Anonymous
12/19/2018 14:47
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
No
Anonymous
12/19/2018 14:36
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
No OP unless you are fine w/ not ever having sex with him. If you just want a platonic friendship...it would be ok. Don't expect someone who denies being gay or bi can actually change their ways.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 14:32
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No but all that sounds messy and confused and I wouldn’t want that for my life
Life is messy and confusing.
Yes it is but why seek out situations like this one? No thank you.
She didn't seek it out. She didn't post on craigslist "Seeking man previously married to man with numerous other same sex relationships and mysterious trauma."
But now she's here and there's a real live human being who seems nice and normal so far. OP proceed with great caution but there's no reason to not take a tiny step forward.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 14:15
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No but all that sounds messy and confused and I wouldn’t want that for my life
Life is messy and confusing.
Yes it is but why seek out situations like this one? No thank you.
Believe me bad judgement makes life really messy. CHOICES.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 14:14
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
No way
Anonymous
12/19/2018 14:14
Subject: Re:Would you date a man previously married to a man?
Only if he was Freddy Mercury, but he'd be checked and double checked wrapped in Saran Wrap.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 13:47
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
I would give him a chance. I'd explore more with him about why he doesn't identify as bi or queer. Does he feel like you wouldn't give him a chance if he admitted that he was attracted to men? Human sexuality exists on a continuum and actually a lot of people are attracted to both sexes to varying degrees depending on situation, access, needs, and personal development. I'm very open minded and would be willing to see the relationship to a natural conclusion, whatever that ends up being. If you start having a sexual relationship and he seems like he's having a good time, then why not keep seeing him? But he may just be testing himself and so, I'd be prepared for the relationship to take a U-turn just in case. But I say, go for it! Have fun and enjoy this person that seems to click with you.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 13:37
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No but all that sounds messy and confused and I wouldn’t want that for my life
Life is messy and confusing.
Yes it is but why seek out situations like this one? No thank you.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 13:26
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m 28 . I tend to see the best in people, and want to give everyone a chance.I did ask because I wanted genuine advice. We met doing an activity we both love. Have been friendly for awhile before going out. We’ve been out 3 times and he told me this after our last date. He was actually helped out of his marriage by an older gay couple so I don’t think he’d hide being gay. He’s a great guy, but I’m not sure. We both deserve someone sure of us.
You seem like a nice person, OP. I would just take it slow and don’t be put off by some of the over the top negativity here.
Def slow. I think how normal or not normal your own sex life with him ends up being will be a good bellweather on whether or not it could work long term.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 13:22
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
Anonymous wrote:No but all that sounds messy and confused and I wouldn’t want that for my life
Life is messy and confusing.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 13:21
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m 28 . I tend to see the best in people, and want to give everyone a chance.I did ask because I wanted genuine advice. We met doing an activity we both love. Have been friendly for awhile before going out. We’ve been out 3 times and he told me this after our last date. He was actually helped out of his marriage by an older gay couple so I don’t think he’d hide being gay. He’s a great guy, but I’m not sure. We both deserve someone sure of us.
You seem like a nice person, OP. I would just take it slow and don’t be put off by some of the over the top negativity here.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 13:20
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
No but all that sounds messy and confused and I wouldn’t want that for my life
Anonymous
12/19/2018 13:19
Subject: Re:Would you date a man previously married to a man?
Anonymous wrote:Im curious as to why everyone says not to date/marry someone who is bi? I totally understand why OP shouldn't date him if he's gay, but bi? Seems a bit restrictive. Bi does mean that he can fall in love with someone (and stay monogamous) regardless of gender.
+1
It’s a vestige of the stereotype that bisexuals are out of control sexual libertines who can’t be trusted and spread diseases.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 13:12
Subject: Would you date a man previously married to a man?
OP here. I’m 28 . I tend to see the best in people, and want to give everyone a chance.I did ask because I wanted genuine advice. We met doing an activity we both love. Have been friendly for awhile before going out. We’ve been out 3 times and he told me this after our last date. He was actually helped out of his marriage by an older gay couple so I don’t think he’d hide being gay. He’s a great guy, but I’m not sure. We both deserve someone sure of us.
Anonymous
12/19/2018 12:09
Subject: Re:Would you date a man previously married to a man?
Absolutely not.