Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is strange. As a married woman, I can assure you marriage and men in general are overrated. If my husband dropped dead tomorrow I would enjoy the life insurance payout and never entertain marriage ever again. Most men are terrible in bed so not sure I'd entertain sex either unless I found a unicorn man. While men tend to live their entire lives focused on sex and female approval, most women do not. Many of us really just don't.l care.
Definitely.
I am a young woman and i see this dynamic all the time. My parents are divorced and my dad would do anything to get back with my mom. He "could" easily be dating 20 year olds, by DCUM logic, as he's wealthy, in good shape, etc. But my mom is it for him. And he, being a functionally healthy human being, has no interest in dating people a fraction of his age anyway.
By contrast, my mom has zero interest in him or really dating at all, though she does read romance novels and stuff, but I think that's partly because it's one of the only genres targeted and written by women, and less about her actually hoping for a man.
I think most women can take or leave men. The reverse is not true in the least. Men spend their time obsessively plotting how to get women.
39 year old divorcee, I am always taken aback when I see women clamoring to find a husband and get married. I want to yell from a mountain top that marriage is designed to benefit men. Period. Why would you want to enter into an arrangement that isn't designed with your best interest in mind?? I did all of the heavy lifting in my marriage and my husband still had the audacity to cheat. I left at 37, never looked back and my life couldn't be better. Meanwhile, my ex would do anything to get back what he had and has been trying to find my replacement with no success.
As a young woman, marriage is looking more and more like a racket and trap for women.