Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should call and ask to up the dose and if you aren't in family therapy, start. You have a lot to manage and professional help is needed and can help. Things will improve but it may take awhile. I would also talk to the doctor about sleep aids.

Not sure if you've seen this: https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/cant-sleep-cycle-of-exhaustion/

They have several articles on sleep.

Anonymous wrote:Excellent book:
"Punished by Rewards"

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Anonymous wrote:We set the iPad with a code that only I have and he completely disabled it from trying it too many times. Long story but it took me a couple months to get it working again.

You could lock the iPad in an actual safe. Believe it or not, that's where we have to keep the chocolate.

Anonymous wrote:We set the iPad with a code that only I have and he completely disabled it from trying it too many times. Long story but it took me a couple months to get it working again.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am at a loss as to how to discipline him effectively for this because it is literally constant. I mean constant. Multiple issues a day. He's just spiraled out of control this past month. We sit him down and give him a serious talk and then 5 minutes later he's sneaking his ipad and hiding it under his pillow. We locked confiscated toys in the garage, and he woke up at 7am, found the keys, and opened a heavy metal garage door to get his toys while we were asleep.

Talking doesn't work. You need a behavioral system with clear rules and rewards for good behavior. Write down the rules in a prominent place. If he is good for the day, he gets a reasonable amount of time on the iPad at night. If a few mistakes, he loses iPad time. We use up to 30 minutes. You can set up the iPad with a pin code that only you have.

For some things, like not obey instructions, you can use the system in the book "1,2,3, Magic."

That's a pretty basic system. If you need something more than that, you should see a behavioral psychologist.

We have a positive rewards system.
We have been working with a psychologist that specializes in CBT.
We are familiar with 123 magic, love and logic, how to talk to kids etc
We’ve done it all.
I appreciate where you’re coming from. It’s just not that easy.

I know it isn't. It's a constant struggle for us too, but we've made some progress. Maybe you need to try a different system?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am at a loss as to how to discipline him effectively for this because it is literally constant. I mean constant. Multiple issues a day. He's just spiraled out of control this past month. We sit him down and give him a serious talk and then 5 minutes later he's sneaking his ipad and hiding it under his pillow. We locked confiscated toys in the garage, and he woke up at 7am, found the keys, and opened a heavy metal garage door to get his toys while we were asleep.

Talking doesn't work. You need a behavioral system with clear rules and rewards for good behavior. Write down the rules in a prominent place. If he is good for the day, he gets a reasonable amount of time on the iPad at night. If a few mistakes, he loses iPad time. We use up to 30 minutes. You can set up the iPad with a pin code that only you have.

For some things, like not obey instructions, you can use the system in the book "1,2,3, Magic."

That's a pretty basic system. If you need something more than that, you should see a behavioral psychologist.

We have a positive rewards system.
We have been working with a psychologist that specializes in CBT.
We are familiar with 123 magic, love and logic, how to talk to kids etc
We’ve done it all.
I appreciate where you’re coming from. It’s just not that easy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am at a loss as to how to discipline him effectively for this because it is literally constant. I mean constant. Multiple issues a day. He's just spiraled out of control this past month. We sit him down and give him a serious talk and then 5 minutes later he's sneaking his ipad and hiding it under his pillow. We locked confiscated toys in the garage, and he woke up at 7am, found the keys, and opened a heavy metal garage door to get his toys while we were asleep.

Talking doesn't work. You need a behavioral system with clear rules and rewards for good behavior. Write down the rules in a prominent place. If he is good for the day, he gets a reasonable amount of time on the iPad at night. If a few mistakes, he loses iPad time. We use up to 30 minutes. You can set up the iPad with a pin code that only you have.

For some things, like not obey instructions, you can use the system in the book "1,2,3, Magic."

That's a pretty basic system. If you need something more than that, you should see a behavioral psychologist.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks about the info about genetic mapping.

To answer the PP -- it's not going great. The psychiatrist started us on a low dose initially to be cautious (which I agree with) but it doesn't seem to be working. Our child is seriously out of control. More lying, stealing, hitting, aggressive behavior... he is such a sweet kid but zero impulse control. I could tell you about 7 stories from this past week alone that would make you go hmmm WTF?? One day I had three different people calling me with issues -- two from the school and one a relative who realized he had stolen something from her house. I was like take a number! Believe me I was not joking about this to him -- I'm just letting off steam.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am at a loss as to how to discipline him effectively for this because it is literally constant. I mean constant. Multiple issues a day. He's just spiraled out of control this past month. We sit him down and give him a serious talk and then 5 minutes later he's sneaking his ipad and hiding it under his pillow. We locked confiscated toys in the garage, and he woke up at 7am, found the keys, and opened a heavy metal garage door to get his toys while we were asleep.