Anonymous
09/15/2017 10:42
Subject: Re:It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Man here. She wasn't really funny but she has a point. Men would do better in relationships if they paid more attention to women and did more small, kind gestures. However, it's not exactly easy for men to do, it's not intuitive.
Women yearn to be treated like shit. It makes them horny.
This is true, study show women tend to sleep with jerks. They might settle down with a nice guy but that's not the guy they want to screw
Study show? Can you show the study?
NP, so I don't know what studies PP was talking about, but here is one:
The Dark Triad personality: Attractiveness to women
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/273809664_The_Dark_Triad_personality_Attractiveness_to_women
("DT" = "Dark Triad" which refers to narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy)
"To explore the attractiveness of the DT personality to the other sex, 128 women rated created (male) characters designed to capture high DT facets of personality or a control personality. Physicality was held constant. Women rated the high DT character as signi?cantly more attractive. Moreover, this greater attractiveness was not explained by correlated perceptions of Big 5 traits. [Big 5 Traits are Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Neuroticism, Openness, and Extraversion.] These ?ndings are considered in light of mating strategies, the evolutionary ‘arms race’ and individual differences."
I've observed this at work in the real world and, so, tend to be skeptical when women talk about "what they like in a guy." What they like in a guy who is a friend or long term partner isn't necessarily what they like in a guy who they want to have sex with. When men talk about "what they like in a woman," those traits are almost always positively correlated with women with whom they'd like to have sex.
Anonymous
09/15/2017 08:00
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:I read this thread yesterday and then I went to work last night. I'm female. I teach a graduate class at UMD. It's mostly adults.
At 10pm last night class ended and the students started to leave. I was shutting down the classroom. The last student--a man, walked out the door. About 2 sec later, he walked back in and asked me if I was okay walking to my car myself or if I would like him to stay and walk me to my car.
I'm faculty and am able to park directly outside the building so I told him I was fine. The building is on the quad and even though it was 10pm, I knew it would still be alive with college kids.
On my drive home, I couldn't help but smile. A man extended a nice gesture to me and showed concern that I might not feel safe walking to my car. It's basic human kindness and I haven't seen that in so long that it made me smile.
That was thoughtful! I usually turn down offers like this, but I usually appreciate them!
Anonymous
09/15/2017 07:36
Subject: Re:It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Man here. She wasn't really funny but she has a point. Men would do better in relationships if they paid more attention to women and did more small, kind gestures. However, it's not exactly easy for men to do, it's not intuitive.
Women yearn to be treated like shit. It makes them horny.
This is true, study show women tend to sleep with jerks. They might settle down with a nice guy but that's not the guy they want to screw
Study show? Can you show the study?
Anonymous
09/15/2017 07:34
Subject: Re:It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Man here. She wasn't really funny but she has a point. Men would do better in relationships if they paid more attention to women and did more small, kind gestures. However, it's not exactly easy for men to do, it's not intuitive.
Women yearn to be treated like shit. It makes them horny.
This is true, study show women tend to sleep with jerks. They might settle down with a nice guy but that's not the guy they want to screw
Anonymous
09/15/2017 07:33
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not dire for me. As an attractive, very fit, active male with a good job it's easy quite frankly. I'm divorced, have 50% custody and still have no issues finding women to have sex with. Dovorced, never married and even women with boyfriends. I've slept with plenty since my divorce. It's a matter of meeting them at the right places and not being a dope.
Here are the key points:
Stay in shape, women don't like fat dudes
Buy good, nice fitting clothes. You don't need to spend tons of money to look good. Just buy stuff that fit rights and have some class
Even if all else is falling sort, come in to your job ready to work and perform the best you can. Without a job you have no purpose or income
Find an activity that doesn't invoke video games and getting fat. Get off the couch.
Be an awesome dad, it gives purpose and makes you really happy. Plus when women see pictures of me with my beautiful happy kid it makes them melt.
Be spontaneous as much as possible - I understand with kids/job there's only so much you can do - but trying to live life as fully as possible will help.
Don't piss off your ex wife too much - chances are she or her friends somehow know the lady you're trying to hook up with - six degreees if separation and all.
Be funny, women lie to laugh...just don't steal my material. Get you're own bit.
And I can stress this one enough...once again be fit and approachable. Having a good body does go a long way. As does not being an asshat. You'd be shocked how often I get approached just being me and having a smile on my face. I'm the lovable dad everyone likes.
So dumb! But thanks for the stupid afvice
Oh watch out everyone, a triggered fat forever alone dude
Anonymous
09/14/2017 23:42
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
I read this thread yesterday and then I went to work last night. I'm female. I teach a graduate class at UMD. It's mostly adults.
At 10pm last night class ended and the students started to leave. I was shutting down the classroom. The last student--a man, walked out the door. About 2 sec later, he walked back in and asked me if I was okay walking to my car myself or if I would like him to stay and walk me to my car.
I'm faculty and am able to park directly outside the building so I told him I was fine. The building is on the quad and even though it was 10pm, I knew it would still be alive with college kids.
On my drive home, I couldn't help but smile. A man extended a nice gesture to me and showed concern that I might not feel safe walking to my car. It's basic human kindness and I haven't seen that in so long that it made me smile.
At 10pm last night class ended and the students started to leave. I was shutting down the classroom. The last student--a man, walked out the door. About 2 sec later, he walked back in and asked me if I was okay walking to my car myself or if I would like him to stay and walk me to my car.
I'm faculty and am able to park directly outside the building so I told him I was fine. The building is on the quad and even though it was 10pm, I knew it would still be alive with college kids.
