Why are people getting psycho and attacking each other over this? Stop with the sweeping pronouncements. The only universal truth about vaginas (and by that I mean the actual vaginal canal) is that you should not put soap and chemicals INSIDE. That's the self-cleaning part.

If a woman washes her external genitals at least daily with plain water or coconut oil or mild soap and water (whatever works), and no one has a complaint about how she smells or tastes, and her vagina feels balanced and healthy, what is the issue? People vary in how much body smell they have and can tolerate in others. People vary in how sensitive they are.

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Anonymous wrote:I had to cut ties with a guy because I found out that he didn't use a washcloth to clean himself and only showered at night. Meaning if we had sex at night(after he showered), he wouldn't shower again until the next evening. Hygiene is a big deal to me.

Why is a washcloth important? It's actually a breeding ground for bacteria. I use my hands to wash myself.

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You wouldn't like dating me...bf and I often have after-morning-shower sex and don't shower again until the next morning.

Anonymous wrote:I had to cut ties with a guy because I found out that he didn't use a washcloth to clean himself and only showered at night. Meaning if we had sex at night(after he showered), he wouldn't shower again until the next evening. Hygiene is a big deal to me.

Why is a washcloth important? It's actually a breeding ground for bacteria. I use my hands to wash myself.

I had to cut ties with a guy because I found out that he didn't use a washcloth to clean himself and only showered at night. Meaning if we had sex at night(after he showered), he wouldn't shower again until the next evening. Hygiene is a big deal to me.

Look, I'm a daily shower-er but lets not kid ourselves about hygiene. Slathering yourself with chemicals and fake odors is not exactly "clean" plus you're actually wiping away a lot of your body's natural defenses/bacteria, oils, etc.

If she's doing a water rinse daily and using soap weekly and does not have odor, she is clean.

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Agreed. This is totally different. Are you sure you just can’t handle being with a vegan? Personally that would be a deal-breaker for me.

Being Vegan is a total deal breaker for me too. It's just too hard to enjoy food together.

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Anonymous wrote:I think she should at least wash her lady bits and armpits daily - not very oily, so no excuse there

You're not supposed to use soap on your lady bits, ever!!

This is not true. You're not supposed to use soap inside your vagina, but you absolutely can use soap on your inner and outer labia.

Incorrect. Using soap on your mucus membranes causes sever stinging. Are you even a woman?

NP and yes a woman. Soap does not sting your inner and outer labia. That is so foul that you don’t use soap to clean yourself. Yuck

It absolutely does sting your inner labia. I found this out the hard way when I was three.

You got soap in your VAGINA, that was not your inner labia. Don't put soap into your vagina and you'll be fine.

Nope, my inner labia. Did you not read the response from the doctor above? “Do not use soap in/on your vagina. The skin is different there”.

Doctors have no special training about soaping your lady parts, that's ridiculous.
And you don't get 'infections' from soaping your labia. You're both looney tunes - maybe you should be together.

They know more than you do. But keep drying out your junk with soap. Gross.

What culture is she from?

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Anonymous wrote:I think she should at least wash her lady bits and armpits daily - not very oily, so no excuse there

You're not supposed to use soap on your lady bits, ever!!

This is not true. You're not supposed to use soap inside your vagina, but you absolutely can use soap on your inner and outer labia.

Incorrect. Using soap on your mucus membranes causes sever stinging. Are you even a woman?

NP and yes a woman. Soap does not sting your inner and outer labia. That is so foul that you don’t use soap to clean yourself. Yuck

It absolutely does sting your inner labia. I found this out the hard way when I was three.

Doctor here: do not use soap in/on your vagina!! That's how you get infections. Soap the surrounding areas. Thaat skin is different/sensitive; rinsing with water is more than sufficient

Doctor I've had my vagina for 40 years and she has been just fine with soap on her. Do what works for you!

Dr Pussy Hygiene. Probably a dude too. Go soap yourself, hon.

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Anonymous wrote:I think she should at least wash her lady bits and armpits daily - not very oily, so no excuse there

You're not supposed to use soap on your lady bits, ever!!

This is not true. You're not supposed to use soap inside your vagina, but you absolutely can use soap on your inner and outer labia.

Incorrect. Using soap on your mucus membranes causes sever stinging. Are you even a woman?

NP and yes a woman. Soap does not sting your inner and outer labia. That is so foul that you don’t use soap to clean yourself. Yuck

It absolutely does sting your inner labia. I found this out the hard way when I was three.

You got soap in your VAGINA, that was not your inner labia. Don't put soap into your vagina and you'll be fine.

Nope, my inner labia. Did you not read the response from the doctor above? “Do not use soap in/on your vagina. The skin is different there”.

Doctors have no special training about soaping your lady parts, that's ridiculous.
And you don't get 'infections' from soaping your labia. You're both looney tunes - maybe you should be together.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. She said she only showers twice a week and washes her hair off once a week because soap strips your skins natural oils. She has a quick rinse off every morning with just water. She is a vegan, and I thought that was hard enough, but this is gross.

Oh! Honestly that's different. Not my style, but totally different than what you claimed initially. Why not give us the full story??

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Yes, this is totally different. Maybe she has severe dry skin or something. I personally would smell if I didn't use soap etc but if she doesn't, then maybe it's not a huge deal?

Agreed. This is totally different. Are you sure you just can’t handle being with a vegan? Personally that would be a deal-breaker for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. She said she only showers twice a week and washes her hair off once a week because soap strips your skins natural oils. She has a quick rinse off every morning with just water. She is a vegan, and I thought that was hard enough, but this is gross.

Oh! Honestly that's different. Not my style, but totally different than what you claimed initially. Why not give us the full story??

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Yes, this is totally different. Maybe she has severe dry skin or something. I personally would smell if I didn't use soap etc but if she doesn't, then maybe it's not a huge deal?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. She said she only showers twice a week and washes her hair off once a week because soap strips your skins natural oils. She has a quick rinse off every morning with just water. She is a vegan, and I thought that was hard enough, but this is gross.

Oh! Honestly that's different. Not my style, but totally different than what you claimed initially. Why not give us the full story??

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Does she take a bath instead? Maybe she meant that she only washes her hair 2x a week? That is fairly common among women who have long, very thick hair. Showering daily actually trains the scalp to produce more oil than it needs to.

I'm assuming that since she doesn't smell bad, she must be taking a daily bath.

OP, you should break up with her because you're not a good fit together. Obviously you didn't notice a hygiene issue previously - you only think there is one now because she doesn't shower the way you think she should.

Everyone has different habits and as long as their hygiene isn't an apparent issue (smelly, visibly dirty or greasy looking) -- then they are doing what's right for them. There's not some universal showering and bathing laws that applies to everyone.