Is the cousin's daughter going to be living at home and going to college locally, like a CC? Because if she's going away to college it seems a stretch to call her mother, or you, to pick her up from a party to get back to her dorm. Sure the mom needs to have a conversation with her about saying no, and being careful with her drinks and all that stuff but hopefully that's already happened since she is a senior in HS.

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Anonymous wrote:Attending a party at 15 where there are drugs and alcohol, damaged property, fighting, the police come, and you call your relatives for help and they refuse to come does not sound like a "fun" party to me. I might have been traumatized by this, too.

I understand that people are annoyed that OP is still bothered by this 30 years later. It's not cool in my family to be involved in drugs and alcohol and have the police checking in on you at 15 years old, it's trashy. Good luck, OP. Consider seeing a therapist to talk about this so it won't hang over your memory so prominently, it really can help.

No one said it was cool but thanks for letting us know your family isn't trashy, that's definitely relevant to the thread.

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We're all super impressed!

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a good party to me.

Seriously! I'm wondering if the source of all this resentment and bitterness is that the "bad" cousin is still pissed at the "good" cousin 'till this day for locking her in a closet and making her miss out on the party.

Also, this winner.

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a good party to me.

"Nobody said it was cool" right PP?

Anonymous wrote:Attending a party at 15 where there are drugs and alcohol, damaged property, fighting, the police come, and you call your relatives for help and they refuse to come does not sound like a "fun" party to me. I might have been traumatized by this, too.

I understand that people are annoyed that OP is still bothered by this 30 years later. It's not cool in my family to be involved in drugs and alcohol and have the police checking in on you at 15 years old, it's trashy. Good luck, OP. Consider seeing a therapist to talk about this so it won't hang over your memory so prominently, it really can help.

No one said it was cool but thanks for letting us know your family isn't trashy, that's definitely relevant to the thread.

Attending a party at 15 where there are drugs and alcohol, damaged property, fighting, the police come, and you call your relatives for help and they refuse to come does not sound like a "fun" party to me. I might have been traumatized by this, too.

I understand that people are annoyed that OP is still bothered by this 30 years later. It's not cool in my family to be involved in drugs and alcohol and have the police checking in on you at 15 years old, it's trashy. Good luck, OP. Consider seeing a therapist to talk about this so it won't hang over your memory so prominently, it really can help.

If you haven't experienced other topics to discuss with your relatives in 30 years, please get help!

Anonymous wrote:The party had great magnitude/left a huge mark on OP. OP needs to process that. That is happening here.

Yes. And she needs to get some help, given it is 30 years later.

Pretty much everyone I know has some version of this story from her youth.

Are you one of my ILs cuz they yap and judge about high school stuff that happened eons ago like it was last week!

$5 says OP is the one who called the cops after the aunt wouldn’t come get 5em.

This party sounds like a normal high school weekend party to me.

What is your diagnosis OP?

This is insane. I was waiting for the original post to end in a rape or a fight or an arrest of some sort but...nothing. OP, WTF? Move on.