On my drive home, I couldn't help but smile. A man extended a nice gesture to me and showed concern that I might not feel safe walking to my car. It's basic human kindness and I haven't seen that in so long that it made me smile.
Anonymous
09/14/2017 23:29
Subject: Re:It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:Man here. She wasn't really funny but she has a point. Men would do better in relationships if they paid more attention to women and did more small, kind gestures. However, it's not exactly easy for men to do, it's not intuitive.
Women yearn to be treated like shit. It makes them horny.
Anonymous
09/14/2017 22:48
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not dire for me. As an attractive, very fit, active male with a good job it's easy quite frankly. I'm divorced, have 50% custody and still have no issues finding women to have sex with. Dovorced, never married and even women with boyfriends. I've slept with plenty since my divorce. It's a matter of meeting them at the right places and not being a dope.
Here are the key points:
Stay in shape, women don't like fat dudes
Buy good, nice fitting clothes. You don't need to spend tons of money to look good. Just buy stuff that fit rights and have some class
Even if all else is falling sort, come in to your job ready to work and perform the best you can. Without a job you have no purpose or income
Find an activity that doesn't invoke video games and getting fat. Get off the couch.
Be an awesome dad, it gives purpose and makes you really happy. Plus when women see pictures of me with my beautiful happy kid it makes them melt.
Be spontaneous as much as possible - I understand with kids/job there's only so much you can do - but trying to live life as fully as possible will help.
Don't piss off your ex wife too much - chances are she or her friends somehow know the lady you're trying to hook up with - six degreees if separation and all.
Be funny, women lie to laugh...just don't steal my material. Get you're own bit.
And I can stress this one enough...once again be fit and approachable. Having a good body does go a long way. As does not being an asshat. You'd be shocked how often I get approached just being me and having a smile on my face. I'm the lovable dad everyone likes.
Taking romantic advice from a divorced guy is like going to a dentist with bad teeth.
Some divorced guys are divorced through no fault of their own.
Anonymous
09/14/2017 21:16
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She's right.
-A woman
Maybe you should date her.
Maybe. She's pretty cute.
Anonymous
09/14/2017 21:09
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:She's right.
-A woman
Maybe you should date her.
Anonymous
09/14/2017 20:30
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
I thought she was spot on. I was just talking to my SO about our communication yesterday. I would love it if he would engage in the conversation more.
Anonymous
09/14/2017 15:17
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
She's right.
-A woman
-A woman
Anonymous
09/14/2017 15:13
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:Not dire for me. As an attractive, very fit, active male with a good job it's easy quite frankly. I'm divorced, have 50% custody and still have no issues finding women to have sex with. Dovorced, never married and even women with boyfriends. I've slept with plenty since my divorce. It's a matter of meeting them at the right places and not being a dope.
Here are the key points:
Stay in shape, women don't like fat dudes
Buy good, nice fitting clothes. You don't need to spend tons of money to look good. Just buy stuff that fit rights and have some class
Even if all else is falling sort, come in to your job ready to work and perform the best you can. Without a job you have no purpose or income
Find an activity that doesn't invoke video games and getting fat. Get off the couch.
Be an awesome dad, it gives purpose and makes you really happy. Plus when women see pictures of me with my beautiful happy kid it makes them melt.
Be spontaneous as much as possible - I understand with kids/job there's only so much you can do - but trying to live life as fully as possible will help.
Don't piss off your ex wife too much - chances are she or her friends somehow know the lady you're trying to hook up with - six degreees if separation and all.
Be funny, women lie to laugh...just don't steal my material. Get you're own bit.
And I can stress this one enough...once again be fit and approachable. Having a good body does go a long way. As does not being an asshat. You'd be shocked how often I get approached just being me and having a smile on my face. I'm the lovable dad everyone likes.
So dumb! But thanks for the stupid afvice
Anonymous
09/14/2017 14:55
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
I thought she was cute. Not particularly funny, but cute.
But yes, men should pay attention to their women, and women should dress up and f*ck their men.
But yes, men should pay attention to their women, and women should dress up and f*ck their men.
Anonymous
09/14/2017 14:54
Subject: It's a dire situation for men out there today
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not dire for me. As an attractive, very fit, active male with a good job it's easy quite frankly. I'm divorced, have 50% custody and still have no issues finding women to have sex with. Dovorced, never married and even women with boyfriends. I've slept with plenty since my divorce. It's a matter of meeting them at the right places and not being a dope.
Here are the key points:
Stay in shape, women don't like fat dudes
Buy good, nice fitting clothes. You don't need to spend tons of money to look good. Just buy stuff that fit rights and have some class
Even if all else is falling sort, come in to your job ready to work and perform the best you can. Without a job you have no purpose or income
Find an activity that doesn't invoke video games and getting fat. Get off the couch.
Be an awesome dad, it gives purpose and makes you really happy. Plus when women see pictures of me with my beautiful happy kid it makes them melt.
Be spontaneous as much as possible - I understand with kids/job there's only so much you can do - but trying to live life as fully as possible will help.
Don't piss off your ex wife too much - chances are she or her friends somehow know the lady you're trying to hook up with - six degreees if separation and all.
Be funny, women lie to laugh...just don't steal my material. Get you're own bit.
And I can stress this one enough...once again be fit and approachable. Having a good body does go a long way. As does not being an asshat. You'd be shocked how often I get approached just being me and having a smile on my face. I'm the lovable dad everyone likes.
Taking romantic advice from a divorced guy is like going to a dentist with bad teeth.
He's
Probably getting laid more than you...
True. But "don't be married" would have been more to the point.