Anonymous wrote:Children are not collectibles.

You are soooo irrelevant it's comical.

Anonymous wrote:Nice to see so many people happy to crap on someone's good intentions.

+1000

Anonymous wrote:As an adoptive parent, I too am all-too-aware of the same anti-adoption idiots on this board.

Some of us have children old enough to also read these posts.

As above, don't be ignorant.

Interestingly enough, it is almost always the adopters who show up to discredit those who write from experience about the unethical, coercive, and often illegal adoption practices that are commonplace even today. YOU benefitted from having the financial ability to take a vulnerable woman's child and raise that child. You have not suffered the loss of your family. You have only gained. So of course you think it's great. The system is set up to benefit adopters and profiteers. Sometimes, some RARE times, a child may benefit without any loss or trauma...in the exceedingly rare cases of actual orphans with no kinship ties, maybe. But the rest of us on other sides of the equation - children who have been adopted, and families who have lost loved ones to the adoption industry - know of different truths that don't benefit you.

Rather than dismissing our realities, you'd do well by the children you adopted to understand our perspectives better rather than smugly and defensively dismiss us.

Anonymous wrote:C'mon. If you have been on this board for any length of time you recognize the anti-adoption freaks on here. Same writing style.

--Mom of 2 daughters, both international adoptions, been on this forum for 8 years

I'm one of the people who posts occasionally to point out some of the problematic aspects of the adoption industry. There are many other posters who make similar comments because we have experienced the pain and suffering caused by the adoption industry. You, as an adopter, want to believe that there was no coercion involved in obtaining your children. You are deeply invested in believing that it is only a tiny minority of people who understand that the adoption industry, and most particularly the international adoption industry, is highly unethical and problematic.

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Anonymous wrote:First of all, my husband is Bangladeshi. A lot of the websites online say 1 parent must be a citizen of Bangladesh. I can't find much online. If anyone has adopted a child from Bangladesh, please share your story. Thanks!

Lady Bountiful is here to save a child because she is do wonderful! Instead of stealing another woman's child send money to help her!

Suggest you type that witty response, put it in an envelope and mail to 2017 when someone may care.

Anonymous wrote:First of all, my husband is Bangladeshi. A lot of the websites online say 1 parent must be a citizen of Bangladesh. I can't find much online. If anyone has adopted a child from Bangladesh, please share your story. Thanks!

Lady Bountiful is here to save a child because she is do wonderful! Instead of stealing another woman's child send money to help her!

Anonymous wrote:We want to adopt a girl child...
From nagaland kohima..

https://chlss.org/adoption/international-adoption/india/

We want to adopt a girl child...
From nagaland kohima..

As an adoptive parent, I too am all-too-aware of the same anti-adoption idiots on this board.

Some of us have children old enough to also read these posts.

As above, don't be ignorant.

Anonymous wrote:I'm most positive that children are for sale, yes. But you have to decide if you are OK woth the idea that you are not saving a child, you are purchasing a child.

You are very ignorant.
Adoption is not slavery.

Anonymous wrote:C'mon. If you have been on this board for any length of time you recognize the anti-adoption freaks on here. Same writing style.

--Mom of 2 daughters, both international adoptions, been on this forum for 8 years

8 years! Almost as long as the OP! 😂

C'mon. If you have been on this board for any length of time you recognize the anti-adoption freaks on here. Same writing style.

--Mom of 2 daughters, both international adoptions, been on this forum for 8 years

It is not a healthy dynamic to adopt children for charitable reasons. You are having another child, just by a different means. You should adopt for the same reasons you give birth (because you want to expand the size of your family).

A child is not a cause (not chastising OP, just trying to educate people who don’t understand why offense might be taken),

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Anonymous wrote:Children are not collectibles.

+1 I don't think OP means it this way but the wording is like one would use if you wanted to buy a dress or purse.

OP doesn't sound that way at all. You're projecting.

Sorry, she does to me too. There's a clear Savior Complex mentality shining through here.

Is that a bad thing?

For those who think adoption is easy and there are gobs of kids sitting there waiting, it simply isn’t so. Not only are there few healthy babies (fewer still if you are Caucasian and would also a Caucasian baby or have other specific requests). There are many restrictions as well not to mention fees and studies snd all sorts of barriers. It’s much easier to go other routes like IVF to try to have kids.