It's good that you found out OP. The phone is a logical consequence - also firmly letting the other parent know that you find this behavior unacceptable and that your daughter will receive consequences.

I don't think it should be minimized- it's bullying behavior and harassment, but I think your DD can learn from it with the right consequences and discussions of empathetic behavior.

I know you're disappointed, but it's an opportunity for everyone to learn. I would focus on that.

Didn't read all the PPs but your DD is having sex. The same goes with drugs. Kids who are doing/using are trying to rope others into it. Makes them feel less guilty, because "everyone's doing it"

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:According to my daughter the girl had made a public Snapchat about losing her virginity next weeked and was loving the attention the post got but then started to have second thoughts and people started pressuring her not to back out. My DD and this other girl were good but not great friends with this girl and joined in saying things like “don’t back out now or everyone is going to think you just did for attention.” I think my DD and the other girl were also enjoying the attention this situation brought and they went way to far with it all. I will absolutely make her personally apologize to this girl. I’m so disappointed in my DD, she’s always been kind, compassionate and very level headed until this horrible incident.
-op

No. You are now just finding out who your kid really is. This isn’t a minor issue like teasing someone about the shirt they are wearing.

I have to agree with PP. This is also who your daughter is. She might be kind, compassionate etc but clearly she is willing to make other people uncomfortable to hog the limelight. Both can be true and it is your job to make sure she makes the choices to become the person she and you want her to become. This doesn’t mean she is irredeemable, wicked, mean girl for life or anything like that but neither should you look at it as some sort of aberration or “kids do stupid shit”. Some kids would never have done what your daughter did (even though they might do other questionable things). Now both of you know and it’s time to work on her with eyes wide open.