you seriously need help. You weren't even married. I can look back and get upset at things my spouse did while we were dating and get pissed off, but whats the point

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Anonymous wrote:You have leverage. She is desperate to keep you.

Yep, she is. Doesnt want to give up the status.

What does that mean, status?

Do what you want, just be ready for the repercussions. Find a nice woman at the gym and go for it. I have had the most success there. I’m married now so a I don’t obviously but if I had a hall pass that would be my go to.

Anonymous wrote:You have leverage. She is desperate to keep you.

Yep, she is. Doesnt want to give up the status.

You have leverage. She is desperate to keep you.

I bet 90 percent of people commenting would love a hall pass.
OP use as you see fit. She tucked someone else while with you

Anonymous wrote:You have a grudge despite saying you flourished after the cheating. You want her to know you will sleep w someone else otherwise you wouldnt have asked for a pass. The guy i am dating kissed a few different girls while we dated and now wants to marry me. I like him a lot but dont love him like i used to and never will again. I used to only want him but now keep thinking about sex w other cute guys i know.

You are immature.

You have a grudge despite saying you flourished after the cheating. You want her to know you will sleep w someone else otherwise you wouldnt have asked for a pass. The guy i am dating kissed a few different girls while we dated and now wants to marry me. I like him a lot but dont love him like i used to and never will again. I used to only want him but now keep thinking about sex w other cute guys i know.

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and get over it. Tell your wife you are tearing up the pass and get on with your life. When we were dating I slept with a guy because my now DH and I were not in a committed relationship - in other words before we used the love word. Once we were committed monogamy has ruled.

So when he stops saying he loves you will you cheat again?

If you use that hall pass, you will have your "revenge" but your marriage will be over. Only you know whether it'll be worth it.

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks this is stupid? DW didn't break her vows. She cheated BEFORE you were married. You need to let this Fing go. Its been a decade dude. I can't believe you even think about this anymore. Its pathetic.

Agreed. You need to get a pass to therapy to find out why you can’t let this go.

One day a nice looking lady will proposition you and you’ll use it. Just don’t abuse it

Goat over it

OP, if you want your marriage to remain in a good place, don't use it. Even if she said she doesn't want to know, she will notice little things you do differently, and wonder if it's because you did or are planning to use your hall pass (even if the little thing was completely unrelated). It will drive her crazy, and deeply erode the trust in your relationship.

And, if your'e as open and honest as you say, you'll have trouble hiding it from her anyway. Doing it will involve some type of lie, no matter what.

Obviously use it.Maybe not now maybe not in five years but you never know when you want to go