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Anonymous wrote:"Issues like racism, sexual harassment..they would've lost their federal funding."

You obviously live under a rock.

Seriously? These issues have to do with federal law, but nobody at NCS wants to admit that there is a real problem. And yet everyone else in town is talking all about it.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/laws/federal/

Oh please. NCS handles these issues better than most. In fact part of the problem is that I don't think having clubs and groups based on race helps build a united community. That's the case I think at many schools nowadays. I think at one point in time the idea of having clubs and organizations at schools based on race were probably helpful and a great idea. However, now with such a global society and with so many different ethnicities and religions at these schools, it seems impossible to have a group for each ethnicity. Therefore some have them and some do not. It's just an observation that I have made and our family is diverse. I would suggest all schools should have clubs and organizations solely based on interests and not on race to unite students.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Strained relationship with STA the last few years.

That's cause so many of the boys are proud chauvinists.

Nice way to deflect and totally untrue. My son is at STA and neither he nor his classmates in the upper school are chauvinists. NCS is an utter crap show compared to STA. It is common knowledge that STA is a better envirnment for students in every way. Its no surprise that many STA boys' sisters go to Holton, Potomac, SR, Visi, and other schools with better balance and morals and behavior. The ONLY thing about NCS that makes it a top school is its rigorous and greuling academics. Its social enviroment is toxic.

I'm sorry if you feel this way but honestly you have no right to go after the school or students like that. It may be true in the younger divisions of the school, such as lower and middle, that the social environment is problematic. However, the upper division - the reason NCS has its reputation as a top school, is actually very supportive of one another. All of the girls there seem to understand the kind of pressure and duress each of them face and for the most part are very encouraging. In response to the bit regarding chauvinists, that actually is an accurate view point. Although that characteristic is seen in most boys schools. I feel that the girls at NCS do face quite a bit more of objectification and sexualization from the other side of the close - but that could just be because most boys schools don't have that close of contact with their sister schools, unlike NCS and STA who have classes and sports with each other. The relationship between NCS and STA has been strained for a long time now and both sides are to blame. The "toxicity" of NCS is not coming from the students as much as it is the faculty. The staff at NCS is constantly reminding the girls how they should act around STA boys and have to take many health and wellness courses over their time at the school while at St. Albans they only have to take one throughout their entire career. The girls are constantly being whipped into shape to a point where it really affects them while it seems like the boys have a total lack of awareness as well as discipline.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Strained relationship with STA the last few years.

That's cause so many of the boys are proud chauvinists.

Nice way to deflect and totally untrue. My son is at STA and neither he nor his classmates in the upper school are chauvinists. NCS is an utter crap show compared to STA. It is common knowledge that STA is a better envirnment for students in every way. Its no surprise that many STA boys' sisters go to Holton, Potomac, SR, Visi, and other schools with better balance and morals and behavior. The ONLY thing about NCS that makes it a top school is its rigorous and greuling academics. Its social enviroment is toxic.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Issues like racism, sexual harassment..they would've lost their federal funding."

You obviously live under a rock.

Seriously? These issues have to do with federal law, but nobody at NCS wants to admit that there is a real problem. And yet everyone else in town is talking all about it.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/laws/federal/

I think they'll pay attention after they get sued when one of these girls is driven to do something tragic...but they'll only change as a PR move. So sad...

Anonymous wrote:"Issues like racism, sexual harassment..they would've lost their federal funding."

You obviously live under a rock.

Seriously? These issues have to do with federal law, but nobody at NCS wants to admit that there is a real problem. And yet everyone else in town is talking all about it.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/laws/federal/

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter wasn't an Alpha and we're not a member of clique. Once again the school, heck, any school can only do so much with social media. Be proactive at NCS or any school for that matter and if your child has their face glued to the screen on vacations and trips to grandmas then you're the problem. Yes, you. Make sure your kid doesn't sleep with his/her phone. Make them leave it downstairs or turn off the WIFI in your house and use your provider to limit hours and you can block the people who are bulling being bullied.

Be more than a friend on Facebook be a parent.

