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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

This would be for most especially if the family broke up.

No one wants to find out their parent sucks as a person.

Oh good grief. Pretending people aren't human and are good is naive. If any mans daughter saw the things he fantasizes about in his mind she would never see him the same. Everything is fake to different degrees. When someone has lived long enough they know people who have never been exposed as an idiot are often bigger idiots than those who have been humbled by failures.

Human is burning the toast, shrinking a sweater, using unkind words when mad... throwing your family under the bus... is not just being human it's sucking as a human. Just own it don't try to down play it.

Since what, 1/3 - 1/2 of all people cheat, it is pretty human to cheat. It isn't pretty, it isn't kind. but it is human.

I am not sure that I agree with this assessment. So would you say it was pretty human to support slavery because many did, and therefore slavery was not as disgusting?

If I found out that my parent cheated, I will lose something for them. I would not call it respect, but I will look at them a tiny bit differently.

Humans are generally fairly disgusting in their natural state. I can't see how you can argue with that unless you're completely myopic and satisfied with the sanitized version of the world fed to yo by American media. It's irrelevant for this specific discussion whether you personally support slavery or don't. What's relevant is there are more enslaved humans in the world today than ever before. This is what humans are currently do to each other and to each other's children. Is it disgusting? Obviously. Do people support it? I would hope not. But most turn a blind eye and allow it to happen day in and day out. Don't kid yourself, we're all complicit in this. It is part of human experience, ergo it's human.

Another human thing is empathy. But empathy is learned, most often by suffering. In other words, unless you're able to experience the trappings of a failed marriage yourself, you'll find it difficult to empathize with a parent who was less than a picture-perfect human being. For better or worse, most relationships fail miserably. Please we live in a society that often makes it difficult to walk away from it (for good reasons). I'd argue that most adults would be more tolerant to their parents' indiscretions.

I wouldn't have cared if I'd found out one of my parents was cheating. They had amd still have a terrible marriage. They slept with their bedroom door open most of the time. My mother was extremely emotionally abusive toward my father. If he'd left she most likely would have had full custody in that day and age and she would have been able to abuse us more (he rarely protected us but at least he didn't leave).

If I'd learned he still had some human emotion in him and found an outlet I'd have been fine. I knew she deserved nothing. And now I'd probably be happy she had a come uppance.

If she slept around she might have been happier. He's a dull drunk.

People, there's a difference between human/inhuman and humane/inhumane. All kinds of bad things can be both human and inhumane.

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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

This would be for most especially if the family broke up.

No one wants to find out their parent sucks as a person.

Oh good grief. Pretending people aren't human and are good is naive. If any mans daughter saw the things he fantasizes about in his mind she would never see him the same. Everything is fake to different degrees. When someone has lived long enough they know people who have never been exposed as an idiot are often bigger idiots than those who have been humbled by failures.

Human is burning the toast, shrinking a sweater, using unkind words when mad... throwing your family under the bus... is not just being human it's sucking as a human. Just own it don't try to down play it.

Since what, 1/3 - 1/2 of all people cheat, it is pretty human to cheat. It isn't pretty, it isn't kind. but it is human.

I am not sure that I agree with this assessment. So would you say it was pretty human to support slavery because many did, and therefore slavery was not as disgusting?

If I found out that my parent cheated, I will lose something for them. I would not call it respect, but I will look at them a tiny bit differently.

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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

This would be for most especially if the family broke up.

No one wants to find out their parent sucks as a person.

Oh good grief. Pretending people aren't human and are good is naive. If any mans daughter saw the things he fantasizes about in his mind she would never see him the same. Everything is fake to different degrees. When someone has lived long enough they know people who have never been exposed as an idiot are often bigger idiots than those who have been humbled by failures.

Human is burning the toast, shrinking a sweater, using unkind words when mad... throwing your family under the bus... is not just being human it's sucking as a human. Just own it don't try to down play it.

Since what, 1/3 - 1/2 of all people cheat, it is pretty human to cheat. It isn't pretty, it isn't kind. but it is human.

Since what 1/3 of woman are raped, it's pretty human to be raped.

No f-tard. Just because tons of people suck doesn't mean it human to suck.

It feels better to use "majority" to feel normal..."human", but it not human. It's inhumane.

Yeah. It kid of does

Cheating is inhumane only to the very young. They are not aware yet of things people do to each other that are truly inhuman. And THAT is human too.

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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

This would be for most especially if the family broke up.

No one wants to find out their parent sucks as a person.

Oh good grief. Pretending people aren't human and are good is naive. If any mans daughter saw the things he fantasizes about in his mind she would never see him the same. Everything is fake to different degrees. When someone has lived long enough they know people who have never been exposed as an idiot are often bigger idiots than those who have been humbled by failures.

Human is burning the toast, shrinking a sweater, using unkind words when mad... throwing your family under the bus... is not just being human it's sucking as a human. Just own it don't try to down play it.

