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Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

If you need Botox and fillers at 33 you lost the genetic lottery. Sorry.

Actually you clearly have no idea how these things work. I use them so I won’t get the wrinkles you have

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

What would happen if someone had an accident and was horribly scared for life even with surgery? I think we all want to look good, but a family valuing looking good seems superficial, and a therapy waiting to happen.

I am the PO you are responding to. I don’t think we are superficial, but we definitely donMt need therapy. None in my family ever did (compared to DCUM where every bad day people WASTE money on therapy). Everyone in my family is happy, successful, with great marriages and happy kids. I think a bit self indulgence helps a lot in life. People should try it before resurrecting to therapy. I am lucky, i know, but I would not hesitate improving myself (inside and out)

Looks like some of that self-indulgence money would have been better spent on a decent education.

Ahahah I have a PhD. Envious much?

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Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

Who are they proud of, your doctor?

How mean. No about me being fit, healthy and pretty

Anonymous wrote:I hope he comes around OP, I don't think you're being selfish at all.
Do you have any of your own funds that you can use for this?

OP says he boob job is for her and her husband likes her as is. How is that not being selfish?

Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

If you need Botox and fillers at 33 you lost the genetic lottery. Sorry.

M here. My view is it's your choice and if you want to feel better about how you look, have at it. I also view a lift differently than I view implants. If it was something like lyposuction or a facelift, I might feel differently. That said, he does raise the a valid concern that is not without risks and that it isn't just you and he that could be impacted.

Watch a couple seasons of "Botched" (tv show on the E Network) and see how you feel. So many of these things do get botched.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

What would happen if someone had an accident and was horribly scared for life even with surgery? I think we all want to look good, but a family valuing looking good seems superficial, and a therapy waiting to happen.

I am the PO you are responding to. I don’t think we are superficial, but we definitely donMt need therapy. None in my family ever did (compared to DCUM where every bad day people WASTE money on therapy). Everyone in my family is happy, successful, with great marriages and happy kids. I think a bit self indulgence helps a lot in life. People should try it before resurrecting to therapy. I am lucky, i know, but I would not hesitate improving myself (inside and out)

Looks like some of that self-indulgence money would have been better spent on a decent education.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

What would happen if someone had an accident and was horribly scared for life even with surgery? I think we all want to look good, but a family valuing looking good seems superficial, and a therapy waiting to happen.

I am the PO you are responding to. I don’t think we are superficial, but we definitely donMt need therapy. None in my family ever did (compared to DCUM where every bad day people WASTE money on therapy). Everyone in my family is happy, successful, with great marriages and happy kids. I think a bit self indulgence helps a lot in life. People should try it before resurrecting to therapy. I am lucky, i know, but I would not hesitate improving myself (inside and out)

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What's your HHI? $5K at a lower HHI is significantly more meaningful than at a higher HHI.

$275K. So we could afford it, but its not like we should be wasteful with money, given that we have two kids.

We make a little less than that. Assuming you have a modest budget, $5K should be relatively easy to come up with. If your budget is not relatively modest, it should be easy enough to cut enough things to come up with $5K.

Maybe it would be worth you and DH both doing some research and having a consultation to get the most accurate picture of the risks associated with this procedure.

OP, what do you think will happen in 20 years? Do you plan to stop having sex when you get older and everything gets wrinklier and saggier? I totally get how much your self-confidence about your appearance affects your sexual feelings.

But as an older woman, I will tell you that you have to work on coming to terms with your aging body. You may think there's a magical age where sex doesn't matter, but that's not true for most couples.

I want to keep having sex until the day I die, and I want to live to be very old. I'm almost 60, and everything sags more every day. But orgasms and the fun of sex with my husband is a huge consolation.

I struggled so much in my forties, looking in the mirror saying I hate this, I hate that. I had to work to get to an attitude where I thank my body for every amazing orgasm, for those babies I had, for every physical experience. And if a man is turned off by how it looks, I don't need him.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

What would happen if someone had an accident and was horribly scared for life even with surgery? I think we all want to look good, but a family valuing looking good seems superficial, and a therapy waiting to happen.

She's raising the next generation the same way. This is a gross post, it's bad enough to be this shallow at all, but to present your vanity like it's a virtue? Yikes.

Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

This is kind of sad..no not kind of.. it is sad.

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Anonymous wrote:First a boob job, next is tummy tuck. Soon followed by face lifting and collagen implants. After that is butt lift and some cryo- work...it’ll never end.

Yes OP, you ARE being selfish. No amount of plastic surgery is going to change your mental image of yourself. You can’t seem to handle the idea that you’re not 18 anymore. Grow up and enjoy your life and give yourself to your husband who seems to enjoy you as you are.

You could be someone who was never conventionally attractive, so maybe you don't get it.
Everyone ages differently. Not all women will have boobs that sag, some will have permanent pooches (or not), some will get flabby arms (or not). Some woman may be fine with her arms but want a tighter tummy or vice versa. It not about aging or a dissatisfaction with her looks in general. OP has one thing she'd like to change, and there is really no reason why she shouldn't, not even her kids.
Also, OP's body doesn't just exist for her to "give herself to her husband". Her opinion of her body matters here, more than his ultimately.

You're missing the point where she is demanding to spend 5-figures on herself for an elective treatment. I'm betting this wouldn't even be a thread if OP had the money to do it without diving into family funds to achieve it.

Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

What would happen if someone had an accident and was horribly scared for life even with surgery? I think we all want to look good, but a family valuing looking good seems superficial, and a therapy waiting to happen.

Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

Who are they proud of, your doctor?