Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 23:47     Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At our (now former) club, the parent politics, coupled with a toxic coach/age group lead, have driven a number of families from the program. Parent volunteers get preferential team placement, playing time, etc. for their kids. The coaches and parents have also displayed awful behavior in front of the children - getting kicked out of tournaments and games, berating their children (and teammates) etc.

It sucks that our generation of sports parents is screwing up so badly, because sports can be so amazing for kids if handled properly. It's no wonder that childhood anxiety and depression are skyrocketing, and for what? How many of these kids are going to be professional soccer players, or even get a D1/3 scholarship? I will never understand what motivates adults to berate children. It destroys a child's motivation and love for the sport, and damages how a child feels about him/herself.

Keeping fingers crossed that the new team/club is better!


A PP asked if this was U12 at McLean...???


BSC?


I would bet it's McLean U12 boys for sure...


Moreno? Walla?


You must have never met Sona Walla as he is an incredible person and an amazing coach. Why just throw names out that you pick off a website?
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 23:44     Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
For what it’s worth, my kid was on Stoddert B & C teams are the parents were mostly wonderful. I loved spending time with those people, it was honestly one of the highlights of my kids’ childhood in terms of activities.

The A team? No thanks!!! Lots of awfulness & stress there. And frankly most of those kids are either not playing soccer anymore or they are going to play at colleges that you would never want your kid to go to (one ECNL player we know of is going to go play for ‘Fort Lewis College’ - WTF?? It has a 30% graduation rate). Most of the B team kids and the ones not playing soccer anymore are going to pretty incredible colleges.

If you want to hold onto your kids’ childhood maybe nix the high level sports & just take it down a notch.

Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 21:26     Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Yes
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 17:41     Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At our (now former) club, the parent politics, coupled with a toxic coach/age group lead, have driven a number of families from the program. Parent volunteers get preferential team placement, playing time, etc. for their kids. The coaches and parents have also displayed awful behavior in front of the children - getting kicked out of tournaments and games, berating their children (and teammates) etc.

It sucks that our generation of sports parents is screwing up so badly, because sports can be so amazing for kids if handled properly. It's no wonder that childhood anxiety and depression are skyrocketing, and for what? How many of these kids are going to be professional soccer players, or even get a D1/3 scholarship? I will never understand what motivates adults to berate children. It destroys a child's motivation and love for the sport, and damages how a child feels about him/herself.

Keeping fingers crossed that the new team/club is better!


A PP asked if this was U12 at McLean...???


BSC?


I would bet it's McLean U12 boys for sure...


Moreno? Walla?


sounds like mys U12 girls age group this past year
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 14:52     Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:we haven't switched yet but thinking about it for U13, our club is only in NCSL so I *think* we will want to move to a club that is in the more competitive leagues.


You must be first place in the top division at NCSL now? Those teams are generally better than CCL and VPL. or are you talking about ECNL/DA?


No, my DD is still U11 so we shall see what happens in a couple of years. This just out thinking right now.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 14:35     Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Everyone seems to have toxic experiences but no one is saying the names of their clubs! How can we avoid them if you won't name the name?!

Potomac toxic?? Bad parents??


Toxic parents are all over youth sports. They are pretty much impossible to avoid, especially when more $$ is involved and kid’s age up.

I used to think it was soccer, but soon learned from friends in travel baseball, softball, flag football, hockey, competitive dance, etc. that they are everywhere.

Definitely why veteran parents sit by themselves at games.

There are a certain type that make my skin crawl whenever they are near.

You aren’t going to be able to avoid them wherever you go, but as a general rule -the lower the team the less douchebag parents.


very true! you really can't paint a broad brush to avoid this club or that club - they all have good and bad. And parents... my goodness.... good and bad in all the sports at all the clubs.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 10:26     Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At our (now former) club, the parent politics, coupled with a toxic coach/age group lead, have driven a number of families from the program. Parent volunteers get preferential team placement, playing time, etc. for their kids. The coaches and parents have also displayed awful behavior in front of the children - getting kicked out of tournaments and games, berating their children (and teammates) etc.

