Anonymous wrote:

If my son marries a woman and they get divorced, I do not want the money I WORKED HARD FOR to go to her. Understand?

Hey dummy, if your son gets money from you, you’re done having a decision in it. Go die. Your part in the circle of life is complete.

Anonymous wrote:Our children did not do prenups but our estate planning set up trusts that would not be part of marital property. We have also set up 529's for our grandchildren that would not be part of marital property. Prenups are very good if someone enters a marriage with a lot of assets in their own names. Our kids had very few assets when they got married.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children did not do prenups but our estate planning set up trusts that would not be part of marital property. We have also set up 529's for our grandchildren that would not be part of marital property. Prenups are very good if someone enters a marriage with a lot of assets in their own names. Our kids had very few assets when they got married.

You people are all awful. You raised your children to be spoiled, entitled spouses who believe what's theirs is theirs, period. Why on earth would you not want your children to be fair, generous partners with the people they are supposed to love? If you actually did your job raising good, loving, responsible adults, then you wouldn't have to worry about what happens to their money. Do you have any idea what kind of relationships you have set them up for instead? I do, it's awful. I did come into my relationship with no assets. My spouse took control of his trust fund 10 years ago. He quit his job a few years later and now we live off of only my salary, leaving me to save nothing, while his trust fund sits there getting larger and larger every year. He refuses to use any of it on decent things for me or our children. The resentment all of this has caused between us is shattering to me, but for the sake of my kids, I have stayed and pushed it down. I will only do so until they are out of the house. After that, he will become a very lonely man and I am sure that neither I nor his kids will have anything to do with him or his parents. That's what people like you do to your children and their families.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. Your brother basically was planning for the marriage to fail and it did. What a surprise.

My IL’s demanded I sign a prenup. I said NO. They said the6 weren’t coming to the wedding.

We have been married 20 year and all the prenup issues did was alienate my in laws from us and our kids.
I moved away from them as soon as I could.
I am in it for the long haul.

1. You must be a woman.
2. You must be stupid.

A prenup has nothing to do with the marriage. It has to do with the man's family. If my son marries a woman and they get divorced, I do not want the money I WORKED HARD FOR to go to her. Understand?

Oh you are very pathetic! Also the type to alienate your family.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children did not do prenups but our estate planning set up trusts that would not be part of marital property. We have also set up 529's for our grandchildren that would not be part of marital property. Prenups are very good if someone enters a marriage with a lot of assets in their own names. Our kids had very few assets when they got married.

You people are all awful. You raised your children to be spoiled, entitled spouses who believe what's theirs is theirs, period. Why on earth would you not want your children to be fair, generous partners with the people they are supposed to love? If you actually did your job raising good, loving, responsible adults, then you wouldn't have to worry about what happens to their money. Do you have any idea what kind of relationships you have set them up for instead? I do, it's awful. I did come into my relationship with no assets. My spouse took control of his trust fund 10 years ago. He quit his job a few years later and now we live off of only my salary, leaving me to save nothing, while his trust fund sits there getting larger and larger every year. He refuses to use any of it on decent things for me or our children. The resentment all of this has caused between us is shattering to me, but for the sake of my kids, I have stayed and pushed it down. I will only do so until they are out of the house. After that, he will become a very lonely man and I am sure that neither I nor his kids will have anything to do with him or his parents. That's what people like you do to your children and their families.

Anonymous wrote:Our children did not do prenups but our estate planning set up trusts that would not be part of marital property. We have also set up 529's for our grandchildren that would not be part of marital property. Prenups are very good if someone enters a marriage with a lot of assets in their own names. Our kids had very few assets when they got married.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. Your brother basically was planning for the marriage to fail and it did. What a surprise.

My IL’s demanded I sign a prenup. I said NO. They said the6 weren’t coming to the wedding.

We have been married 20 year and all the prenup issues did was alienate my in laws from us and our kids.
I moved away from them as soon as I could.
I am in it for the long haul.

1. You must be a woman.
2. You must be stupid.

A prenup has nothing to do with the marriage. It has to do with the man's family. If my son marries a woman and they get divorced, I do not want the money I WORKED HARD FOR to go to her. Understand?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They cry all the time that we don't see them and they wish they were more a part of the children's lives.

NP. From what you've written on this thread, and maybe it's just how you're phrasing things, you don't seem like a very kind person. It's been 20 years and you're still holding a grudge against the people who raised your DH? To the point where you keep their grandchildren from them? What lessons do you think your kids are absorbing from all of that? I suspect it's not "don't sign a prenup."

They made our engagement hell. We at one point went to vegas to elope. Though we didn't go through with eloping. They would lie and tell DH and me to come over so they can apologize, so we would come and then there was no apology--only them talking about a prenup. They are very controlling. The best thing we ever did for our marriage was move away. I was bitte for a long time. I don't think I am anymore.

Also, I watched DH's brother get married shortly after and there was no mention of a prenup. Of course I took that personally. Funny thing is, they divorced soon after. My ILs bet on the wrong horse.

If my son marries a woman and they get divorced, I do not want the money I WORKED HARD FOR to go to her. Understand?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. Your brother basically was planning for the marriage to fail and it did. What a surprise.

My IL’s demanded I sign a prenup. I said NO. They said the6 weren’t coming to the wedding.

We have been married 20 year and all the prenup issues did was alienate my in laws from us and our kids.
I moved away from them as soon as I could.
I am in it for the long haul.

1. You must be a woman.
2. You must be stupid.

A prenup has nothing to do with the marriage. It has to do with the man's family. If my son marries a woman and they get divorced, I do not want the money I WORKED HARD FOR to go to her. Understand?