Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, posted a number of months ago. Based on that advice, we moved a litter box into our bathroom, tried various litters, lots of Feliway. So we are several months in on this arrangement and it's just not working. Husband is still extremely unhappy and at this point I can't take it anymore either.

We had a contractor look at our home today and had to walk past the master bedroom, and I realized I had to open all the windows to vent out the cat waste stink before I could let him come through. It's just gross.

As a bonus the cat howls half the night. And randomly during the daytime. Maybe she's trying to tell me something and I'm just not getting it.

I thought so. OP, go back and read your original post and the pages upon pages of advice and input you received. Then reread this newer post you put up and the pages and pages of advice you have received. There are no differences, right? You need to make a decision and follow through rather than keep posting the same thing here because you will only continue to receive the same advice.

Between the two threads you’ve mentioned a few things about your pet that will lead the majority of people on this board to press you to keep your cat: the cat is generally happy and sweet; you’ve owned the cat for 16 years and she was your family before you had a husband or kids; she is in great health and not in pain; your husband is resentful about the cat and unhelpful with the situation; you introduced a rambunctious dog to your family when your ‘only child’ cat was already a senior animal who had never been around a dog and the dog terrorizes the cat so much she is afraid to leave your room. With this back story you will have a hard time getting a lot of support in favor of euthanizing. In general, with a pet that is elderly, sweet and loving, and physically fit and not in pain, the vast majority of pet owners would also choose not to kill. It’s not an easy situation (I understand how frustrating and difficult it is to live in your situation), but I also believe this situation was created by you (eg, the dog, unsupportive family). It is within your control to help your cat; it’s behavioral for you both. If you’ve had enough then you know what your choice will be (and it is very clear from your posts that you favor putting her down). Just do it. But please never ever get another pet.

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Anonymous wrote:You people or anthropomorphizing pets. Try the kitty Prozac and if that doesn’t work then it’s OK. The cat doesn’t sound happy anyway and probably isn’t having fun living with these neuroses.

I agree with this course of action. Drugs first, and if those fail, euthanize.

Sounds horrible, OP. I have a cat I’m not particularly fond of (personality change after kids) and definitely empathize.

Jesus, but you don't just KILL it because it no longer suits your lifestyle!

My cat isn’t anything like OP’s. Nighttime howling, random attacks, and he went through a period of peeing on our stairs, but OP’s Case is extreme. You needent be so flippant; she clearly isn’t being so.

NP. It's not the cat's fault you had a personality change after kids.

It's not the PP's fault that you're dumber than a box of rocks.

OP, I have been there with an elderly incontinent cat. I actually considered cat diapers. In the end his health nosedived and we euthanized him, so unfortunately I can’t tell you if cat diapers are worse than what you already have. Hugs for you and kitty.

Op you have done more than enough. It is a cat. It has little quality of life. We have dominion over animals. It is your call to make without guilt.

Ignore the nut jobs. But don't get another cat. They aren't worth it.

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Anonymous wrote:You people or anthropomorphizing pets. Try the kitty Prozac and if that doesn’t work then it’s OK. The cat doesn’t sound happy anyway and probably isn’t having fun living with these neuroses.

I agree with this course of action. Drugs first, and if those fail, euthanize.

Sounds horrible, OP. I have a cat I’m not particularly fond of (personality change after kids) and definitely empathize.

Jesus, but you don't just KILL it because it no longer suits your lifestyle!

My cat isn’t anything like OP’s. Nighttime howling, random attacks, and he went through a period of peeing on our stairs, but OP’s Case is extreme. You needent be so flippant; she clearly isn’t being so.

NP. It's not the cat's fault you had a personality change after kids.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, please, do not ever get another animal again, ever. No matter what. I hope this little old cat's face stares at you forever.

Until you've walked in OP's shoes kindly STFU.

I'm a np and have walked in OP's shoes. And also, as she asked for opinions, no poster needs to STFU.

The cat is not ruining anything. It's become an inconvenience. That's what makes OP so awful.

OP here. Cat has ruined thousands of dollars worth of things and still does ruin things in a semi-regular basis. I've dealt with that for years. She doesn't do that every single day though. To a PP asks what is different: I can't stand being in my own bedroom. I just tried to take a quick nap after waking up at 3:30 this morning and being unable to go back to sleep, and then hosting a family holiday. I'm exhausted. But the smell of cat waste is overpowering IN MY BEDROOM. If I want to sleep in my room, I have to inhale cat waste odors. My closet is also connected to my bathroom and my clothes are subjected to the same. I don't have an extra bedroom and if I close the door to my room she pees in the hallway or on a kid's bed. It's not "inconvenient". It's disgusting and overpowering and unfixable.

I have an 11 year old cat, and he has ruined THOUSANDS of dollars worth of furniture, clothes, and rugs. But mostly when he was a kitten. He hasn't ruined much now that he's older. It wouldn't occur to me to rehome or euthanize him based on that. Hell, my husband is tough on our stuff too.

I also have a puppy, and he's ruined a bunch of stuff the cat hasn't ruined. I've resigned myself to not being too attached to anything.

As for the smell, I get ya. Cat pee is horrible. I would try kitty drugs first before I kill him.

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Anonymous wrote:You people or anthropomorphizing pets. Try the kitty Prozac and if that doesn’t work then it’s OK. The cat doesn’t sound happy anyway and probably isn’t having fun living with these neuroses.

I agree with this course of action. Drugs first, and if those fail, euthanize.

Sounds horrible, OP. I have a cat I’m not particularly fond of (personality change after kids) and definitely empathize.

Jesus, but you don't just KILL it because it no longer suits your lifestyle!

