I’ve posted about it before but it’s buying a wedding dress for me even tho they knew my aunts hand sewed one for me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot decide between withholding a payment for a wedding dress that she wanted me to wear for a ceremony in her country (we were broke at the time) or withholding info that my 10 year old came down with Denge fever while on vacation with them.

Whoa - have you ever let your child vacation with them again?

+1

No, and I found by accident 10 years later.

Anonymous wrote:"First you steal my son away, now you won't give me grandchildren! You're so selfish!"

So, among other things that have occurred/been said, I keep my distance.

Do we have the same MIL? I know that is impossible as my DH is an only child, but the words are almost verbatim.

Anonymous wrote:Emotionally and physically abused DH.

Constantly ask to borrow money that they never pay back and just generally use DH’s love to exploit him.

So continuing to be in our lives is the worst thing they have done to me.

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Same here. It sucks. IL's use DH too. I want to tell them all that I know the truth about his upbringing, and that they are terrible people, and how dare they judge me, considering. They fool no one. They have tried to treat me the way they treat him, but they know better now. PP here.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My H told them (after 2 years of therapy) he was raped by his older cousin from 5-11 and added he would not come to holidays if he was attending.

His parents invited us to a Xmas eve dinner and after a 2 hour drive on Xmas eve with our children, when we arrived "the family" approached us at the door and said "family is family" and the rapist was coming and we needed to get over it.

We left and I have never and will never speak to them EVER again.

Today my MIL will spend Thanksgiving with her son's rapist and all his apologists.

They make me sick to think of them ALL.

I'm so very sorry. That is horrible. I am glad that you and DH are strong enough to bar them from your life. They all deserve to rot in hell.

+1.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot decide between withholding a payment for a wedding dress that she wanted me to wear for a ceremony in her country (we were broke at the time) or withholding info that my 10 year old came down with Denge fever while on vacation with them.

Whoa - have you ever let your child vacation with them again?

+1

MIL's favorite topic is her ailments, and often her extended family's ailments, and her friends, too. One day during a flu epidemic, I (very pregnant) was asking about where I could get a flu shot, since I was new to the area, and my OBGYN and GP were out of shots. It was recommended that pregnant women definitely get the shot, if at all possible, and were given priority.

MIL went on about how she got her flu shot that morning. I asked if she could tell me where and she flat out refused; as if to say that she was more important than me or her unborn grandchild.

When the baby arrived, we were two weeks without power or fresh water. First it was a storm (the town water was contaminated from the power outage), then a transformer blew. All of the meals and food I had prepared went bad, and DH refused to toss anything. No food and no water, recovering from surgery (c section) and with a newborn. Nearby MIL had plenty of room in her big house, with electricity and water - but her heart, as usual, was no where to be found. The hotels in the area were sold out completely.

When she did come over to visit, she would announce (unsolicited) that she was "here to see the baby, not you!" I was nursing a newborn, and I was not going anywhere.

It was a bunch of really snotty things over the years that made me see her true colors - selfish, self centered, and just rotten. Not so much "the worse things that MIL ever did to me", but that she is simply a bad person, in general.

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Anonymous wrote:My H told them (after 2 years of therapy) he was raped by his older cousin from 5-11 and added he would not come to holidays if he was attending.

His parents invited us to a Xmas eve dinner and after a 2 hour drive on Xmas eve with our children, when we arrived "the family" approached us at the door and said "family is family" and the rapist was coming and we needed to get over it.

We left and I have never and will never speak to them EVER again.

Today my MIL will spend Thanksgiving with her son's rapist and all his apologists.

They make me sick to think of them ALL.

I'm so very sorry. That is horrible. I am glad that you and DH are strong enough to bar them from your life. They all deserve to rot in hell.

+1.

Anonymous wrote:I cannot decide between withholding a payment for a wedding dress that she wanted me to wear for a ceremony in her country (we were broke at the time) or withholding info that my 10 year old came down with Denge fever while on vacation with them.

Whoa - have you ever let your child vacation with them again?

Anonymous wrote:And do you have a relationship with them?

They haven't done anything horrible. They're more just good at playing the victim. MIL is always trying to get us to pay for things that they can afford, by claiming poverty.

We see them a couple times a year (they live 2,000 miles away).

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Anonymous wrote:I used to drive my kids halfway in the summer so they could visit their grandparents. We’d meet at a busy shopping district and they’d take them out for the day. Everyone loved it. Then one day, when we couldn’t make it, my MIL told my DH that I kept the kids from her, and that these meetings never took place.

She never apologized, never admitted the truth, and I never again take the kids to her.

I remember your other thread. You still standing your ground?

Absolutely! Lately they have started complaining about the gas they use to visit, the miles on their car, the time, the awful drive home. Hinting; pulling on my heartstrings slightly. But no apology. DH still stands by me and this is now our new normal, but we are in such a better place of mutual respect because of it. It’s working for our relationship.

I couldn’t have done it without you guys.

Lol
It’s probably not the most horrible thing per se but my MIL still don’t remember my last name, and I didn’t take my DH last name. She also still ignores the fact that I am Jewish, both FIL and MIL repeatedly said that I am not since I don’t practice Judaism.

Anonymous wrote:I used to drive my kids halfway in the summer so they could visit their grandparents. We’d meet at a busy shopping district and they’d take them out for the day. Everyone loved it. Then one day, when we couldn’t make it, my MIL told my DH that I kept the kids from her, and that these meetings never took place.

She never apologized, never admitted the truth, and I never again take the kids to her.

I remember your other thread. You still standing your ground?

MIL and SILs laugh at me and talk behind my back about how I’m too uptight and frumpy.
I have a successful career & a good sex life with DH and IDGAF.

I used to drive my kids halfway in the summer so they could visit their grandparents. We’d meet at a busy shopping district and they’d take them out for the day. Everyone loved it. Then one day, when we couldn’t make it, my MIL told my DH that I kept the kids from her, and that these meetings never took place.

She never apologized, never admitted the truth, and I never again take the kids to her.