Anonymous wrote:Op here. I get it, I really do. I’m just curious how other people cope with things like this? Tired doesn’t even cover how I feel-more like exhausted, gutted. It feels like my whole life involves sucking it up and doing what I don’t want to do. I know that’s partially adulthood, but sometimes it just goes too far. The only way I get through the week is knowing that on Sunday morning I can go to therapy for one hour and on Saturday evening I can watch 2-3 hours of tv. This trip will take away the two things I look forward to all week. I know it’s stupid but I’m actually tearing up thinking about it.

I know I’m not the only person with a young kid and a job, why is that so overwhelming for me that when I have to fit one more thing in, I feel complete misery? Other people have more kids, harder jobs, etc. and they go see their families. It just feels insurmountable right now even though I agree I really should do this for my dad who is the nicest most understanding guy ever.

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Anonymous wrote:People need to read the whole thread which include op’s updates. I get it op - I have a dad who is married to someone I don’t enjoy spending time with. But it’s knee surgery and your dad is relatively young. I understand he’s probably in a lot of pain right now and is getting ready for his surgery but you are completely overwhelmed. There was not one day without a doctor appointment that he and stepmom couldn’t have driven up to visit you guys so that you, his daughter, gets a break? He really has doctor appointments on Saturday and Sunday? I think the way you originally framed it we all assumed your dad was elderly and alone and getting ready for open heart surgery. I’m not trying to be callous - I’m just looking out for you.

Op here. Thanks for this! I didn’t expect to get as hard of a time as I got so I appreciate your post. I am struggling with an anxiety disorder and depression, but even without those issues I still find this time of year kind of sucky and overwhelming.

There’s lots of other facts I wanted to chime in with, but it seemed irrelevant once I fully committed to going to visit.

DH is on board as long as we get a hotel. It’s just hard-our little one doesn’t handle car rides well, we have a dog I’ll have to kennel (this will also entail a vet visit), etc etc. I don’t know. I guess it’s just me but yeah I find all of this while working full time and taking care of a 17 month old to be exhausting.

Anonymous wrote:He's 54 and in good health? That's kind of burying the headline. I think you are fine to postpone, but honestly it sounds like you need a break from everything.