Since what, 1/3 - 1/2 of all people cheat, it is pretty human to cheat. It isn't pretty, it isn't kind. but it is human.

Since what 1/3 of woman are raped, it's pretty human to be raped.

No f-tard. Just because tons of people suck doesn't mean it human to suck.

It feels better to use "majority" to feel normal..."human", but it not human. It's inhumane.

Yeah. It kid of does

Cheating is inhumane only to the very young. They are not aware yet of things people do to each other that are truly inhuman. And THAT is human too.

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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

Its all a matter of perspective. My dad is such a pos without ever cheating that cheating in and of itself would be nothing. Blessing in disguise, actually.

Its funny how jumping thru the hoops to catch dh red handed makes a woman a gem. Ridiculous.

I’m one of the people who said golf guy’s ex wife is a gem. I was referring to how she’s handled their relationship after the split. It takes strength of character to make the effort to stay friends with your cheating ex. She surely made the divorce somewhat easier on the kids by rising above and taking the high road. (And it really sounds like she was surprised by the affair, not trying to catch him.)

You seem to be prone to filling the gaps. The golf guy said their relationship is cordial at this point. He probably bled out in the divorce So all this talk about the high road. She may have been a truly amazing person. She may have been a perfectly average person. No need to write the story that's not yours.

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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

This would be for most especially if the family broke up.

No one wants to find out their parent sucks as a person.

Oh good grief. Pretending people aren't human and are good is naive. If any mans daughter saw the things he fantasizes about in his mind she would never see him the same. Everything is fake to different degrees. When someone has lived long enough they know people who have never been exposed as an idiot are often bigger idiots than those who have been humbled by failures.

Human is burning the toast, shrinking a sweater, using unkind words when mad... throwing your family under the bus... is not just being human it's sucking as a human. Just own it don't try to down play it.

Since what, 1/3 - 1/2 of all people cheat, it is pretty human to cheat. It isn't pretty, it isn't kind. but it is human.

Since what 1/3 of woman are raped, it's pretty human to be raped.

No f-tard. Just because tons of people suck doesn't mean it human to suck.

It feels better to use "majority" to feel normal..."human", but it not human. It's inhumane.

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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

This would be for most especially if the family broke up.

No one wants to find out their parent sucks as a person.

My dad cheated on my mom when I was growing up. By this point in life I can understand that a good person can make a bad decision. People aren't one-dimensional cartoon characters.

Some would say the same about criminals and murderers.

Some do. About illegal aliens. Or people who kill others by accident or in self-defense. Context matters, PP.

I can see how teenagers would be devastated by the breakup of their entire world. But adults with lives of their own... not so much, really.

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Oh good grief. Pretending people aren't human and are good is naive. If any mans daughter saw the things he fantasizes about in his mind she would never see him the same. Everything is fake to different degrees. When someone has lived long enough they know people who have never been exposed as an idiot are often bigger idiots than those who have been humbled by failures.

Thank you.

Maybe she hasn't bought into the fairytale.

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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

This would be for most especially if the family broke up.

No one wants to find out their parent sucks as a person.

Oh good grief. Pretending people aren't human and are good is naive. If any mans daughter saw the things he fantasizes about in his mind she would never see him the same. Everything is fake to different degrees. When someone has lived long enough they know people who have never been exposed as an idiot are often bigger idiots than those who have been humbled by failures.

Human is burning the toast, shrinking a sweater, using unkind words when mad... throwing your family under the bus... is not just being human it's sucking as a human. Just own it don't try to down play it.

Since what, 1/3 - 1/2 of all people cheat, it is pretty human to cheat. It isn't pretty, it isn't kind. but it is human.

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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

This would be for most especially if the family broke up.

No one wants to find out their parent sucks as a person.

Oh good grief. Pretending people aren't human and are good is naive. If any mans daughter saw the things he fantasizes about in his mind she would never see him the same. Everything is fake to different degrees. When someone has lived long enough they know people who have never been exposed as an idiot are often bigger idiots than those who have been humbled by failures.

Human is burning the toast, shrinking a sweater, using unkind words when mad... throwing your family under the bus... is not just being human it's sucking as a human. Just own it don't try to down play it.

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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

I think it depends on the person. When I was in my mid-20s, I found out that my mom had an affair shortly before my parents divorced. It didn't change my opinion about the kind of person she is or change our relationship at all. It did change my opinion about the kind of marriage my parents had.

So you already thought your mom was immoral and treacherous then?

Maybe she thought her mother was a human being with strengths and weaknesses. Maybe she knew enough about her parents' relationship to understand that there had been struggle or loneliness. Maybe she's the kind of person who has compassion and humility.

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Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

I think it depends on the person. When I was in my mid-20s, I found out that my mom had an affair shortly before my parents divorced. It didn't change my opinion about the kind of person she is or change our relationship at all. It did change my opinion about the kind of marriage my parents had.

So you already thought your mom was immoral and treacherous then?