Anonymous wrote:Why are all the posters assuming that OP is a man? You don’t want to whip out your vitriol for a same sex relationship? How very DCUM.

Anything is possible but statistically most spouses of women are men. It isn’t 50-50. Move on with your scorn now.

If you want to make her life miserable try to convince her to get back with you.

OP sounds just like my father. He did make my mother’s life miserable, but he was the loser in the long run. My mother under extreme monetary constraints caused by his lawsuits started a new business worth a lot now. He lost his kids, wealth, and respect from colleagues. I haven’t talked to my father in nearly ten years and don’t regret it for a second. A man with that much anger doesn’t deserve to be happy.

OP, you will lose everything and will be the biggest loser you know of.

The best revenge is dating/marrying a prettier and nicer woman.

You’re never going to get to that point if you’re obsessing over how to ruin your ex.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Aren't you the ex-wife? Who is this other woman?
Shouldn't be mad at your ex-husband?

Why is your life ruined? Can't you stand up on your own?
You're not really painting a nice picture of yourself, OP.

I read this as OP is a divorcing love-scorned husband, divorcing a soon to be ex-wife that he wants to inflict misery upon as his 4 kids look on in horror.

No read again. It's a woman mad at the "other woman" - more so than mad at her ex who clearly was part of the break up of the marriage.

Op, seriously your best revenge is to live your best life and show them that they didn't destroy you. If you are angry and bitter, they will just laugh at you and your ex will know he did well by getting out of the marriage. If you go on to be happy and fulfilled, you'll come out smelling like roses.

Anonymous wrote:Find a woman who is better than your ex and let her play mom to your kids. That will make her miserable.

+1000, in the long run this is the best revenge.

You are carrying around so much pain and rage in your heart to be feeling so hostile towards your ex.

You need to refocus that energy, Op. Get some therapy, start an exercise program, get involved. Every time you think something bad about your ex, do something positive. Say something nice to your kids. Take a jog around the block. Play fetch with your dog....

The ex is an ex for a reason. They are not your problem anymore. You are free of them. Time to devote some time, love and attention to yourself, Op!

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Anonymous wrote:Why are all the posters assuming that OP is a man? You don’t want to whip out your vitriol for a same sex relationship? How very DCUM.

Learn to read - “her” is right there in the subject line!

You know sometimes people switch genders here because the advice is different right?

Forget switching genders. The PP's point is that OP can be a woman in sex sex marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are all the posters assuming that OP is a man? You don’t want to whip out your vitriol for a same sex relationship? How very DCUM.

Learn to read - “her” is right there in the subject line!

You know sometimes people switch genders here because the advice is different right?

If your ex is so awful why aren't you happy that you're no longer living together? Revenge takes a lot of effort and it's unlikely that your four children would be proud of you. Frankly, your anger may be so great that your kids will be better off living with their mother. That will be her revenge.

Anonymous wrote:Revenge in divorce = spending $100K+ so hopefully you have that kind of money for lawyers...

It will cost way more than that - we paid that amount just to finalize a friendly divorce.

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll- I hope...

Sadly, it probably isn’t.

She DARED to leave. Clearly she wasn’t sufficiently grateful for the privilege of being married to OP. This gives him the right to try to destroy her —at any costs, including the kids. She must be taught a lesson.

Anonymous wrote:Why are all the posters assuming that OP is a man? You don’t want to whip out your vitriol for a same sex relationship? How very DCUM.

Learn to read - “her” is right there in the subject line!

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Anonymous wrote:You are a toxic, nasty person OP.

I don't think so. This is a sign of coping with loss of marriage. He seems bitter and angry at the moment, which is very natural. I do not believe that women are the victims all the time in divorces because I have seen a lot of women be toxic, nasty and manipulative and benefiting from divorce laws too.

- a happily married for 25+ years DW on her first and last marriage.

Not sure why you are making this into a gender thing. Regardless of whether OP is a man or woman, turning your bitter and nasty feelings into action (by crowdsourcing revenge tactics) is a horrible thing to do.

This is a troll- I hope...