Anonymous
Post 03/06/2018 00:10     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
I would call PB customer service, explain that you are a loyal customer and that your DD received a customized PB chair she loves, but her name is spelled incorrectly. What are your options? See what they say.

If you cannot fix the mistake then I would donate the chair. At some point your DD will notice if Grandma keeps misspelling her name. Better to make a strong statement here than to just keep limping along until the kid's feelings are hurt. If you donate, and MIL asks about where it is, just look her in the eye and say that you donated the chair after DH talked to her about it and she gave no indication that she would have the mistake fixed.

And in saying all of this, we have a niece with a common name that is misspelled because her mom wanted the name to be "a little bit different." She was over two before I realized that her name was spelled differently. I really couldn't believe it, and I feel so sorry for her, but I would never intentionally spell her name the traditional way. I would certainly never buy her a monogrammed gift with the traditional spelling. That's just rude.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2018 00:09     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, everyone. I ordered a new cover for the chair with the correct spelling - everything else (color, piping, thread) is the same.


FWIW I think this is a great solution--and it can (if you want it to be) be a conversation starter for the fact that she cannot keep spelling it wrong. I think it's fair to say "DD is getting old enough to recognize and spell her own name, and it is important for her and to us that it be spelled correctly."

The passive aggressiveness would make me nuts (and I'm plenty good at being passive-aggressive!)
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2018 00:05     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.


That's hysterical. Sorry OP, but it made me smile.


DH and I have agreed that if this is our biggest extended-related problem we're doing well.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2018 00:03     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
OP here. Thanks, everyone. I ordered a new cover for the chair with the correct spelling - everything else (color, piping, thread) is the same.
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 23:58     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:Is the name on the back of the chair? Put it against the wall. Problem solved. It's annoying but not worth escalating.



The kid's name is prominently across the front. It is the whole decoration of the chair.
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 21:33     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.


I hope your daughter keeps it up
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 21:21     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?


OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"


She’s terrible. Big ups to your husband for saying something. Even if she won’t listen it’s great you are a team.


I’d paint the whole thing your daughter’s favorite color. Or let it go. Strongly leaning towards repainting though!!!


Sorry I didn’t read every post...slipcover?
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 21:20     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?


OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"


She’s terrible. Big ups to your husband for saying something. Even if she won’t listen it’s great you are a team.


I’d paint the whole thing your daughter’s favorite color. Or let it go. Strongly leaning towards repainting though!!!
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 21:12     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.


That's hysterical. Sorry OP, but it made me smile.
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 21:12     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?


OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"


Ugh...what a controlling b. I'd fix it (sharpie over it, get some to make a new name cover, but a new slip cover, something) in the most obvious way.

Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 21:10     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.


Tillie is really cute!

+1 that’s adorable! My grandpa was the only person in my life to call me Emma (my name is Emily and I only ever went by that) and I LOVED it. It was a special grandpa-granddaughter thing. Take a chill pill, for heaven’s sake.


The way you felt about something cannot be extrapolated to how everyone should feel about a similar situation. Clearly the OP doesn't like it, and there's a pretty good chance the OP's daughter won't like that her grandmother deliberately misspells her name. The grandmother clearly isn't doing it to create a special bond with the child, but rather to annoy the child's parents.
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 21:07     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't spend money to fix it, unless my kid had already seen it and was in love. Otherwise, I'd ask MIL, "What's your plan for fixing the mistake? Do you want to return the whole chair, or should I store it in the closet until you get a corrected slip cover?" I'd act as if it had to be a mistake.


I like this...reasonable...much more reasonable and mature than throwing it out like I would do.
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 21:06     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.


Tillie is really cute!


But that is not her name, and not what we want her called. We want her called Millicent. Everyone else manages to call her that.
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 21:04     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.


Tillie is really cute!

+1 that’s adorable! My grandpa was the only person in my life to call me Emma (my name is Emily and I only ever went by that) and I LOVED it. It was a special grandpa-granddaughter thing. Take a chill pill, for heaven’s sake.
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2018 21:02     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:I handled this same issue forever! MIL said oh I guess I forgot it wasn’t Suzi and I said “hmm that’s kind of a big thing to forget, especially since we’ve reminded you before! Maybe make a note for your next physical.”

MILs mouth disappeared into her face and she tried to kill me with her eyes but she hasn’t done that again. OR that my kid can’t gave wheat (Celiac) since I used the same line for that (Oh Linda this is really concerning that you’d forget something this big. Should you talk to your GP?)


I like the concern troll approach.