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Anonymous wrote:FYI the blogger OP is using as model for this "friend" is Natalie of Designer bags and Dirty Diapers. Split with lawyer husband last year, had rampant spending issues she's admitted to and still exhibits, and is somehow still a SAH divorcee.

Huh? This makes no sense. Who is this person and why do you care?

You keep posting the same thing over and over. Are you Natalie?

No. I read the Goni blog earlier today. Came here and saw this thread- it's clearly based on Natalie. Op is pretending to know her to present her story here and gather DCUM opinions about it. If you know of the blogger or read even the last 2 pages of the GOMI thread about Natalie it is crystal clear. It's totally weird OP dragged it here like she knows this person IRL!

Maybe she does? People post on here from all over the country.

Do you know this Natalie? Because I went to the link you posted and that thread and that web site is...messed up. It's really weird. I'm having a hard time deciding who is more pathetic - this Natalie who evidently wants to stay a SAHM even though she is divorcing or you all for dragging her on the Internet when you don't know her.

Anonymous wrote:Good thing people actually research this stuff.

Yes, men are more likely to remarry. But substantially more women report they don't want to remarry. The gap is closing, though.

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/11/14/chapter-2-the-demographics-of-remarriage/

This makes sense to me. A substantial body of research shows marriage increases women's domestic labor and decreases men. Andecodtally a lot of women exit marriages because they are tired of being the "default parent." So it makes total sense that a good chunk of women would not want to go right back into that dynamic.

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Anonymous wrote:Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc.

You must be joking. The REAL reason many divorced women have a "hell no" attitude toward marrying again is because they got a huge alimony payment, a house, or some other type of large financial settlement and they don't want to risk either the alimony or losing a large chuck of that "nest egg" in another divorce. It's not because of any bullshit about not wanting to be a "thankless caretaker."

Face facts, divorced men are of much higher value than divorced women. Men age like wine while women age like milk. No man with means wants to have to blow dust off your vagina before having sex with you.

Get real.

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I think about I bring to the relationship and it makes sense why men marry again quickly. We plan their social lives, plan family events, have their children, decorate their homes, plan vacations, send thank you notes, schedule the cleaning ladies and home maintenance, buy the children clothing and sign them up for school and activities, buy birthday gifts, plan parties... I could go on! It's not like I need to marry again to find someone to do this stuff because I already do it and I'm not interested in doing it again for another guy. On top of working full time.

Complete bullshit. I do all that stuff and I've never needed a woman living in my home to do them.

Stop asking like you deserve credit for doing your wifely JOB. Don't like it, find some other host to attach to like a parasite.

Yikes. What happened to you that made you this way?

Anonymous wrote:Pp here, here's the thread for context. Right down to the Steve in SATC reference.


https://gomiblog.com/forums/mommy-bloggers/designer-bags-and-dirty-diapers/page-427

Op you don't know those people, why are you bringing it to DCUM pretending these are real acquaintances of yours?

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Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

+1. Men really have a hard time being alone after having been married or in a long term relationship. If my husband and I got divorced he'd probably be in a relationship right away. Being married to my husband has been so challenging that I don't think I'll ever marry again. I'm sure many women say this but I don't even think I would date.

I think about I bring to the relationship and it makes sense why men marry again quickly. We plan their social lives, plan family events, have their children, decorate their homes, plan vacations, send thank you notes, schedule the cleaning ladies and home maintenance, buy the children clothing and sign them up for school and activities, buy birthday gifts, plan parties... I could go on! It's not like I need to marry again to find someone to do this stuff because I already do it and I'm not interested in doing it again for another guy. On top of working full time.

I agree with everything you wrote. I divorced two years ago and for the reasons you listed have little to no desire to be in a relationship, let alone marry. My ex on the other hand has been in countless post marriage relationships in an attempt to recapture everything that he lost. He has a hard time being alone and I suspect that he willremarry soon enough. May the peace of the Lord be with her...

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Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

Haw. Nice job of rationalizing it in terms of what you want to be true.

The fact is, older men who divorce get remarried because they are still attractive enough to find a new partner.

Older women who divorce, especially if they have kids, not so much. ("I'm not old and wrinkled, I'm just really really discriminating! I have zero intention of remarrying, and the fact that nobody's even asking me to has nothing to do with that, honest!")

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This makes sense to me. A substantial body of research shows marriage increases women's domestic labor and decreases men. Andecodtally a lot of women exit marriages because they are tired of being the "default parent." So it makes total sense that a good chunk of women would not want to go right back into that dynamic.

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I think about I bring to the relationship and it makes sense why men marry again quickly. We plan their social lives, plan family events, have their children, decorate their homes, plan vacations, send thank you notes, schedule the cleaning ladies and home maintenance, buy the children clothing and sign them up for school and activities, buy birthday gifts, plan parties... I could go on! It's not like I need to marry again to find someone to do this stuff because I already do it and I'm not interested in doing it again for another guy. On top of working full time.

Complete bullshit. I do all that stuff and I've never needed a woman living in my home to do them.

Stop asking like you deserve credit for doing your wifely JOB. Don't like it, find some other host to attach to like a parasite.

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Said the bitter 48 year old man who hasn't been laid for five years because he's chasing twenty-somethings so he try to make his exW jealous. It's not like YOU actually make enough to send your exW a huge alimony payment.

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I think about I bring to the relationship and it makes sense why men marry again quickly. We plan their social lives, plan family events, have their children, decorate their homes, plan vacations, send thank you notes, schedule the cleaning ladies and home maintenance, buy the children clothing and sign them up for school and activities, buy birthday gifts, plan parties... I could go on! It's not like I need to marry again to find someone to do this stuff because I already do it and I'm not interested in doing it again for another guy. On top of working full time.

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Anonymous wrote:Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc.

You must be joking. The REAL reason many divorced women have a "hell no" attitude toward marrying again is because they got a huge alimony payment, a house, or some other type of large financial settlement and they don't want to risk either the alimony or losing a large chuck of that "nest egg" in another divorce. It's not because of any bullshit about not wanting to be a "thankless caretaker."

Face facts, divorced men are of much higher value than divorced women. Men age like wine while women age like milk. No man with means wants to have to blow dust off your vagina before having sex with you.

Get real.

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Anonymous wrote:Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc.

You must be joking. The REAL reason many divorced women have a "hell no" attitude toward marrying again is because they got a huge alimony payment, a house, or some other type of large financial settlement and they don't want to risk either the alimony or losing a large chuck of that "nest egg" in another divorce. It's not because of any bullshit about not wanting to be a "thankless caretaker."

Face facts, divorced men are of much higher value than divorced women. Men age like wine while women age like milk. No man with means wants to have to blow dust off your vagina before having sex with you.

Get real.