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No, actually, that isn't true. If she's going to a function, the sponsor of that function can and should dictate the dress code. I still can't understand why anyone defends girls (or boys) showing their private parts in public.

If the showing of private parts is your concern, the school can easily address this concern by making the rule "All clothing worn to the homecoming dance must cover the area of the body ordinarily covered by underpants". No need to assess "appropriateness", no pre-clearance of dresses, no scrutiny of teenage girls' bodies by adult school administrators. Are you ok with this rule? I am.

Yes, as I said earlier in the thread, even when the kind of rule you suggest is implemented, it still isn't followed. The girl who was asked to leave the prom at the school my mom works at has her ass crack showing because her dress was so low cut and her mother came to the prom and threw a fit because they wouldn't let her in. This is what some of us are trying to tell you-this isn't just a matter that some girl's shoulders are showing and the adults are being prudes. And, i'm sorry, but if you show up to the prom with your ass crack showing, I call that skanky.

Anonymous wrote:I've seen some pretty slinky/revealing dresses at homecoming and prom. I was under the impression it was the parent's responsibility to make sure their child was dressed appropriately. Unfortunately, parents are not doing their job...so somebody has to do it.

And so it is. Each parent has the job of making the decision for their child about the appropriateness of the child's clothing. To ensure that each parent has done their job, the school can require a signed form from each student attending the homecoming dance. I hereby certify that I do/do not (circle one) consider my child, Larlo/Larla, to be dressed appropriately for the homecoming dance, signed Larlo/Larla's parent. Students whose parents circled "do not" will be turned away at the door.

...necessary?

What harm would result if a girl attended the homecoming dance in a dress you consider unsuitable?

I've seen some pretty slinky/revealing dresses at homecoming and prom. I was under the impression it was the parent's responsibility to make sure their child was dressed appropriately. Unfortunately, parents are not doing their job...so somebody has to do it.

I don't see the problem.

I would see the problem if you had to send in a photo of your daughter IN the dress, for minor protection reasons, but it seems to just say you have to send in a photo of the dress. Not a big deal, forward a link from the website ad or of it on a hanger.

It is sad they need such a rule, but given the skin tight shit I see the girls in my son's ELEMENTARY school wearing, I can totally see why a school might find this necessary.

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Agreed. Some of the girls at Homecoming last year could hardly sit down because their dresses were so short their crotches were exposed. Why is there any argument that aside from going to work in the sex industry, it isn't a good idea to wear dresses that expose your crotch, even if you're not anywhere near boys?

So don't wear a dress like that, and don't allow your daughters (if you have any) to wear dresses like that. There, done.

You're preaching to the choir. I'm still not sure why people think it's ok, or empowering even, to encourage young women (or men, but that seems like far less of a problem) to expose their private parts in public.

Please note the difference between "why are school principals passing judgment on the length of girls' skirts?" and "girls, wear really short skirts, yay!"

Seems like many people here don't think there should be rules. I have to wonder if any of them actually know how far some people will push the rules.

Because we all know everyone in the room will suffer permanent eye damage from seeing too much leg or, GOD FORBID, side boob.

Like I said, you really must have no idea.

I know!!! Sex, drugs and rock & Roll baby! What has the world come to!!!

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No, actually, that isn't true. If she's going to a function, the sponsor of that function can and should dictate the dress code. I still can't understand why anyone defends girls (or boys) showing their private parts in public.

If the showing of private parts is your concern, the school can easily address this concern by making the rule "All clothing worn to the homecoming dance must cover the area of the body ordinarily covered by underpants". No need to assess "appropriateness", no pre-clearance of dresses, no scrutiny of teenage girls' bodies by adult school administrators. Are you ok with this rule? I am.

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Seems like many people here don't think there should be rules. I have to wonder if any of them actually know how far some people will push the rules.

Of course there should be rules. Rules, as a general principle, are fine. Specific rules can be problematic, though. For example, school rules about the amount of skin exposed by dresses worn by teenage girls to high school dances.

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Agreed. Some of the girls at Homecoming last year could hardly sit down because their dresses were so short their crotches were exposed. Why is there any argument that aside from going to work in the sex industry, it isn't a good idea to wear dresses that expose your crotch, even if you're not anywhere near boys?

So don't wear a dress like that, and don't allow your daughters (if you have any) to wear dresses like that. There, done.

You're preaching to the choir. I'm still not sure why people think it's ok, or empowering even, to encourage young women (or men, but that seems like far less of a problem) to expose their private parts in public.

Please note the difference between "why are school principals passing judgment on the length of girls' skirts?" and "girls, wear really short skirts, yay!"

Seems like many people here don't think there should be rules. I have to wonder if any of them actually know how far some people will push the rules.

Because we all know everyone in the room will suffer permanent eye damage from seeing too much leg or, GOD FORBID, side boob.

Like I said, you really must have no idea.