My cat isn’t anything like OP’s. Nighttime howling, random attacks, and he went through a period of peeing on our stairs, but OP’s Case is extreme. You needent be so flippant; she clearly isn’t being so.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone should euthanize OP in her twilight years

Yes, because Euthanizing a 16 year old cat is exactly the same as killing an elderly human being.

+1 to this sarcasm. People on this forum are seriously insane.

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Anonymous wrote:You people or anthropomorphizing pets. Try the kitty Prozac and if that doesn’t work then it’s OK. The cat doesn’t sound happy anyway and probably isn’t having fun living with these neuroses.

I agree with this course of action. Drugs first, and if those fail, euthanize.

Sounds horrible, OP. I have a cat I’m not particularly fond of (personality change after kids) and definitely empathize.

Jesus, but you don't just KILL it because it no longer suits your lifestyle!

Anonymous wrote:You people or anthropomorphizing pets. Try the kitty Prozac and if that doesn’t work then it’s OK. The cat doesn’t sound happy anyway and probably isn’t having fun living with these neuroses.

I agree with this course of action. Drugs first, and if those fail, euthanize.

Sounds horrible, OP. I have a cat I’m not particularly fond of (personality change after kids) and definitely empathize.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, posted a number of months ago. Based on that advice, we moved a litter box into our bathroom, tried various litters, lots of Feliway. So we are several months in on this arrangement and it's just not working. Husband is still extremely unhappy and at this point I can't take it anymore either.

We had a contractor look at our home today and had to walk past the master bedroom, and I realized I had to open all the windows to vent out the cat waste stink before I could let him come through. It's just gross.

As a bonus the cat howls half the night. And randomly during the daytime. Maybe she's trying to tell me something and I'm just not getting it.

Have you thought of cleaning up the litter box?
And yes, there is a lot that you aren’t getting.
Please , whatever you do, do not get any more pets!

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Anonymous wrote:+1 to the PP who suggested kitty Prozac. May I also suggest you keep the bathroom fan on, and clean the cat box/shower more often?

I've just had to put down my kitty who has been extremely ill for the last two weeks. We've spent thousands of dollars on surgeries for him and he has continued to have devastating UT issues, the last one of which did him in. He was in our master bath on towels and prefolds and we cleaned after him once a day, and wiped the floor with water daily. The smell was no where near as dramatic as you describe.

OP here. Box scooped daily or twice daily depending on when people shower. Shower cleaned at least twice daily - must be cleaned before showering in order to remove litter and wash away urine, and then it gets all the soap from showers.

I have a strong sense of smell so maybe it bothers me more than most, but my husband also hates it and my kids remark on it as well. We're down to just one type of litter she seems willing to use at all so that's what we're stuck with.

She's a good cat except for the fact that I just can't live with her anymore. I wish she would die in her sleep, perfectly happy, but so far she wakes up every morning ready to resume her day of lurking in our room and hiding from everything.

Thank you to those PPs who have been understanding. It seems like the best path is to put her down rather than look for a new home. It will be extremely hard to do (which is why she's still with us despite many years of trouble) but I think the better option for her than what's left.

Have you posted here before about this? Do you have a dog the cat is afraid of so she doesn't go downstairs to the rest of the house (and to where her Box originally was)?

I don’t see how it’s hard for you because you are heartless and without a soul.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, posted a number of months ago. Based on that advice, we moved a litter box into our bathroom, tried various litters, lots of Feliway. So we are several months in on this arrangement and it's just not working. Husband is still extremely unhappy and at this point I can't take it anymore either.

We had a contractor look at our home today and had to walk past the master bedroom, and I realized I had to open all the windows to vent out the cat waste stink before I could let him come through. It's just gross.

As a bonus the cat howls half the night. And randomly during the daytime. Maybe she's trying to tell me something and I'm just not getting it.

Ok tell yourself whatever you need to in order to make yourself feel better about ending your cat's life so yours will be easier.

OP here. Yes, posted a number of months ago. Based on that advice, we moved a litter box into our bathroom, tried various litters, lots of Feliway. So we are several months in on this arrangement and it's just not working. Husband is still extremely unhappy and at this point I can't take it anymore either.

We had a contractor look at our home today and had to walk past the master bedroom, and I realized I had to open all the windows to vent out the cat waste stink before I could let him come through. It's just gross.

As a bonus the cat howls half the night. And randomly during the daytime. Maybe she's trying to tell me something and I'm just not getting it.

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Anonymous wrote:+1 to the PP who suggested kitty Prozac. May I also suggest you keep the bathroom fan on, and clean the cat box/shower more often?

I've just had to put down my kitty who has been extremely ill for the last two weeks. We've spent thousands of dollars on surgeries for him and he has continued to have devastating UT issues, the last one of which did him in. He was in our master bath on towels and prefolds and we cleaned after him once a day, and wiped the floor with water daily. The smell was no where near as dramatic as you describe.

OP here. Box scooped daily or twice daily depending on when people shower. Shower cleaned at least twice daily - must be cleaned before showering in order to remove litter and wash away urine, and then it gets all the soap from showers.

I have a strong sense of smell so maybe it bothers me more than most, but my husband also hates it and my kids remark on it as well. We're down to just one type of litter she seems willing to use at all so that's what we're stuck with.

She's a good cat except for the fact that I just can't live with her anymore. I wish she would die in her sleep, perfectly happy, but so far she wakes up every morning ready to resume her day of lurking in our room and hiding from everything.

Thank you to those PPs who have been understanding. It seems like the best path is to put her down rather than look for a new home. It will be extremely hard to do (which is why she's still with us despite many years of trouble) but I think the better option for her than what's left.

Have you posted here before about this? Do you have a dog the cat is afraid of so she doesn't go downstairs to the rest of the house (and to where her Box originally was)?