Not upset at all. Why are you so invested in claiming I am?

Anonymous wrote:Oh, is there where the childless geriatrics proclaim to know more about infertility because the read People magazine and saw that 4 women out of literally millions and millions were successful?

Cause honey, for every 'success' you see there are thousands of failures.

And I put success in quotes because, let me tell you, the last thing your body needs at 45 is having an infant and caring for an infant. Every older mom I know looks like theyre struggling to do even the most basic parenting. They were only thinking about themselves and not the kid.

Wow, someone's upset. Why are you so invested in the fact that some women don't want kids and in fact...prioritized themselves and their success instead?

Oh, is there where the childless geriatrics proclaim to know more about infertility because the read People magazine and saw that 4 women out of literally millions and millions were successful?

Cause honey, for every 'success' you see there are thousands of failures.

And I put success in quotes because, let me tell you, the last thing your body needs at 45 is having an infant and caring for an infant. Every older mom I know looks like theyre struggling to do even the most basic parenting. They were only thinking about themselves and not the kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn’t you want to have at least one child?

Huge repsonsility and major life change, less focus on my career, lack of sleep, strain it puts on many marriages, worry of caring for another human life, etc. I’ve always been very nurturing but I don’t know if I have what it takes to be a mom. I feel a child will be more of a career ender than a gift at this point. I may change my mind, but the thought of having children right now is very overwhelming and dreadful.

I understand this perspective. I was 33 when I got pregnant and not overwhelmed with joy by it. Being a mom is a life-changer. If you feel this way, I probably would take having kids off the table.

I am so very glad there are people having children who are ready and willing, and who find joy in it.

I took care of elderly parents through my childhood and young adulthood, trained in a time-intensive caring profession, and have depression easily triggered by sleep-deprivation. Having children would have been a bad choice for me. I would have found a way to make it work, I hope, but there would have been such a cost. I am happily involved with my family and in children's lives in other ways, and that is more than enough for me, even though it isn't the same. That was the point.

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Why? You live in or near a city where - three of the potus's top advisors are female, three of the supreme court are female, and a good number of CEOs and law partners are powerful women, but it escapes your tiny mind that a woman could a) exercise the thought process to succeed in life, and b) desire to not have kids?

Has it escaped _your_ tiny mind that statistically speaking, women want kids, including some of those CEOs?

The vast majority of women want kids. And the vast, vast majority of those who think they don’t change their mind.

I'm guessing that's what every person tells a successful woman. There's nothing wrong with not having children or desiring to have them at an 'optimal' time. If I do change my mind, guess what - I have the resources to do whatever the hell I desire.

Really? You've found a way to cure age-based infertility? You're going to be a gazillionaire! Or are you one of those snowflakes who thinks adopting is the same as having your own? News for you honey, it's not even close.

I don't know why people think its impossible to have kids over 40. Newsflash, the wealthy solved that issue.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/jan/18/new-zealand-jacinda-ardern-pregnant
https://www.cnn.com/2018/01/23/politics/tammy-duckworth-pregnant-first-senator-congress/index.html
http://www.eonline.com/news/859296/amal-clooney-gives-birth-a-look-back-at-her-chic-maternity-style
https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/sep/02/yahoo-ceo-marissa-mayer-pregnant-with-twin-girls

And there are plenty who are just as wealthy and haven't been able to have kids over 40 despite doing everything. Look at Gabrielle Union.

Perhaps that is why Gabrielle Union looks really youthful in her 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn’t you want to have at least one child?

Huge repsonsility and major life change, less focus on my career, lack of sleep, strain it puts on many marriages, worry of caring for another human life, etc. I’ve always been very nurturing but I don’t know if I have what it takes to be a mom. I feel a child will be more of a career ender than a gift at this point. I may change my mind, but the thought of having children right now is very overwhelming and dreadful.

I understand this perspective. I was 33 when I got pregnant and not overwhelmed with joy by it. Being a mom is a life-changer. If you feel this way, I probably would take having kids off the table.

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Why? You live in or near a city where - three of the potus's top advisors are female, three of the supreme court are female, and a good number of CEOs and law partners are powerful women, but it escapes your tiny mind that a woman could a) exercise the thought process to succeed in life, and b) desire to not have kids?

Has it escaped _your_ tiny mind that statistically speaking, women want kids, including some of those CEOs?

The vast majority of women want kids. And the vast, vast majority of those who think they don’t change their mind.

I'm guessing that's what every person tells a successful woman. There's nothing wrong with not having children or desiring to have them at an 'optimal' time. If I do change my mind, guess what - I have the resources to do whatever the hell I desire.

Really? You've found a way to cure age-based infertility? You're going to be a gazillionaire! Or are you one of those snowflakes who thinks adopting is the same as having your own? News for you honey, it's not even close.

Why are you so worked up??? You're thinking with your uterus.

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Why? You live in or near a city where - three of the potus's top advisors are female, three of the supreme court are female, and a good number of CEOs and law partners are powerful women, but it escapes your tiny mind that a woman could a) exercise the thought process to succeed in life, and b) desire to not have kids?

Has it escaped _your_ tiny mind that statistically speaking, women want kids, including some of those CEOs?

