You need to pretend all is good, but tell him he needs to find a job right away. After he gets a job then dump his lazy butt. That's a easy one. He's a total loser.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd have a "get a job or we will have to separate" talk.

File when he gets a job.

File when he doesn't get a job.

It would be nice to count on him doing the right thing to be financially solvent but it sounds unlikely. You can't live this way. Good luck.

This sounds like a bluff OP might lose. Her DH might say, "ok, go ahead and file, because my lawyer tells me that as the primary caregiver for the last 6-7 years I will get primary custody and child support and maybe alimony."

Yea. I wonder what the judge will say when she presents evidence that the kids have been in daycare all this time while the loser sat around for 6 years scratching his balls, playing video games.

How does that fit into your narrative?

My loser DW said she was a SAHM while both children were in all-day day care. My lawyer said "a judge might buy it, make her an offer."

You didn't play it right then. I bought my wife out of the house and stayed in it with the kids and dog. I went for physical custody and got it. Since my kids were in aftercare/camps already, there was minimal disruption to their lives. Lawers want to fold. I called the shots.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have a "get a job or we will have to separate" talk.

File when he gets a job.

File when he doesn't get a job.

It would be nice to count on him doing the right thing to be financially solvent but it sounds unlikely. You can't live this way. Good luck.

This sounds like a bluff OP might lose. Her DH might say, "ok, go ahead and file, because my lawyer tells me that as the primary caregiver for the last 6-7 years I will get primary custody and child support and maybe alimony."

Yea. I wonder what the judge will say when she presents evidence that the kids have been in daycare all this time while the loser sat around for 6 years scratching his balls, playing video games.

How does that fit into your narrative?

The same way it does for a SAHM mom with kids in elementary school in daycare.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have a "get a job or we will have to separate" talk.

File when he gets a job.

File when he doesn't get a job.

It would be nice to count on him doing the right thing to be financially solvent but it sounds unlikely. You can't live this way. Good luck.

This sounds like a bluff OP might lose. Her DH might say, "ok, go ahead and file, because my lawyer tells me that as the primary caregiver for the last 6-7 years I will get primary custody and child support and maybe alimony."

Yea. I wonder what the judge will say when she presents evidence that the kids have been in daycare all this time while the loser sat around for 6 years scratching his balls, playing video games.

How does that fit into your narrative?

My loser DW said she was a SAHM while both children were in all-day day care. My lawyer said "a judge might buy it, make her an offer."

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Anonymous wrote:I'd have a "get a job or we will have to separate" talk.

File when he gets a job.

File when he doesn't get a job.

It would be nice to count on him doing the right thing to be financially solvent but it sounds unlikely. You can't live this way. Good luck.

This sounds like a bluff OP might lose. Her DH might say, "ok, go ahead and file, because my lawyer tells me that as the primary caregiver for the last 6-7 years I will get primary custody and child support and maybe alimony."

Yea. I wonder what the judge will say when she presents evidence that the kids have been in daycare all this time while the loser sat around for 6 years scratching his balls, playing video games.

How does that fit into your narrative?

Anonymous wrote:My concern would be he would seek primary physical custody as the SAHP and kids would live with him and you'd end up with visitation, child support, and possibly alimony.

Didnt work that way for ky friend in a similar situation. She has the uncome to qualify to buy him out of thr famiky home. Judge aaw it best that the kids stay in the family home. He, being a loser, could only afford to rent a 1 bedroom apartment in their high rent area of DC, even considering the 3.5k in support she paid a month.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your DH stay home with the kids?

Kids are in school and full time day care. He does take the older one to aftercare activities.

That is a yes he takes care of the kids while you work.

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