Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:07
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
One of my guy friends is 31, makes 105k, and comes from a "good" family (his parents who have been married for 40 years paid the down-payment on his NWDC condo). I think he would be very uncomfortable knowing that you had an expectation that he make 150k+. That is a high number and it would probably weigh on him/make him feel like you'll be let down if he never gets there. Bad attitude to have, OP.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:06
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
A good catch:
- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+
I laffed. Not only did I laff, but I guffawed.
You think $150k+ a "decent" living. Your expectations are clearly out of whack.
Why don't you post a photo of yourself in this thread so we can determine whether you are not only worthy of a man making $150k but if you are capable of snagging one.
We'll be waiting.
I am a size 2, fit petite brunette who gets told she looks 25 and resembles Eva Longoria all the time. I love hiking, cats and lifting. I am great with children (neighborhood babysitter growing up) and have a Philosophy degree from Bryn Mawr. I do not earn a very good living and make 60k in fundraising. I do not think my requirements are outlandish. Everyone I know is married to guys with a similar profile.
I work as a professional fundraiser in D.C. If you're making only 60k in your early 30s in fundraising, you are probably not very good. If you could carry a conversation and really engage socially and intellectually with wealthy men, you'd have been promoted long ago. Six figures is a very easy hurdle to jump in our field. You're probably not very entrepreneurial, and you're working at a low-level in house somewhere. All the best fundraisers I know are self employed, because it is so much more profitable. Also, it is EASY to meet wealthy men while working as a fundraiser. Sometimes, my husband feels uncomfortable with all the interactions I have with wealthy, interested men.
OP = A fundraiser, who can't figure out where to find a successful, stable man.
I'm dying.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:04
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Honestly if you want to get married there's no shortage of men. Men rather have someone that doesn't have a demanding career. you fit the bill of many men. Looks are important in a man's world and yes cooking well still nails it. I have a similar degree, never had a problem. I'm also flexible and easy going. Don't be the overly opinionated bossy woman with a potty mouth. They don't do well in this area.
OP put yourself out there, and don't be afraid to approach someone you're interested in.
OP put yourself out there, and don't be afraid to approach someone you're interested in.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:01
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:When I found my husband in my 20's, he was not earning anywhere close to $150k. I had to take a risk and make an investment in a person who might eventually be a high earner. I got him before he knew what he was worth.
Now, you're looking to buy high. These decent men know their worth. It's going to take someone exceptional to catch their eyes. Best of luck.
Younger women with options usually look to buy high and are often able to outcompete older women. A 25 year old woman would happily take a finished product (or well on his way) high earning man of, say, 33, than a starting out 25 year old guy. Win-win genetically for the older guy and younger woman.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:54
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
OP, do you have a lot of school loans? Bryn Mawr is expensive, no?
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:53
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:When I found my husband in my 20's, he was not earning anywhere close to $150k. I had to take a risk and make an investment in a person who might eventually be a high earner. I got him before he knew what he was worth.
Now, you're looking to buy high. These decent men know their worth. It's going to take someone exceptional to catch their eyes. Best of luck.
Let that be a lesson, guys: Women LOVE potential.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:52
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I am a size 2, fit petite brunette who gets told she looks 25 and resembles Eva Longoria all the time.
I laffed, many times
have a Philosophy degree from Bryn Mawr.
Nobody cares, in fact that's a strike against you: pretentious degree.
I do not think my requirements are outlandish. Everyone I know is married to guys with a similar profile.
"EVERYONE I KNOW" Wow, sweeping generalization much? Also, news flash: YOU ARE NOT EVERYONE ELSE.
Meanwhile Eva Longoria is 42...
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:51
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
When I found my husband in my 20's, he was not earning anywhere close to $150k. I had to take a risk and make an investment in a person who might eventually be a high earner. I got him before he knew what he was worth.
Now, you're looking to buy high. These decent men know their worth. It's going to take someone exceptional to catch their eyes. Best of luck.
Now, you're looking to buy high. These decent men know their worth. It's going to take someone exceptional to catch their eyes. Best of luck.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:47
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:
They found their husbands in their twenties. Lucky that it worked out. It did not for me. Want to rub it in?
Grow the f4ck up. Nobody cares about some 30 something's first world problem sob story about how her life is so difficult and how sad it is that it didn't turn out as she expected and is more difficult than she imagined.
Take a number and get in line.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:44
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:
I am a size 2, fit petite brunette who gets told she looks 25 and resembles Eva Longoria all the time.
I laffed, many times
have a Philosophy degree from Bryn Mawr.
Nobody cares, in fact that's a strike against you: pretentious degree.
I do not think my requirements are outlandish. Everyone I know is married to guys with a similar profile.
"EVERYONE I KNOW" Wow, sweeping generalization much? Also, news flash: YOU ARE NOT EVERYONE ELSE.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:34
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
I would say you could try and join Equinox to try and meet the type of man you are interested in but you probably can't afford that or Crossfit (which I think tends to have slightly younger men).
Idk if you will find someone meeting those requirements at 30. First, you are unrealistic about not wanting to be with someone who is a workaholic almost every 150k+ job requires a lot of hours. Second, maybe you can try and date men who are a little older? My DH has a number of unmarried friends who fit your ridiculous criteria and they either date women who are younger than you or women who make more money than you do in addition to bringing all of the same physical attributes that you have.