The vast majority of women want kids. And the vast, vast majority of those who think they don’t change their mind.

I'm guessing that's what every person tells a successful woman. There's nothing wrong with not having children or desiring to have them at an 'optimal' time. If I do change my mind, guess what - I have the resources to do whatever the hell I desire.

Really? You've found a way to cure age-based infertility? You're going to be a gazillionaire! Or are you one of those snowflakes who thinks adopting is the same as having your own? News for you honey, it's not even close.

I don't know why people think its impossible to have kids over 40. Newsflash, the wealthy solved that issue.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/jan/18/new-zealand-jacinda-ardern-pregnant
https://www.cnn.com/2018/01/23/politics/tammy-duckworth-pregnant-first-senator-congress/index.html
http://www.eonline.com/news/859296/amal-clooney-gives-birth-a-look-back-at-her-chic-maternity-style
https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/sep/02/yahoo-ceo-marissa-mayer-pregnant-with-twin-girls

And there are plenty who are just as wealthy and haven't been able to have kids over 40 despite doing everything. Look at Gabrielle Union.

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Why? You live in or near a city where - three of the potus's top advisors are female, three of the supreme court are female, and a good number of CEOs and law partners are powerful women, but it escapes your tiny mind that a woman could a) exercise the thought process to succeed in life, and b) desire to not have kids?

Has it escaped _your_ tiny mind that statistically speaking, women want kids, including some of those CEOs?

The vast majority of women want kids. And the vast, vast majority of those who think they don’t change their mind.

I'm guessing that's what every person tells a successful woman. There's nothing wrong with not having children or desiring to have them at an 'optimal' time. If I do change my mind, guess what - I have the resources to do whatever the hell I desire.

Really? You've found a way to cure age-based infertility? You're going to be a gazillionaire! Or are you one of those snowflakes who thinks adopting is the same as having your own? News for you honey, it's not even close.

I don't know why people think its impossible to have kids over 40. Newsflash, the wealthy solved that issue.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/jan/18/new-zealand-jacinda-ardern-pregnant
https://www.cnn.com/2018/01/23/politics/tammy-duckworth-pregnant-first-senator-congress/index.html
http://www.eonline.com/news/859296/amal-clooney-gives-birth-a-look-back-at-her-chic-maternity-style
https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/sep/02/yahoo-ceo-marissa-mayer-pregnant-with-twin-girls

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Why? You live in or near a city where - three of the potus's top advisors are female, three of the supreme court are female, and a good number of CEOs and law partners are powerful women, but it escapes your tiny mind that a woman could a) exercise the thought process to succeed in life, and b) desire to not have kids?

Has it escaped _your_ tiny mind that statistically speaking, women want kids, including some of those CEOs?

The vast majority of women want kids. And the vast, vast majority of those who think they don’t change their mind.

I'm guessing that's what every person tells a successful woman. There's nothing wrong with not having children or desiring to have them at an 'optimal' time. If I do change my mind, guess what - I have the resources to do whatever the hell I desire.

Really? You've found a way to cure age-based infertility? You're going to be a gazillionaire! Or are you one of those snowflakes who thinks adopting is the same as having your own? News for you honey, it's not even close.

I think the "I might want to have kids after 38 but only about 50 percent sure" is more offputting because of the uncertainty and the likelihood for disappointment and future friction in a relationship than the "I don't want to have kids at all. Done." which is very clear and certain if the person is otherwise self-confident and happy.

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Why? You live in or near a city where - three of the potus's top advisors are female, three of the supreme court are female, and a good number of CEOs and law partners are powerful women, but it escapes your tiny mind that a woman could a) exercise the thought process to succeed in life, and b) desire to not have kids?

Has it escaped _your_ tiny mind that statistically speaking, women want kids, including some of those CEOs?

The vast majority of women want kids. And the vast, vast majority of those who think they don’t change their mind.

And you know this because???? More and more people are childfree and why would anyone regret it>

The percentage of people choosing not to have children is rising. Maybe they will regret that decision. Many seem not to.

I'm not sure why it is important to some people that others be regretful, but you do you. Hopefully people will rant and gnash their teeth at lost opportunities at some point, so you can ... be happy at last?

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Why? You live in or near a city where - three of the potus's top advisors are female, three of the supreme court are female, and a good number of CEOs and law partners are powerful women, but it escapes your tiny mind that a woman could a) exercise the thought process to succeed in life, and b) desire to not have kids?

Has it escaped _your_ tiny mind that statistically speaking, women want kids, including some of those CEOs?

The vast majority of women want kids. And the vast, vast majority of those who think they don’t change their mind.

I'm guessing that's what every person tells a successful woman. There's nothing wrong with not having children or desiring to have them at an 'optimal' time. If I do change my mind, guess what - I have the resources to do whatever the hell I desire.

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Why? You live in or near a city where - three of the potus's top advisors are female, three of the supreme court are female, and a good number of CEOs and law partners are powerful women, but it escapes your tiny mind that a woman could a) exercise the thought process to succeed in life, and b) desire to not have kids?

Has it escaped _your_ tiny mind that statistically speaking, women want kids, including some of those CEOs?

The vast majority of women want kids. And the vast, vast majority of those who think they don’t change their mind.