Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it happens, but I've never understood why someone having an affair would frequently bring up the name of the affair partner to their spouse. If I were ever going to have an affair, I doubt I'd ever bring up their name.

(In fact, I'd probably go overboard.
[Wife]: Mentions woman next door.
[Me]: Who? Never heard of her. Someone lives next door?)

Here's the reason. The new person is ON THEIR MIND all the time, and they want to talk about how great their new girlfriend/boyfriend is. It's like any new relationship. BUT ... they person they share it with is their spouse, because they are also quite close to their spouse. Because their spouse is there to talk to. And they neeeeeeed to share. Whoopsie.