Anonymous
Post 08/10/2025 10:47     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those of you that have girls in lacrosse or have had them at St Stephen’s; would you recommend the program for your daughter and why or why not?



No.


More prooof of the “snowflakization” of entitled wealthy families. Oh, the trauma of being held accountable by a tough coach who wins more than any coach in the history of hs girls lacrosse.

Anonymous
Post 08/10/2025 00:14     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
SD coming out from hiding!!!!
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2025 23:49     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Everyone knows who this post is from
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2025 22:37     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
My daughter was on her 28 Stars team two years ago in 8th grade and is at a public school now. She certainly goes to a fu€k ton of weddings for former players in their 20’s for someone is so hated by her players.

“Where was Coach Kathy?”

“At another wedding.” - I don’t buy the hate, I think it’s Maryland parents.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2025 13:25     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:For those of you that have girls in lacrosse or have had them at St Stephen’s; would you recommend the program for your daughter and why or why not?



No.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2025 08:42     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those of you that have girls in lacrosse or have had them at St Stephen’s; would you recommend the program for your daughter and why or why not?


There is not a single current varsity player who would recommend the program to anyone. It has been a negative experience overall.


+100. Absolutely true. Even the favorite players hate it.


Interesting....This thread was started in 2017 and the parent feedback is the same
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2025 08:36     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those of you that have girls in lacrosse or have had them at St Stephen’s; would you recommend the program for your daughter and why or why not?
Its definitely not kinder or gentler for those little girls. You only need to talk to the parents of the graduated kids to understand how many times the parents have complained about KJ or one of the other coaches. At one point during my daughter's time there, more than half the starting line up was in counseling to survive the season. School knew and did nothing. It ultimately worked out fine, but not sure winning an ISL or State title is worth that much angst from 17-18 year old girls.


The school absolutely knows and does nothing because administrators’ kids were benefiting from that very program getting recruited to college.


Well that kid is a 26. So what is the reason to put up with this and subject these girls to this toxicity after next year?
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2025 08:31     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:I think KJ record speaks for itself. I find it crazy that people think that you just need to put on a Saints jersey and you are automatically a champion and can pick any college you want. It takes hard work and discipline to become that good. You have to dedicate yourself to the sport and getting better. The system is in place and has been incredibly successful for decades, so ask yourself what have you contributed to the success other than enrolling, paying tuition, and showing up. KJ's handling of players is very similar to college coaches and the girls should get used to it.


You do not sound like someone who played at SSSAS or has a daughter who played at SSSAS. I am pretty sure verbal and emotional abuse like this is not tolerated anymore. For many of these girls it begins in middle school so they put up with it for 6 or 7 years because they feel like their goal must be to play in college.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2025 08:26     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those of you that have girls in lacrosse or have had them at St Stephen’s; would you recommend the program for your daughter and why or why not?


There is not a single current varsity player who would recommend the program to anyone. It has been a negative experience overall.


+100. Absolutely true. Even the favorite players hate it.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2025 08:14     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
I think KJ record speaks for itself. I find it crazy that people think that you just need to put on a Saints jersey and you are automatically a champion and can pick any college you want. It takes hard work and discipline to become that good. You have to dedicate yourself to the sport and getting better. The system is in place and has been incredibly successful for decades, so ask yourself what have you contributed to the success other than enrolling, paying tuition, and showing up. KJ's handling of players is very similar to college coaches and the girls should get used to it.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2025 07:52     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those of you that have girls in lacrosse or have had them at St Stephen’s; would you recommend the program for your daughter and why or why not?
Its definitely not kinder or gentler for those little girls. You only need to talk to the parents of the graduated kids to understand how many times the parents have complained about KJ or one of the other coaches. At one point during my daughter's time there, more than half the starting line up was in counseling to survive the season. School knew and did nothing. It ultimately worked out fine, but not sure winning an ISL or State title is worth that much angst from 17-18 year old girls.


The school absolutely knows and does nothing because administrators’ kids were benefiting from that very program getting recruited to college.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2025 07:11     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: Boys program has been in shambles for last few years. Girls will be next especially once KJ leaves after the 26 class. Non scholarships has killed program and the current AD and board could care less about athletics. So remove that why would anyone consider going to a mid academic school for that price point.


Don't kid yourself. KJ is not leaving any time soon.


As an outsider, it seems likely that next season would be her last. She’ll have a great team positioned for a championship run, which I understand would coincide with her 50th year coaching and 75th birthday. She’s had a wonderful successful career and potentially going out on top in a year full of milestones makes perfect sense to me. Maybe she’s a die hard and will continue forever, but the 2026 season could be a storybook ending of a storybook career.


Yes, it could be however it is not happening. I can assure you. This was also said after the 22s and the 24s.


Putting aside the milestones, which should not be put aside, the future would have been looking pretty bright after the 24s. Will the outlook after the 26s be nearly as good? How long would it take to rebuild? Get ready for the KJ retirement tour coming to an ISL school near you in 2026.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2025 06:20     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:For those of you that have girls in lacrosse or have had them at St Stephen’s; would you recommend the program for your daughter and why or why not?


There is not a single current varsity player who would recommend the program to anyone. It has been a negative experience overall.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2025 21:30     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:SSSAS has two problems. Since they draw from the immediate area almost exclusively, they have by far the most homogeneous population in the IAC. And yes, the lacrosse kids run the school (or at least think they do). Lots of bad behavior.


I have a daughter who plays at SSSAS and I haven't seen much bad behavior on the girls side.


You are delusional. Or your daughter is one of the annual two to three favorite players of the coach.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2025 17:06     Subject: Lacrosse culture at St Stephens.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: Boys program has been in shambles for last few years. Girls will be next especially once KJ leaves after the 26 class. Non scholarships has killed program and the current AD and board could care less about athletics. So remove that why would anyone consider going to a mid academic school for that price point.


Don't kid yourself. KJ is not leaving any time soon.


As an outsider, it seems likely that next season would be her last. She’ll have a great team positioned for a championship run, which I understand would coincide with her 50th year coaching and 75th birthday. She’s had a wonderful successful career and potentially going out on top in a year full of milestones makes perfect sense to me. Maybe she’s a die hard and will continue forever, but the 2026 season could be a storybook ending of a storybook career.


Yes, it could be however it is not happening. I can assure you. This was also said after the 22s and the 24s.