Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 11:07     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Anonymous wrote:Mine has 3 half siblings via my cheating ex.

He doesn't give a damn about any of them.

It isn't up to OP to foster a relationship with her ex's other kid(s).


Sorry... my Ds hasv3 half siblings.

Come to think of it I have one or two myself. Don't care.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 11:06     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Mine has 3 half siblings via my cheating ex.

He doesn't give a damn about any of them.

It isn't up to OP to foster a relationship with her ex's other kid(s).
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 11:03     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
You don’t need to feel bad for her, but I’d avoid posting a “what goes around comes around” monologue on Facebook. That’s the only kindness I’d give.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 10:48     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
I'm with you too, OP. Karma's a b****.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 10:43     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
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Anonymous wrote:Why should you? She slept with your husband and f***ed with your life. What goes around comes around


+1.

You don't need this person in your life. Like ever! And don't worry about the half sister. I have one and it's frankly awkward.


I disagree about the sibling thing, but still, let your ex manage the relationship between his children.


As stated, the sibling thing is not as big of a deal as people are making it out to be. Would you want to be around someone that was produced from someone that broke up your family? Don't force it. Just let the siblings work it out on their own.


Because it’s a child that had nothing to do with anything, and their sibling loves them?


Do they though? The kids seem like they are pretty little if they never saw each other again it wouldn't be that big of a deal. But as pp stated it's their FATHER'S job to manage that relationship not OP.


If only life were that simple. It never is.

Peoplenever meet their birth parents, and it’s a big deal. A sibling is as well.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 10:35     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Why should you? She slept with your husband and f***ed with your life. What goes around comes around


+1.

You don't need this person in your life. Like ever! And don't worry about the half sister. I have one and it's frankly awkward.


I disagree about the sibling thing, but still, let your ex manage the relationship between his children.


As stated, the sibling thing is not as big of a deal as people are making it out to be. Would you want to be around someone that was produced from someone that broke up your family? Don't force it. Just let the siblings work it out on their own.


Because it’s a child that had nothing to do with anything, and their sibling loves them?


Do they though? The kids seem like they are pretty little if they never saw each other again it wouldn't be that big of a deal. But as pp stated it's their FATHER'S job to manage that relationship not OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 10:35     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Dude, I would gloat every time I saw her. "How's X? OH THAT'S RIGHT AHAHAHAHAHA"
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 10:29     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why should you? She slept with your husband and f***ed with your life. What goes around comes around


+1.

You don't need this person in your life. Like ever! And don't worry about the half sister. I have one and it's frankly awkward.


I disagree about the sibling thing, but still, let your ex manage the relationship between his children.


As stated, the sibling thing is not as big of a deal as people are making it out to be. Would you want to be around someone that was produced from someone that broke up your family? Don't force it. Just let the siblings work it out on their own.


Because it’s a child that had nothing to do with anything, and their sibling loves them?
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 09:33     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why should you? She slept with your husband and f***ed with your life. What goes around comes around


+1.

You don't need this person in your life. Like ever! And don't worry about the half sister. I have one and it's frankly awkward.


I disagree about the sibling thing, but still, let your ex manage the relationship between his children.


As stated, the sibling thing is not as big of a deal as people are making it out to be. Would you want to be around someone that was produced from someone that broke up your family? Don't force it. Just let the siblings work it out on their own.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 09:30     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why should you? She slept with your husband and f***ed with your life. What goes around comes around


+1.

You don't need this person in your life. Like ever! And don't worry about the half sister. I have one and it's frankly awkward.


I disagree about the sibling thing, but still, let your ex manage the relationship between his children.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 09:29     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Anonymous wrote:Why should you? She slept with your husband and f***ed with your life. What goes around comes around


+1.

You don't need this person in your life. Like ever! And don't worry about the half sister. I have one and it's frankly awkward.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 09:26     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Anonymous wrote:I'm with you, OP. Karma got her, and it served her exactly right.


Yeah.

I talked to the OW once after it happened to her. She said something about "I saw her, and thought ' he cheated on me with THAT?!'"

My response was "I know how that feels..."

You owe her no empathy OP. Your so-called friend is nuts.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 09:17     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Why should you? She slept with your husband and f***ed with your life. What goes around comes around
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2018 09:08     Subject: Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
Your friend probably slept with your husband. Also, there are a lot of cheaters that visit this page. Just take note of that.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2018 23:38     Subject: Re:Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW
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Anonymous wrote:Ditch that friend! Any good friend would be on your side in this. You have taken the high road and continue to do so.

I agree. Your friend shouldn't be trying to make you feel bad about this, and it's really strange that she is.


I agree.


Agree. If OP came from a faith tradition that required her to forgive (I know some people who have experienced this) and no forgiving was tearing her up, yeah then maybe working toward forgiveness would be helpful. I think most of us who have been in this position are okay with feeling angry. I know my anger is definitely less visceral, but I wouldn't waste my forgiveness energy on the OW.


Forgiving is not the same thing as excusing.