Anonymous wrote:I recall that there was a similar threat on DCUrbanMom a year or two ago. Many people said that their worst financial decision was a big expensive wedding. (Some of those people are still happily married, but still cringe at how much the wedding cost.)
Anonymous wrote:Not standing up to DH and his spendy ways -- he scoffs at me as a saver/planner. Early on in our marriage we barely had two nickels to rub together. But there was like $200 left below the limit on our Discover card. He wanted to buy a fish tank and said "let's just use up the available balance for this one last purchase and then we'll focus on paying everything off" and I gave in so he would stop pouting about it. So stupid.
When I met him he relied on the ATM to give him the balance in his account and that was how much he had to spend. No tracking of what checks had been sent or what bills were coming up. What a huge red flag I ignored!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Getting married. Then, doubling down on that by becoming a parent. I haven't saved a dime since and the debt just piles up.
I am in financial despair because I married young( age 23) and never had opportunity to jumpstart a career because we were constantly moving due to DH jobs. He dealt with chronic unemployment and we lived a very unstable life moving to new cities for new opportunities. During a relatively stable period, where DH was thriving at work, we had two kids. Now DH job is on the line again and we have no savings as all our savings got depleted during the periods of unemployment. So marrying him has been a serious problem for me as you can see. Now at age 35, I’m trying to figure out a way to jumpstart a career but I can’t take on school loans or anymore debt. It’s tough. It’s more than tough actually.
Anonymous wrote:I’m 35 and have no retirement savings and DH controls the $$ (I am terrible with money so he took things over and then...yeah) so none going toward my 401(k) right now. We have two kids in daycare and a too-big mortgage for a too-big house.
Basically I regret everything financially.
Anonymous wrote:I recall that there was a similar threat on DCUrbanMom a year or two ago. Many people said that their worst financial decision was a big expensive wedding. (Some of those people are still happily married, but still cringe at how much the wedding cost.)
Anonymous wrote:They need to teach personal finance in schools. I was so ignorant for so long.
Anonymous wrote:Kept my TSP investments in the G fund for the first 2.5 years of my Fed career. Whoops