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Agreed. Some of the girls at Homecoming last year could hardly sit down because their dresses were so short their crotches were exposed. Why is there any argument that aside from going to work in the sex industry, it isn't a good idea to wear dresses that expose your crotch, even if you're not anywhere near boys?

So don't wear a dress like that, and don't allow your daughters (if you have any) to wear dresses like that. There, done.

You're preaching to the choir. I'm still not sure why people think it's ok, or empowering even, to encourage young women (or men, but that seems like far less of a problem) to expose their private parts in public.

Please note the difference between "why are school principals passing judgment on the length of girls' skirts?" and "girls, wear really short skirts, yay!"

Seems like many people here don't think there should be rules. I have to wonder if any of them actually know how far some people will push the rules.

Because we all know everyone in the room will suffer permanent eye damage from seeing too much leg or, GOD FORBID, side boob.

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Agreed. Some of the girls at Homecoming last year could hardly sit down because their dresses were so short their crotches were exposed. Why is there any argument that aside from going to work in the sex industry, it isn't a good idea to wear dresses that expose your crotch, even if you're not anywhere near boys?

So don't wear a dress like that, and don't allow your daughters (if you have any) to wear dresses like that. There, done.

You're preaching to the choir. I'm still not sure why people think it's ok, or empowering even, to encourage young women (or men, but that seems like far less of a problem) to expose their private parts in public.

Please note the difference between "why are school principals passing judgment on the length of girls' skirts?" and "girls, wear really short skirts, yay!"

Seems like many people here don't think there should be rules. I have to wonder if any of them actually know how far some people will push the rules.

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Anonymous wrote:I am guessing that in your hometown someone showed up inone of those skanky trashy homecoming dresses that look like a stripper picked it out.

As I tell my kids, stupid school rules are usually the result of A) someone's really stupid action B) Someone getting hurt C) A pita complaining or D) a combination of the three.

Stupid school rules are the result of school administrators making stupid rules. School administrators were not forced to make this rule. A skimpy dress is a skimpy dress, not a gun to the head.

Nope.

Running a school (or any other kids activity) is like organizing a wedding with 2000 mother in laws, each with different ideas on how things should be done.

This rule is a result of trampy mom who things a sexy tramp dress is a great idea for her 14 year old daughter to wow everyone at homecoming.

I bet the dress that sparked this rule was a doozy.

And this forced the school administrators to make a stupid rule because...?

Likely the skanky-ness is ripe at that high school and they uad to shut it down somehow.

Apparently, skanky-ness is the new female empowerment.

And who are you to decide what is skanky and what is not? You know what I find the most skanky behavior of all. Grown ass woman calling little girls skanky no matter what the said little girl is wearing.

Wow, you're quite a drama queen, lol. Sorry, I don't call "little girls" skanky no matter what they're wearing, but I will call 'em as I see 'em. If you're a-ok with teenaged girls going to Homecoming in dresses too short to sit down in and having boys lift those dresses up so their undergarments are in plain view while they freak dance, then I feel sorry for you and the girls you impart that message to. There's nothing empowering for either the boy or the girl in that situation. And, no I don't think the boys should be doing that, either. It's sad that that behavior is tolerated, and even encouraged, from any gender. If we don't have standards for our kids, no one will.

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I don't know about you, but I find the idea of the school principal (or whoever) inspecting photos of my teenage daughter for exposed skin to be kind of skeevy. Not to mention a waste of public money.

But it's fine if she wears the dress so that the whole world can see her exposed skin? lol

People who have a say in this:

1. Her parents
2. Her

People who don't have a say in this:

1. School administrators
2. You
3. Lots of other people

No, actually, that isn't true. If she's going to a function, the sponsor of that function can and should dictate the dress code. I still can't understand why anyone defends girls (or boys) showing their private parts in public.

What are they doing with all the photos of scantily clad girls that they collect??

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Anonymous wrote:I am guessing that in your hometown someone showed up inone of those skanky trashy homecoming dresses that look like a stripper picked it out.

As I tell my kids, stupid school rules are usually the result of A) someone's really stupid action B) Someone getting hurt C) A pita complaining or D) a combination of the three.

Stupid school rules are the result of school administrators making stupid rules. School administrators were not forced to make this rule. A skimpy dress is a skimpy dress, not a gun to the head.

Nope.

Running a school (or any other kids activity) is like organizing a wedding with 2000 mother in laws, each with different ideas on how things should be done.

This rule is a result of trampy mom who things a sexy tramp dress is a great idea for her 14 year old daughter to wow everyone at homecoming.

I bet the dress that sparked this rule was a doozy.

And this forced the school administrators to make a stupid rule because...?

Likely the skanky-ness is ripe at that high school and they uad to shut it down somehow.

Apparently, skanky-ness is the new female empowerment.

And who are you to decide what is skanky and what is not? You know what I find the most skanky behavior of all. Grown ass woman calling little girls skanky no matter what the said little girl is wearing.