Anonymous
Post 10/11/2018 12:25     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
Anonymous wrote:The ONLY thing that has ever worked for me was jumping straight in and going Keto. I've been on every diet known to man, including 20 years as a weight watchers member, and could never stop the yo-yo.

I remember agreeing to "try" the keto diet for 2 weeks after a friend had great success. In the back of my mind, I could never give up sugar forever. What about pumpkin donuts? What about bread? I couldn't imagine my life never having another bite of pasta.

Fast forward 6 months. I've lost over 50 pounds (190 to 137), went from a tight 14 to a loose 6, I sleep better, my focus is back and my anxiety is gone. I've had a few "cheats" here and there - a few bites of wedding cake, a small portion of pasta when we went to Italy on vacation, and some fancy chocolates one time.

Eating a lot of fat made all the difference for me. When I was doing a calories in/calories out diet, I'd let myself have just "one" oreo and track the calories. But the sugar. It roped me in every time and suddenly that one oreo became the whole sleeve. I am so much more in control now that I simply just don't have those things.

Not saying this is the magic bullet for everyone. But, OP, commit to doing SOMETHING and sticking to it for 2 weeks. Here's what I've found... in 6 months my life has changed dramatically and for the better. I am less snappy with my kids, I don't have to take a nap every weekend day, and I'm truly proud of my effort - stretch marks and loose belly flab and all. I have NO DOUBT that if I'd kept on how I was going I'd easily have been over 200lbs and in bigger clothes. The time is going to pass whether or not you change your lifestyle. Think 98 days til New Years - think how far along your weight loss you could be by then if you start today. You've got this!


NOICE!!! Great job!!!
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2018 21:45     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
For me, when I have to get back in shape, it’s running. No cheating, no fancy equipment, just myself hauling my own body weight around. Start out 1/2 mile, work up to six miles. Pick a time you are the least tired, say, 11am, and, wherever you are, drop everything, strap on cheap tennis shoes and just run. It can be a parking lot, it doesn’t matter.

For me, running actually causes me to eat better, hydrate more, feel better psychologically, and ends the cycle of self pity and crappy foods. So it’s where I start. It literally needs nothing to start (except tennis shoes and socks) is free, and can be done anywhere.

Hope it helps op.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2018 19:08     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
The book called the power of habit was really interesting from a dieters perspective. I don’t recall all the details but it talks about how you can make changes that will becomes habits to overcome the triggers that cause you to break your diet. Some of the tips I found helpful were to start each morning with a plan. When’re down what you are going to eat and when. It’s a lot easier and to get the salad for lunch when you had that planned than waiting until you are starving and then trying to make a choice. It also talked about working to understand what was triggering the activity you want to stop - like maybe a mid-day candy break and how to recognize and overcome the triggers. Really interesting things to think about.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2018 18:49     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
Anonymous wrote:I am so sick of being fat but obviously not enough to actually follow through on a diet. Every morning I am motivated only to fall off the wagon midday. Some days, I am good in the beginning of the weeknbut fail over the weekend.

What are your tips for getting your diet jumpstarted and sticking to it? I want to, no need to lose 40 pounds at least!


Try to find someone to blame.

If you're white, blame Hispanic immigrants.

If you're black, blame whites.

And so on...
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2018 18:31     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
Honestly, there's no substitute for willpower. You have to decide it is important enough to feel hungry and uncomfortable for. This garbage about "diets shouldn't leave you hungry" is a lie that harms your ability to lose weight. Getting smaller is work, it is uncomfortable, and it can be somewhat painful. But you'll get stronger and more able to cope if you push through the initial fight that your body will put up.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2018 10:06     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
OP, you say willpower is your problem so it seems to me restrictive diets won't work for you. What worked for me (lost 40lbs kept off for over 9 years), was calorie counting. I could eat what I wanted, as long as it was under my calorie count. I would suggest for you that you stop going hard immediately, its too much pressure. Start small. Eat what you normally would but only eat half of it. You get the satisfaction but you are eating less. From here on out you don't clear your plate ever again. Take it home or split with your partner or friend. After about two weeks you can then calculate the calories you need then work to come in under that number. You can do this by cutting out the bad stuff and replacing with the good.

