Anonymous wrote:Sorry to break it to you OP, but once you get older & have children, life never gets back to the beauty of your youth.

Being responsible for another human being is a HUGE undertaking that will suck out whatever youth you still have.

The more responsibility you have in life, the less carefree life will become.

Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but as a truth seeker this is how we evolve in our lives.

As parents....well....It is time to re-define the meaning of the word “fun.”

Not true.

Sorry to break it to you OP, but once you get older & have children, life never gets back to the beauty of your youth.

Being responsible for another human being is a HUGE undertaking that will suck out whatever youth you still have.

The more responsibility you have in life, the less carefree life will become.

Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but as a truth seeker this is how we evolve in our lives.

As parents....well....It is time to re-define the meaning of the word “fun.”

I'm the opposite. My 30s are so much better than my 20s.

I own a home in a great part of DC and enjoy taking my kids to the playground, walking around the neighborhood, weekly date nights etc.

We have plenty of money and I didn't in my 20s. We save at least 10k a month and we didn't even make that much a month in our 20s

I'm more senior at work and receive more respect and have more flexibility.

I have a better sense of style and can afford nicer clothing and beauty treatments.


I'm not sure why life needs to be so different post kids. Find a babysitter to hire weekly and always have a date night. Have an evening to yourself during the week and same for your husband.

Non-pot smoker here. Don’t make 4:20 jokes. Sooo passé. That ship sailed in 2003.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel you. I'm 35. I think it's just that most people are boring.

I know some other parents that still like to go to concerts, get high, etc. They're out there, if not the norm.

Any tips for finding these people?

Put yourself out there. Ask parents to hang out. Invite them over, even if for play dates at first. Play music, talk about your wild youth, offer them a drink even if it's 2pm, crack a joke when the clock strikes 4:20...

Be patient. Most parents of little kids are in ruts, but a lot want help getting out.

Wow, so edgy!

You have a suggestion, bitch?

Bitch, don't just make 4:20 jokes. Break out the weed. Otherwise you're just a sad little wannabe poseur.

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Anonymous wrote:Most people say their 30s were the best years of their life.

My 30s were happier than 22-30, when I went to an isolatingly competitive law school, struggled at Biglaw, got fired, got clinical depression, was nervous about not having marriage prospects.
My 30s enabled me to experience the joys of motherhood. Despite its obvious difficulties, I have never experienced such pure joy and glee. Kids are magical.

I'm not saying kids are not magical. Becoming a mom is one of the best things that's happened to me. But being a mom is not enough to satisfy my entire being. Now that I don't have a baby sucking my boob all day, I'm ready to get back out in the world and have some non-kid centered fun ocassionally

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Anonymous wrote:My 20s were a great time. I was starting an interesting career, was meeting new exciting friends, and went out all the times. As a mom in my 30s life is boring as fuck!!!!! I enjoy motherhood, but socializing outside of my kid seriously is lacking. Why are people with families so fucking boring?!?! I know it won't be like my 20s again, with late night drinking escapades, but isn't there some fun 30s equivalent that doesn't involve kid s or mommy talk. It also seems like everyone in this stage in life is wearing a mask. I'm so over the boring fake ness. Where are the fun people hiding?????

Time to grow up, OP.

what happened to your firends in your 20s? I am now in my 40s with a kid and my 30s were awesome. I still work out regularly, have an interesting circle of friends, my closest friends are for sure my pre-kid friends. I go out probably 2-4 times a month. My best friends are all child-free by choice. I meet a lot of other moms and yes there are some that only talk about their kids but I also meet a lot of really interesting moms too. FWIW, I live in the city and that might make a difference.

My closest friend lives a plane ride away. Many of my friends from my 20s have dispersed around the world and country. I don't live in DC anymore, which I think strongly contributed to my 20s being awesome. The caliber of people there is really amazing. A large segment of the population is worldly and interesting, not to mention D.C. has seemingly unlimited entertainment. The area was too expensive for starting a family and thus I have moved on to another area of the country that nowhere near as exciting. I knew it would be slower of course, but the people I'm finding are very ho hum.