ages?

I would like to know too.

Anonymous wrote:How the world has changed. I would have been horrified to have any discussion with my parents as a teen about what I enjoyed having stuck where.

That’s such a crass way of putting it. Our DD at age 14 came out to us as no and then as gay. Sometimes it surprises me that she talks about her lesbianism this much but I feel it’s becuase she wants to feel accepted. It’s unfair to compare how a gay or bi child deals with this vs a child who is straight.

Anonymous wrote:It seems to have passed for my daughter. She identified as bi and then gay. She now identifies as straight.

At what ages?

How the world has changed. I would have been horrified to have any discussion with my parents as a teen about what I enjoyed having stuck where.

It seems to have passed for my daughter. She identified as bi and then gay. She now identifies as straight.

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Anonymous wrote:Your DD is still a teen! How long ago/at what age would you expect her to have come to terms with her sexuality enough to have come out to her parents???

English please?

That comment was perfectly coherent. Sorry you can’t read.

-NP

Didn't OP say her DD came out as bi?

I took it as DD came out as bi because her parents might accept that over being lesbian.

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Anonymous wrote:Your DD is still a teen! How long ago/at what age would you expect her to have come to terms with her sexuality enough to have come out to her parents???

English please?

That comment was perfectly coherent. Sorry you can’t read.

-NP

Didn't OP say her DD came out as bi?