Anonymous
Post 08/06/2017 16:00     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:My neighbor is an oncologist and she is super, super nice. Pretty sure she's a sugar mama to her husband though.


He's how much younger?
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2017 15:41     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doctors or their husbands, I'm fine with. Doctors wives OTOH - I stay the hell away from at parties etc. I'm sure there are some normal ones but everyone I've interacted with has been a little to stuck on the fact that HER man is a DOCTOR while letting it be known she drives a Mercedes and they're off to Hawaii next week. And often while at the same party, their doctor DH will be in a different conversation complaining about loans or how he's gotten such a late start on retirement planning or whatever. Doctors' wives who have nothing going on of their own put on too many airs.


My husband is a doctor and we drive a Toyota.


+1

An 11 year old Toyota.

But this is DCUM and OP started this thread based on being judgmental so it's to be expected people.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2017 13:44     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
I assume they're cold.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2017 13:44     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:Doctors or their husbands, I'm fine with. Doctors wives OTOH - I stay the hell away from at parties etc. I'm sure there are some normal ones but everyone I've interacted with has been a little to stuck on the fact that HER man is a DOCTOR while letting it be known she drives a Mercedes and they're off to Hawaii next week. And often while at the same party, their doctor DH will be in a different conversation complaining about loans or how he's gotten such a late start on retirement planning or whatever. Doctors' wives who have nothing going on of their own put on too many airs.


My husband is a doctor and we drive a Toyota.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2017 12:58     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doctors or their husbands, I'm fine with. Doctors wives OTOH - I stay the hell away from at parties etc. I'm sure there are some normal ones but everyone I've interacted with has been a little to stuck on the fact that HER man is a DOCTOR while letting it be known she drives a Mercedes and they're off to Hawaii next week. And often while at the same party, their doctor DH will be in a different conversation complaining about loans or how he's gotten such a late start on retirement planning or whatever. Doctors' wives who have nothing going on of their own put on too many airs.


Doctor's wife here....glad we aren't at the same parties. If you'd deign to talk to me I could tell you about my life or even (gasp) my career (the one that allowed us to pay off his med school loan and make the downpayment on our house) or the new tires on my ten year old Honda (he drives a Mercedes, by the way... the one I paid cash for before we got married but I needed an SUV when we had kids).

Or maybe, JUST MAYBE, you might want to get to know me as a person who is proud to be married an incredibly hardworking guy (pediatric specialist) who really has a vocation, not a career. He saves kids' lives and the stress and toll are eating him up. But you go ahead and avoid me.... I think I'd prefer that, anyway.


omg

not the first PP - But I'd stay away from you, too.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2017 10:33     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Good for them.

Now once I start working with them, it will either be they're great or how in the hell did you get through school.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2017 22:51     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you impressed or make judgements about personality? Does it differ with gender?


Frist thoughts:
Female- cool. Wish I had the opportunity to have done the same.

Male- I know whose wife to avoid unless wife is also a doc


Yep.


I don't get it. You avoid an MDs wife...why?
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2017 22:47     Subject: Re:What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have no problem with them socially. The doctors I know are smart, funny, and kind. But when I need a health care provider for me or my family, I try to avoid MDs. I have a strong preference for PAs or Nurse Practitioners. I think they are much, much better at listening and treating patients as people and not just a collection of symptoms. And I think they are usually smarter than doctors.


DH is an MD and some of the stories of the highly qualified and really good at what he does PA makes me shudder. Give me an MD anyway.


(I am not understanding your comment)


A doctor wife who tells her stories of how he saved the day from his idiot coworkers. Your standard my husband is a doctor ( bow down) spiel that the wives spit out in between blathering on about their latest vacation and new car and cosmetic work to keep from focusing on the fact their husband is likely cheating on them with that idiot PA.


That's just uncalled for. No I don't start off every conversation with my husband is a doctor. I am also accomplished myself. His PA is actually very good but still makes mistakes sometimes that an MD would have caught, sometimes with disastrous consequences. Yes PAs and NPs are the future due to our medical personnel shortage, but if I could choose I will choose to see a MD anytime. Each to their own. You need to seek therapy for the bile you spew


Different doctor wife here. I have better things to talk about than what my husband does for a living. I never bring it up first. I think it seems quite odd that you would avoid me because my husband is a physician. DH never mentions his profession either.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2017 15:08     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you impressed or make judgements about personality? Does it differ with gender?


