Anonymous
06/25/2017 16:42
Subject: Anyone else here hate having a baby?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I felt the same way with my first. Swore I would never have another baby. It's so so hard. I gave everything away as soon as he outgrew it. Then 4 years later he became a kid and is so fun and I decided we needed another wonderful little person in our family. Now 4 months into the second kid and it's a whole different experience. I'm so happy and it's so easy. And not so isolating because the older one is around too. Anyways, my point is that it does get better. In retrospect maybe I had PPD, maybe not. I just found the transition to motherhood so difficult. Get therapy if you can. If not, seek friends with babies the same age and get together with them as often as possible so at least you won't be alone.
Reading this makes me even more depressed. Your life sounds horrible.
So then give your baby up for adoption and be done. You do have options.
Could I really do this?
Obviously yes.
It's likely that she can't, as the baby probably has another parent. You can't place a baby for adoption without both parents' consent.
Even if she could, if she's looking to return to life the way it was before pregnancy, placing her husband's child for adoption might seriously alter that relationship.
Anonymous
06/25/2017 16:33
Subject: Anyone else here hate having a baby?
People always jump to "maybe you have postpartum depression." I have two kids. I did not have postpartum depression. I actually loved the baby stage, but still did not like my life. Some people just don't enjoy motherhood. I don't. I am not depressed. It is just not my thing. (I did not really want kids...my husband changed his mind after marriage. #1 was conceived right after I stopped the pill only to stop my husband's incessant badgering. I did not think one time would end up in a pregnancy. The second was conceived when I thought I was out of the ovulation window. Sometimes, people just don't like motherhood and it is not depression. You can still love your kids and not enjoy being a parent.
Anonymous
06/25/2017 16:25
Subject: Anyone else here hate having a baby?
If you indeed don't like your baby or motherhood, please post on Infertility page. There will be so many who can come forward for an official adoption.
Anonymous
06/24/2017 21:05
Subject: Anyone else here hate having a baby?
Look, I get it. You want your previous life back. Breastfeeding can make anyone feel tied down. Lack of sleep is a bitch.
But please, please get help. What you are dealing with is normal but you do not sound like you are in a good place to deal with it normally. Hire someone to help you with the baby. It doesn't seem like it now but this is just going to last for a matter of months and then things will be different. But you need to get help. Just do it.
But please, please get help. What you are dealing with is normal but you do not sound like you are in a good place to deal with it normally. Hire someone to help you with the baby. It doesn't seem like it now but this is just going to last for a matter of months and then things will be different. But you need to get help. Just do it.
Anonymous
06/22/2017 21:01
Subject: Re:Anyone else here hate having a baby?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here. I started feeling better later on during the day. I did realize I drank 3 nights this past weekend. Perhaps it led to me hitting rock bottom this morning? I hated myself so much. I'm already on medication and maybe it doesn't work when I drink?
Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm okay, OP. Not sure if you're a troll or not but feel better soon either way.
+1 I don't like to call "troll" in case it's a real person who needs help, but this all sounds very sketchy.
Op here. Not a troll. Almost wish I were.
But you are breastfeeding and drank for 3 consecutive nights?
NP. So what? A drink three nights in a row is fine. Maybe if she was drinking to the point of being black out drunk, or she's drinking to self-medicate her feelings, there would be an issue. But having a drink while breastfeeding is not an automatic red flag. (Plenty of other things OP wrote are red flags)
Anonymous
06/22/2017 20:15
Subject: Re:Anyone else here hate having a baby?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here. I started feeling better later on during the day. I did realize I drank 3 nights this past weekend. Perhaps it led to me hitting rock bottom this morning? I hated myself so much. I'm already on medication and maybe it doesn't work when I drink?
Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm okay, OP. Not sure if you're a troll or not but feel better soon either way.
+1 I don't like to call "troll" in case it's a real person who needs help, but this all sounds very sketchy.
Op here. Not a troll. Almost wish I were.
But you are breastfeeding and drank for 3 consecutive nights?
Only 2 drinks per night and pumped and dumped afterwards.
Anonymous
06/22/2017 20:01
Subject: Re:Anyone else here hate having a baby?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here. I started feeling better later on during the day. I did realize I drank 3 nights this past weekend. Perhaps it led to me hitting rock bottom this morning? I hated myself so much. I'm already on medication and maybe it doesn't work when I drink?
Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm okay, OP. Not sure if you're a troll or not but feel better soon either way.
+1 I don't like to call "troll" in case it's a real person who needs help, but this all sounds very sketchy.
Op here. Not a troll. Almost wish I were.
But you are breastfeeding and drank for 3 consecutive nights?