It sucks that our generation of sports parents is screwing up so badly, because sports can be so amazing for kids if handled properly. It's no wonder that childhood anxiety and depression are skyrocketing, and for what? How many of these kids are going to be professional soccer players, or even get a D1/3 scholarship? I will never understand what motivates adults to berate children. It destroys a child's motivation and love for the sport, and damages how a child feels about him/herself.

Keeping fingers crossed that the new team/club is better!


A PP asked if this was U12 at McLean...???


BSC?


I would bet it's McLean U12 boys for sure...


Moreno? Walla?
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 10:11     Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:we haven't switched yet but thinking about it for U13, our club is only in NCSL so I *think* we will want to move to a club that is in the more competitive leagues.


You must be first place in the top division at NCSL now? Those teams are generally better than CCL and VPL. or are you talking about ECNL/DA?
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 10:07     Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:Two of the categories on my U10's evaluation were:

physical strength and heading.

Heading (weak). I had tears coming out of my eyes. They aren't allowed to head at U10 and the time my kid did the other team got a free kick.

Physical strength. His teammate's dad joked that his 9-year old son wanted to put protein powder in his milk after the eval.

This was at one of the big Clubs with DA, mind you.

We pay thousands of dollars for this crap.


WOW. Please please 'out' this club. That is beyond pathetic. I think I would actually ask for my money back.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 10:06     Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At our (now former) club, the parent politics, coupled with a toxic coach/age group lead, have driven a number of families from the program. Parent volunteers get preferential team placement, playing time, etc. for their kids. The coaches and parents have also displayed awful behavior in front of the children - getting kicked out of tournaments and games, berating their children (and teammates) etc.

It sucks that our generation of sports parents is screwing up so badly, because sports can be so amazing for kids if handled properly. It's no wonder that childhood anxiety and depression are skyrocketing, and for what? How many of these kids are going to be professional soccer players, or even get a D1/3 scholarship? I will never understand what motivates adults to berate children. It destroys a child's motivation and love for the sport, and damages how a child feels about him/herself.

Keeping fingers crossed that the new team/club is better!


A PP asked if this was U12 at McLean...???


BSC?


I would bet it's McLean U12 boys for sure...
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 10:03     Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Two of the categories on my U10's evaluation were:

physical strength and heading.

Heading (weak). I had tears coming out of my eyes. They aren't allowed to head at U10 and the time my kid did the other team got a free kick.

Physical strength. His teammate's dad joked that his 9-year old son wanted to put protein powder in his milk after the eval.

This was at one of the big Clubs with DA, mind you.

We pay thousands of dollars for this crap.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 08:27     Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Family convenience. Spread too thin now.

They can practice at same field, over-lapping practice times/same day next year. Priceless.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 07:22     Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At our (now former) club, the parent politics, coupled with a toxic coach/age group lead, have driven a number of families from the program. Parent volunteers get preferential team placement, playing time, etc. for their kids. The coaches and parents have also displayed awful behavior in front of the children - getting kicked out of tournaments and games, berating their children (and teammates) etc.

It sucks that our generation of sports parents is screwing up so badly, because sports can be so amazing for kids if handled properly. It's no wonder that childhood anxiety and depression are skyrocketing, and for what? How many of these kids are going to be professional soccer players, or even get a D1/3 scholarship? I will never understand what motivates adults to berate children. It destroys a child's motivation and love for the sport, and damages how a child feels about him/herself.

Keeping fingers crossed that the new team/club is better!


A PP asked if this was U12 at McLean...???


BSC?
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 06:47     Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:All of this complaining and grief but no one bothers to say which clubs. Can't take you seriously if you can't name the club.


LOL ok. don't take anyone seriously





Anonymous
Post 05/23/2018 05:04     Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
All of this complaining and grief but no one bothers to say which clubs. Can't take you seriously if you can't name the club.