Frist thoughts:
Female- cool. Wish I had the opportunity to have done the same.

Male- I know whose wife to avoid unless wife is also a doc


Yep.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2017 14:48     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:Are you impressed or make judgements about personality? Does it differ with gender?


Frist thoughts:
Female- cool. Wish I had the opportunity to have done the same.

Male- I know whose wife to avoid unless wife is also a doc
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2017 14:34     Subject: Re:What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have no problem with them socially. The doctors I know are smart, funny, and kind. But when I need a health care provider for me or my family, I try to avoid MDs. I have a strong preference for PAs or Nurse Practitioners. I think they are much, much better at listening and treating patients as people and not just a collection of symptoms. And I think they are usually smarter than doctors.


DH is an MD and some of the stories of the highly qualified and really good at what he does PA makes me shudder. Give me an MD anyway.


(I am not understanding your comment)


A doctor wife who tells her stories of how he saved the day from his idiot coworkers. Your standard my husband is a doctor ( bow down) spiel that the wives spit out in between blathering on about their latest vacation and new car and cosmetic work to keep from focusing on the fact their husband is likely cheating on them with that idiot PA.


That's just uncalled for. No I don't start off every conversation with my husband is a doctor. I am also accomplished myself. His PA is actually very good but still makes mistakes sometimes that an MD would have caught, sometimes with disastrous consequences. Yes PAs and NPs are the future due to our medical personnel shortage, but if I could choose I will choose to see a MD anytime. Each to their own. You need to seek therapy for the bile you spew


MDs make mistakes too with disastrous conseqquenses and sometimes PAs and NPs catch them. It truly is a team effort good MDs know this. I have a lot of respect and appreciation for both roles and know many PAs or NPs I'd prefer to see over the physician in some cases.

- an MD


+1. I'm pretty sure MD spouse isn't sharing the stories about how he made a mistake and the PA caught it, but it happens.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2017 14:34     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
The only doctors I know who are jerks are surgeons.
Surgeons have highly inflated egos.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2017 14:32     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
My neighbor is an oncologist and she is super, super nice. Pretty sure she's a sugar mama to her husband though.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2017 14:32     Subject: Re:What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have no problem with them socially. The doctors I know are smart, funny, and kind. But when I need a health care provider for me or my family, I try to avoid MDs. I have a strong preference for PAs or Nurse Practitioners. I think they are much, much better at listening and treating patients as people and not just a collection of symptoms. And I think they are usually smarter than doctors.


DH is an MD and some of the stories of the highly qualified and really good at what he does PA makes me shudder. Give me an MD anyway.


(I am not understanding your comment)


A doctor wife who tells her stories of how he saved the day from his idiot coworkers. Your standard my husband is a doctor ( bow down) spiel that the wives spit out in between blathering on about their latest vacation and new car and cosmetic work to keep from focusing on the fact their husband is likely cheating on them with that idiot PA.


That's just uncalled for. No I don't start off every conversation with my husband is a doctor. I am also accomplished myself. His PA is actually very good but still makes mistakes sometimes that an MD would have caught, sometimes with disastrous consequences. Yes PAs and NPs are the future due to our medical personnel shortage, but if I could choose I will choose to see a MD anytime. Each to their own. You need to seek therapy for the bile you spew


MDs make mistakes too with disastrous conseqquenses and sometimes PAs and NPs catch them. It truly is a team effort good MDs know this. I have a lot of respect and appreciation for both roles and know many PAs or NPs I'd prefer to see over the physician in some cases.

- an MD
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2017 14:29     Subject: What do you think when you find out someone is a doctor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think he/she is probably an asshole and I'm a doctor.


Really? Aren't all your friends doctors? I always see doctors whose only social circle is other doctors and their spouses -- so I figured it was a profession where people liked each other.


Yeah that seems like an odd comment from a physician. I'm one and I like the vast majority of physicians I know. Sure there are some that I don't care for but that's likely in any profession.



PP here. I have some a couple of friends that are fellow physicians, but most I come across and work with are assholes with a very narrow view of the world, but that might be because most of the doctors I know come from very privileged backgrounds.