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Anonymous wrote:My teen babysitter who does not drive has been babysitting more. I always get her to her jobs, but expect the family who is babysitting to drive her home. One family always seems to expect me to pick her up at the end of the night. I would understand if they ask on occasion if one parent is out of town and the other comes home and does not want to leave young kids alone late at night, but generally if both parents are there shouldn't one of them drive my daughter home?

I've never even thought to have the parents of the sitter pick their kid up.

I, thremom ALWAYS drive home female teen sitters. We also use male sitters and for that it is whomever has not been drinking. My DH won't even take a closed door meeting with a female one on one at work, so there is no way he will ever put himself alone with a teen girl in a car.

Your DH won’t have a meeting with a woman at work unless the door is open? That is extremely unprofessional, and if he has any amount of power could be discrimination/harassment.

I'm a man and have 800 people under me in the org chart. An accusation was found to be false for harrassment on a fellow colleague. This was devastating and traumatic for him and his family. Luckily the claim was dismissed. Along with the blessing and guidance of HR and legal myself and a few other men have implemented this policy. It leaves no room for interpretation or opportunity for a career ending false accusation.

This is the climate we live in. A man in guilty in the court of public opinion without even the facts being presented. Until this changes, I'm not putting myself in any situation that could be her word against mine because there will ne no situation where I'm alone with an opportunist who can destroy my career with words.

Anonymous wrote:Wow. This is the paranoid generation.


Rightfully so.

Turn on the news once in awhile


NO. Just because you hear about things does not mean they happen all the time. Just because news is more easily spread, does not mean bad things happen all the time. You do realize your child has a greater chance of getting injured or dying in a car accident, then being assaulted abused Etc by the dad of a kid she just babysat?

You are raising an entire generation of children to be afraid of life. Be aware, yes. Be careful, yes. Be smart, yes. Be paranoid of every member of the opposite sex? Hell no!

Not all dads are creeps, not all women make false accusations, but both can and do happen. Smart men (I'm speaking as a dad) dont put themselves in situations alone with young girls. As a matter of face youth coaching rules even prohibit it. This is also becoming common in my workplace that many men won't take a closed door meeting alone with a female colleague. It is not a big deal and an easy insurance policy.

I, a mother, always drive our sitter home. Never DH. If she can’t easily get here, I will go pick her up.

I babysat a lot as a kid (starting at age 13). One of my parents would drop me off and it was *always* the dad who drove me home afterwards. I never had any kind of remotely uncomfortable moment with them - it was slightly awkward but nothing at all inappropriate or did I ever feel nervous. That being said, we've never hired a sitter who needed to be driven home. We've always hired sitters who could get themselves home by either driving themselves or lived close enough to walk home. My oldest is now old enough to babysit and she only sits for families within walking distance (until she can drive herself).

I don't hire sitters who aren't old enough to drive and don't have their own cars to get themselves there and home. It's just not worth it to me--I'd rather pay more for someone who is more independent.

I woukd assume that most people getting a sitter at night had a drink or two. Just go pick her up. It is probably safer all around.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My teen babysitter who does not drive has been babysitting more. I always get her to her jobs, but expect the family who is babysitting to drive her home. One family always seems to expect me to pick her up at the end of the night. I would understand if they ask on occasion if one parent is out of town and the other comes home and does not want to leave young kids alone late at night, but generally if both parents are there shouldn't one of them drive my daughter home?

I've never even thought to have the parents of the sitter pick their kid up.

I, thremom ALWAYS drive home female teen sitters. We also use male sitters and for that it is whomever has not been drinking. My DH won't even take a closed door meeting with a female one on one at work, so there is no way he will ever put himself alone with a teen girl in a car.

Your DH won’t have a meeting with a woman at work unless the door is open? That is extremely unprofessional, and if he has any amount of power could be discrimination/harassment.

Men are damned if they do, or damned if they don't.

You mean damned if they do sexually harass someone, and damned if they don’t treat women the same as men? If so, then yes, that’s true.

I assume you did not mean to suggest that those are the same things.

If you tell my kid to take an uber, you'll have to find a new babysitter. My teens don't uber, and I certainly wouldn't permit it late at night alone.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are these sitters you are hiring that are babysitting at night? I wouldn't hire anyone younger than 16 or so to babysit at night. They need to be able to drive themselves to/from babysitting.

I was 13 and babysitting until 12:30 or later sometimes. I remember walking in circles in the living room because I was so tired and scared I'd fall asleep. The dad always drove me home.

Me too but that was a good 30 years ago. My sitter who babysits late at night will be at least 16 or 17 and can drive.

But, does she have a car. Can drive and having a car are two different issues?

Anonymous wrote:I would drive my daughter, simply because when I was a teenager I hated it when the dads would drive me home.

But your daughter is not you. She is her own person. Did you hate having a dad drive you home because he was touching your leg inappropriately, or because you're a tightly-wound paranoid person?

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Anonymous wrote:How old are these sitters you are hiring that are babysitting at night? I wouldn't hire anyone younger than 16 or so to babysit at night. They need to be able to drive themselves to/from babysitting.

I was 13 and babysitting until 12:30 or later sometimes. I remember walking in circles in the living room because I was so tired and scared I'd fall asleep. The dad always drove me home.

Me too but that was a good 30 years ago. My sitter who babysits late at night will be at least 16 or 17 and can drive.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are these sitters you are hiring that are babysitting at night? I wouldn't hire anyone younger than 16 or so to babysit at night. They need to be able to drive themselves to/from babysitting.

I was 13 and babysitting until 12:30 or later sometimes. I remember walking in circles in the living room because I was so tired and scared I'd fall asleep. The dad always drove me home.

I remember this too. Never had an issue with one of the Dad's driving me home. I only recall one family not driving me home and I had to walk alone and I never sat for them again as I was freaked out at 13 to walk home alone in the dark at that hour and I didn't have a good way to call my parents who would come get me (nor did they want me walking alone).

I would drive my daughter, simply because when I was a teenager I hated it when the dads would drive me home.

This is an odd dynamic. They are responsible for your kids. Suddenly you come home and now you are responsible for them? I see it as a courtesy but honestly, this is part of why I think it's worth the extra $2 per hour for someone a little older/has own transportation

If I need a babysitter then I’m not leaving my kids alone to drive your child home.

My babysitters all use Uber both ways.