Married to a doctor. We are well off but not sure I’d call us rich in this area of the country. We met in undergrad when I was also a pre-med before changing my plans. I paid for most of our expenses using my grad school stipend while he was in med school. We lived very frugally for a very long time.

Anonymous wrote:TV. He was a reality tv star and I was a fan.

Melania, is that you?

In law school

In college early 90s'. Upon undergraduate graduation he turned down job offers from the blue chip corporations and went to work for a company with a strange name (America Online) as one of the first 20 employees. We retired in 1998.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We met many years ago at work after we both completed our MBA's. We certainly weren't rich at 25 but the potential was there.

+1

Men want their intellectual and professional equal. Not someone whose parents got them into undergrad - then, nothing.

No we don't. Intelligent enough women are a dime a dozen here. Professional equal? Your job is whatever you do before be both come home from work. We want cute, fun (in bed and out), and smart enough.

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PP here. You misunderstand. I agree with what you wrote, and I add what I wrote above. No one wants an idiot.

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Anonymous wrote:Met him when we were both overseas in an exchange in undergrad. Different schools/programs/same guesthouse in the same city. Could have easily missed him/never met him. There were tipoffs he came from money, but mostly his values seemed the same as mine.

I liked him/was attracted/he was smart/great conversationalist and sense of humour/sex was good and he had potential. Perfect combo of integrity and ambition. He said what his plans were, what he wanted out of me/life/career and he was always good for his word. When he wanted to LTR and I did not, I realized that I would always regret not still knowing him if I didn't take the chance. If I'd gone back home and back to my boyfriend, DH would have been the one that got away.

I met his family and fit right in and that also helped sell me.

this makes me wrinkle my nose with bad feelings .

Not sure what that means but I was raised that if the family isn't a fit it won't work. I would have had question marks with any partner until I met the family and breathed a sigh of relief. 21 years and still happy (and his family is still awesome) so don't furrow your brow too badly on my account. By 'sell me' I mean it was as comfortable as my own family and I'm a very careful person. I didn't need certainty on the relationship, but certainty on the 'this is the guy I'm going to marry'. We were 21- hard to be sure at that age. Life throws a lot at you and having the family fit helps a lot.

Anonymous wrote:Met him when we were both overseas in an exchange in undergrad. Different schools/programs/same guesthouse in the same city. Could have easily missed him/never met him. There were tipoffs he came from money, but mostly his values seemed the same as mine.

I liked him/was attracted/he was smart/great conversationalist and sense of humour/sex was good and he had potential. Perfect combo of integrity and ambition. He said what his plans were, what he wanted out of me/life/career and he was always good for his word. When he wanted to LTR and I did not, I realized that I would always regret not still knowing him if I didn't take the chance. If I'd gone back home and back to my boyfriend, DH would have been the one that got away.

I met his family and fit right in and that also helped sell me.

this makes me wrinkle my nose with bad feelings .

Met him when we were both overseas in an exchange in undergrad. Different schools/programs/same guesthouse in the same city. Could have easily missed him/never met him. There were tipoffs he came from money, but mostly his values seemed the same as mine.

I liked him/was attracted/he was smart/great conversationalist and sense of humour/sex was good and he had potential. Perfect combo of integrity and ambition. He said what his plans were, what he wanted out of me/life/career and he was always good for his word. When he wanted to LTR and I did not, I realized that I would always regret not still knowing him if I didn't take the chance. If I'd gone back home and back to my boyfriend, DH would have been the one that got away.

I met his family and fit right in and that also helped sell me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We met many years ago at work after we both completed our MBA's. We certainly weren't rich at 25 but the potential was there.

+1

Men want their intellectual and professional equal. Not someone whose parents got them into undergrad - then, nothing.

No we don't. Intelligent enough women are a dime a dozen here. Professional equal? Your job is whatever you do before be both come home from work. We want cute, fun (in bed and out), and smart enough.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We met many years ago at work after we both completed our MBA's. We certainly weren't rich at 25 but the potential was there.

+1

Men want their intellectual and professional equal. Not someone whose parents got them into undergrad - then, nothing.

No we don't. Intelligent enough women are a dime a dozen here. Professional equal? Your job is whatever you do before be both come home from work. We want cute, fun (in bed and out), and smart enough.

Anonymous wrote:We met many years ago at work after we both completed our MBA's. We certainly weren't rich at 25 but the potential was there.

+1

Men want their intellectual and professional equal. Not someone whose parents got them into undergrad - then, nothing.

Anonymous wrote:Met him when he was as broke as me. Was attracted to him because of his looks, body and personality. Now been married for 30 years. Initial years of marriage we lived very modestly but with him I always got amazing hot sex, so the lack of money did not bother me.

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That's just it. The guys want the wives that stuck with them when they lived poor with no belongings - together - not the women whose first lines of questioning involve "what do you do?" or "where did you go to school?" Too obvious, and turns men off immediately. No one wants a gold digger.

Match.com

On an airplane from LA that got diverted to St. Louis at midnight due to snow in Chicago. I knew he had a good job from just talking with him but before we landed in St. Louis he said the airline will screw us and we won't get to Chicago until the following night and he had a plan and was I game. I said sure and he had us there by 8am instead of that evening. He was only 25 but I could tell he had real potential. When I told my mother of my adventure she said "are you crazy, you could have been raped!"

Anonymous wrote:TV. He was a reality tv star and I was a fan.

Who? Who?