You needed to talk to the MiL. If the baby is fussy, call immediately and I will come back to get. There is NO WAY a grandparent who is only interested in being seen as a grandparent but not into the work would take a fussy baby every weekend. And you should gone first thing and picked up the kid. Thanks so much. And if MIL says something about next week, say “we will think about it and let you know.” Or “next weekend I will have him but the next time I need overnight, I will call you” But, I doubt anyone not the parents of a not sleeping consistently baby would take baby every weekend unless there were extenuating circumstances that the parents needed the help.

Way too much going on here. The rich grandparent buttering up thing, the bad marriage thing, the might SAH thing. Hmmm...

There are a lot of mothers are the only parent posters on this threads.

Op, I don't think an overnight a week is reasonable and you should certainly express your discomfort and and you and DH need to work through this.

I disagree with mothers should dictate and babies need mothers and mothers decide and you are the mother so it is all up to you.. then people complain dad isn't doing 50% of the childcare, after being treated like he isn't even a parent.

I must be crazy because I would not mind this set up. You both get a break one night a week? Hell yes!

No way. My kids will never spend the night without me at my Dad and his wife's home not my In laws.

Is your husband from a culture where the wife traditionally moves into her hubsband’s family and lives with her in-laws?

You need to talk to your mother in law directly. Pick up the phone and figure out what she wants. Don’t go through your husband. You can’t trust his motives.

Why are you letting him wait until Sunday NIGHT to pick your baby up? You are losing an entire weekend day - that's absolute NO in my mind. Go get the baby NOW so you can spend the rest of the day with him.

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Anonymous wrote:You didn’t table it. You agreed to it.

No I agreed to tonight but not any more.

Bless your heart.

I could see this scenario happening in my household/relationship. I know how you feel, OP. But I’d put the kibosh in tonight because even if you tried to caveat it as “this isn’t happening again beyond this one time,” it’s still setting a precedent and laying the groundwork for it to happen again.

Tell him baby developed a fever if you feel like you need a “legitimate” reason. We both know a fight will ensue, but sometimes you just have to bite the bullet.

Your MIL wants one thing. You want another.

Does your husband want a happy mother, or a happy wife?

Why does her desire to spend more time with your child, trump your desire to spend more time with your child?

Is she willing to pay for you to work part time so you have additional time with your child, and then a greater willingness to give her more time with her grandchild?

She had her turn to parent as she wished. This is your time to parent as you & your husband wish.

He's getting ready for a divorce, and testing out how this joint custody thing will work.

If you quit your job, you'll be in deep trouble.

Anonymous wrote:You didn’t table it. You agreed to it.

No I agreed to tonight but not any more.

You didn’t table it. You agreed to it.

Wow, just no.