This. Very good advice. My oldest is still in elementary school but all of this terrifies me. There is such a carefree attitude among parents with regard to electronics. I saw some 11 year old boys the other day texting away, (maybe snap chatting?) and I asked them how old they were when they got there 1st I phones. They said ten. The boys were very polite but I was shocked that they had phones. Where is the parental control? I have a 9 year old-I make many parenting mistakes I'm sure and am not perfect but I'm very strict about electronics. They watch some movies on the weekends with us, use the ipad for a school math program maybe once a month and that's it. Why are so many parents letting their kids get on fb, play video games, and have i phones? Fb is so evil and no child has any business being on it. And don't say it's inevitable, you could make the same argument for drugs, sex, or anything for the matter.

My 9 year old had a sleep over last week. At some point during the evening, four of the six guests asked me for our wi-fi password. I was (naively, I admit) shocked, as my kids don't have personal electronics and it never occurred to me that guests of this age would have them, and bring them to a sleepover.

"Issues like racism, sexual harassment..they would've lost their federal funding."

You obviously live under a rock.

Anonymous wrote:My daughter wasn't an Alpha and we're not a member of clique. Once again the school, heck, any school can only do so much with social media. Be proactive at NCS or any school for that matter and if your child has their face glued to the screen on vacations and trips to grandmas then you're the problem. Yes, you. Make sure your kid doesn't sleep with his/her phone. Make them leave it downstairs or turn off the WIFI in your house and use your provider to limit hours and you can block the people who are bulling being bullied.

Be more than a friend on Facebook be a parent.

This. Very good advice. My oldest is still in elementary school but all of this terrifies me. There is such a carefree attitude among parents with regard to electronics. I saw some 11 year old boys the other day texting away, (maybe snap chatting?) and I asked them how old they were when they got there 1st I phones. They said ten. The boys were very polite but I was shocked that they had phones. Where is the parental control? I have a 9 year old-I make many parenting mistakes I'm sure and am not perfect but I'm very strict about electronics. They watch some movies on the weekends with us, use the ipad for a school math program maybe once a month and that's it. Why are so many parents letting their kids get on fb, play video games, and have i phones? Fb is so evil and no child has any business being on it. And don't say it's inevitable, you could make the same argument for drugs, sex, or anything for the matter.

Anonymous wrote:Moms and daughters who are the bullies of cause feel very happy in the grade/class - they are the alphas, at the expense of others. The lack of compassion and empathy is sickening in this day and age, may have also reflected in this class. Certain moms and daughters have no sense what impacts their words/deeds have had on others.

But there are always many things that are disagreeable in life. In this free market economy, let's see how NCS will evolve.

The free market is for things like fur coats and gluten free. Issues like racism, sexual harassment, cyber bullying, and the like are illegal and would have already been addressed in a similar public school b/c they would have lost their federal funding. Just watch The Hinting Grounds if you want to see what happens when you let "schools fix" problems in how their students act. These girls need to be kicked out on their asses to WAKE up and the parents of the girls who left must be finally sick of those horrid NCS 8th grade trolls.

How does the education make them look 21?

NCS girls are very sophisticated, worldly and mature. This is both good and bad as you can imagine.
Sometimes when my 9th grader is at a restaurant with her friends, they are offered a wine list as they all look and act college age. The education is top notch although too stressful and over the top in my opinion.

NCS does a whole lot of things right. However, the Board has a very friendly relationship with the Head of School. If she doesn't consider something to be concerning, they don't either. I think NCS is stagnant to some degree because of this. Unless it's fundraising, the top administration doesn't appear to care. Parent of very recent graduate.

15 (not 8) are leaving the current class of 2021 to go to other privates and boarding schools.

My daughter wasn't an Alpha and we're not a member of clique. Once again the school, heck, any school can only do so much with social media. Be proactive at NCS or any school for that matter and if your child has their face glued to the screen on vacations and trips to grandmas then you're the problem. Yes, you. Make sure your kid doesn't sleep with his/her phone. Make them leave it downstairs or turn off the WIFI in your house and use your provider to limit hours and you can block the people who are bulling being bullied.

Be more than a friend on Facebook be a parent.