Point is, just watch portions and make better choices. Life without eating the things you love isn't much fun. If you want a burger and fries, have it but just eat half the bun and have half the portion of fries. If you're going out to dinner and want to splurge eat super clean for breakfast and lunch. After a while you will learn to become satisfied with much less and you will crave bad foods less. The weight loss won't be fast, but it will last and you will keep your sanity!
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2018 11:13     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A warning about keto—it’s not for everyone! The Pp had great success (congrats!) but google “keto side effects” before you jump in.


+1! What’s you’re cholesterol look like a year down the road???


I had borderline high cholesterol and did all the things my doctor said - no red meat, no eggs, for a year or two and the numbers moved down into normal, but barely.

Then, I added those things back into my diet and cut out processed food - white flour, etc -- and cholesterol is lower than it's ever been.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2018 08:25     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
Anonymous wrote:I am so sick of being fat but obviously not enough to actually follow through on a diet. Every morning I am motivated only to fall off the wagon midday. Some days, I am good in the beginning of the weeknbut fail over the weekend.

What are your tips for getting your diet jumpstarted and sticking to it? I want to, no need to lose 40 pounds at least!


The only thing that worked for me was listening to a podcast about good (not a diet podcast) one episode went into French cuisine and how much they love their pork belly, butter, and cream. However it talked about portion size and eating meals slowly.

I slooooowly lost 40lbs over 1 year eating MORE of the foods I love. Taking the time to cook nice meals and also being happy with simple meals such as bread and cheese for breakfast. My approach to food is that it is for enjoyment, NOT fuel. I do not eat fast food, or processed food. Nor do I eat foods that will fill my belly because it is "healthy".

Keto, Whole 30, intermittent fasting, those are all gimmicks and suck all the joy out of eating and leave you feeling deprived and unsatisfied. People always yo-yo on those fad diets. I eat dairy, wheat, potatoes, butter, fatty meats (because fat is delicious!) I also eat lots of vegetables and hearty salads. However I eat much less of that stuff. I walk away from meals before I am full. If I go out to eat, I make a concious decision to not finish my plate. If a menu item had a calorie count on it (most menu items are 1500 cal or so) I eat a little less than half the meal. I still order the chicken over pasta in a mushroom cream sauce, but eat half and if it's good take away the other half and if the meal hasn't brought me joy, throw it.away.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2018 00:05     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
Do you have money? Hire a trainer for 12 weeks. Game changer.

You don't have to be rich to do it. By the end of 12 weeks your life will be different - I promise.

I (almost) have Michelle Obama arms.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2018 18:49     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
Anonymous wrote:Can we all agree that some things work for some people and others for other people?

Gee. We are all different.


That would be way too reasonable.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2018 17:12     Subject: Re:Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
Another way I maintain will power is to read Diet life style books.

The Beck Diet Solution is great. It’s been out for a decade, and doesn’t focus on one plan. It focuses on willpower and making life changes.

I also like Target 100.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2018 12:18     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
Can we all agree that some things work for some people and others for other people?

Gee. We are all different.
Anonymous
Post 09/26/2018 11:11     Subject: Sick of being fat but man- I have no willpower
Anonymous wrote:
Not denigrating. But a lot of people aren't satiated without healthy fats. They just aren't. I never was. And it took a leap of faith to change my life. I'd be curious to know, PP, if you've ever been obese?


DP here. Thing is though, WW does not exclude healthy fats and never has. Just you have to track them, like all other calorie dense foods. (it also allows sat fats too, BTW). If you need to rely on fats to satiate, and veggies and whole grains don't than WW is probably not for you - but for many people fiber does satiate as much as more than fat. Satiation is pretty individual I think - and the only benefits of the low carb diets (other than those based on questionable claims) are based on satiety. That's why I say, if it works for you, fine, but don't put down other approaches (especially as the science, while contested, leans toward non weight loss benefits of limiting sat fats and meat in general, and I think its hard to do low carb while also limiting those)

And yes, I used to be obese - it was med related, but I only lost a few pounds when going off the meds. I lost the rest (normal BMI now) with a WW approach, and with exercise.