LOL OP, I would welcome the inlaws (they're really not at fault here), but I would absolutely turn away your sister. "I'm sorry, but you are not welcome in my home. Please leave now." Enlist husband's help if she refuses. Honestly, after all this BS, I'd cut ties. Too much drama.

Ignore the harpies, OP. It is not trashy to call someone out on their shit. Sometimes a good curse word is totally appropriate. You were 100% right and I applaud you.

Anonymous wrote:Your sister sounds terrible but isn't it harsh to keep referring to her as 'bitch'?

+1
Unnecessary and trashy too

Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. See a therapist. You sound unhinged.

Definitely. What is wrong with OP?!

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Anonymous wrote:This is all messed up on all sides and it’s great.

When did your sister find Jesus? Recently it did you grow up with this?

She found Jesus when she started dating her husband. Our parents are Agnostic. I would classify myself as the same. Our brother is an Atheist. Easter to us is about the kids and eating. Not so much the religious aspect of it. She is the only person in our immediate family that goes to church. I think that is why there was such a strong reaction from the family about having Easter at her church.

OP, a line from the late, great George Carlin, for you to use when appropriate:

"I've found Him - I have Jesus in the trunk."

(It's funnier when he says it, I guess.)

OP, your hatred of your sister is palbable. Please just cut off contact before you really do have a stroke. I can actually feel your hate through my phone - I can't imagine what it's like in person. Free yourself.

Anonymous wrote:This is all messed up on all sides and it’s great.

When did your sister find Jesus? Recently it did you grow up with this?

She found Jesus when she started dating her husband. Our parents are Agnostic. I would classify myself as the same. Our brother is an Atheist. Easter to us is about the kids and eating. Not so much the religious aspect of it. She is the only person in our immediate family that goes to church. I think that is why there was such a strong reaction from the family about having Easter at her church.

Oh no, OP. You took the bait.

This is all messed up on all sides and it’s great.

When did your sister find Jesus? Recently it did you grow up with this?

Your sister sounds terrible but isn't it harsh to keep referring to her as 'bitch'?

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:1. Why on earth did anyone allow BIL to say grace? That was bad move #1.
2. Please tell me you didn't actually use the word "obey" when talking to your sister. If so, I can see why there's friction. Obey is what you teach a dog or small child to do, not adults. "Thank you for respecting me wishes" is a much better way to phrase it.

Of course I used the word obey. I meant to talk down to her and be condescending. I was hoping she would lose her shit.

Then you deserve all the misery you're bringing on yourself. Grow up.

NP. Agree that everyone needs to grow up, but seeing as how OP's sister is determined to be an a$$, I don't blame her for getting a dig in. You just can't live with some people.

+1

The sister had it coming.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Why on earth did anyone allow BIL to say grace? That was bad move #1.
2. Please tell me you didn't actually use the word "obey" when talking to your sister. If so, I can see why there's friction. Obey is what you teach a dog or small child to do, not adults. "Thank you for respecting me wishes" is a much better way to phrase it.

Of course I used the word obey. I meant to talk down to her and be condescending. I was hoping she would lose her shit.

Then you deserve all the misery you're bringing on yourself. Grow up.

NP. Agree that everyone needs to grow up, but seeing as how OP's sister is determined to be an a$$, I don't blame her for getting a dig in. You just can't live with some people.

Using the word obey is screwed up.

WTF! Yeah, there's something 'not right' with your sister and her DH. While I admire how you handled it (and I don't blame you for wanting to piss off your sister), I wouldn't engage your sister anymore. If she were a 'friend' rather than a relative, is she someone you would have in your life? I'm guessing, 'no'. So, why are you wasting your time with her and her crazy?

When you were kids, you had no choice but to have a relationship. Now that you're an adult, you get to choose your family.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Why on earth did anyone allow BIL to say grace? That was bad move #1.
2. Please tell me you didn't actually use the word "obey" when talking to your sister. If so, I can see why there's friction. Obey is what you teach a dog or small child to do, not adults. "Thank you for respecting me wishes" is a much better way to phrase it.

Of course I used the word obey. I meant to talk down to her and be condescending. I was hoping she would lose her shit.

Then you deserve all the misery you're bringing on yourself. Grow up.