If you think about it if you are making 150k in your early 30s it is probably because you've made specific choices because having a certain lifestyle is important to you. Therefore, if you can date a pretty nurse anesthetist who makes $100k or a pretty woman like you who makes $60k who would you pick?
I'm not trying to insult you but my point is that there is a lot of competition for the type of person you are limiting yourself to and even you cannot necessarily live up to the same standards you have for a mate. You treat being attractive as a sort of trump card for everything but want a well-rounded man that makes an arbitrary amount of money. Also you could live a fairly comfortable lifestyle with a financially responsible and ambitious partner that makes much less than 150k.
Idk if you will find someone meeting those requirements at 30. First, you are unrealistic about not wanting to be with someone who is a workaholic almost every 150k+ job requires a lot of hours. Second, maybe you can try and date men who are a little older? My DH has a number of unmarried friends who fit your ridiculous criteria and they either date women who are younger than you or women who make more money than you do in addition to bringing all of the same physical attributes that you have.
If you think about it if you are making 150k in your early 30s it is probably because you've made specific choices because having a certain lifestyle is important to you. Therefore, if you can date a pretty nurse anesthetist who makes $100k or a pretty woman like you who makes $60k who would you pick?
I'm not trying to insult you but my point is that there is a lot of competition for the type of person you are limiting yourself to and even you cannot necessarily live up to the same standards you have for a mate. You treat being attractive as a sort of trump card for everything but want a well-rounded man that makes an arbitrary amount of money. Also you could live a fairly comfortable lifestyle with a financially responsible and ambitious partner that makes much less than 150k.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:26
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So, I'm 35 and my base salary exceeds OP's income requirement by over 6 figures. But I'm married and have two kids. My two best friends also meet the income threshold (banking and medicine, respectively) but they too are married. Oddly enough, we all married our college girlfriends.
OP is trying to shoot a really narrow gap in terms of men she's looking for. They exist. But the reality is guys earning that salary at that age are mostly already hitched. So she's really looking for a narrow subset of men and I would offer up that an attractive single mid-30s guy making that type of salary is not heading into a serious relationship any time soon.
OP's best bet are probably senior associates in big law.
From my experience, all single big law senior associates have serious personality/psychological defects. A non-insigificant number are spectrum, as well as secretly gay and then there are the secret psychopaths. Best hope would be to find the relatively normally but seriously awkward introvert.
All of that is true. I didn't mean to suggest big law senior associates are a good bet for OP, just her best bet for what she's looking for.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:24
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:So, I'm 35 and my base salary exceeds OP's income requirement by over 6 figures. But I'm married and have two kids. My two best friends also meet the income threshold (banking and medicine, respectively) but they too are married. Oddly enough, we all married our college girlfriends.
OP is trying to shoot a really narrow gap in terms of men she's looking for. They exist. But the reality is guys earning that salary at that age are mostly already hitched. So she's really looking for a narrow subset of men and I would offer up that an attractive single mid-30s guy making that type of salary is not heading into a serious relationship any time soon.
OP's best bet are probably senior associates in big law.
From my experience, all single big law senior associates have serious personality/psychological defects. A non-insigificant number are spectrum, as well as secretly gay and then there are the secret psychopaths. Best hope would be to find the relatively normally but seriously awkward introvert.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:23
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Almost half of those snatched up will end up divorced. Another percentage settled because time was running out for family planning. Many women know they have a finite time to safely have their children. They figure if it ends in divorce they have a lifetime to find another partner. The immediate goals becomes the children. And a very small percentage find a good partner. Another percentage stay married regardless because they know there are few quality men, so they play the odds.
I have a 50 year old friend that never had kids. Waited for Mr. right, and married one loser who didn't want kids. She stupidly went along with that. Now she regrets not getting pregnant and imo lives a lonely life.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 16:21
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
A good catch:
- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+
I laffed. Not only did I laff, but I guffawed.
You think $150k+ a "decent" living. Your expectations are clearly out of whack.
Why don't you post a photo of yourself in this thread so we can determine whether you are not only worthy of a man making $150k but if you are capable of snagging one.
We'll be waiting.
I am a size 2, fit petite brunette who gets told she looks 25 and resembles Eva Longoria all the time. I love hiking, cats and lifting. I am great with children (neighborhood babysitter growing up) and have a Philosophy degree from Bryn Mawr. I do not earn a very good living and make 60k in fundraising. I do not think my requirements are outlandish. Everyone I know is married to guys with a similar profile.
Sorry, OP, but you are no longer in fashion - http://nypost.com/2017/04/12/why-hot-people-arent-worth-dating/
Wow, aren't you the nasty woman! Op, you are just fine and you sound wonderful. Don't listen to these angry old B's on this site, get out there and socialize, socialize, socialize. You life weights, why aren't you at some of the cross fit classes in the area, lots of great guys there who would have the same fitness interest you have. Also, try volunteering at some local pet shelters and as a volunteer at some of the marathon events that going on in this area. You will meet like minded people. Just put yourself out there.
But will she meet a man that makes $150K?
She will meet the right man for her, and that is what matters.
Did you read the thread, PP? OP made it clear she is only interested in men that make $150k plus.
And again, if she simply looked for a man of character and quality, and dropped the gold digging crap that goes on in DMV, she will meet that special one. I'm betting companionship and compatibility will be much more important to Op if she met the right person for her.
Honestly, I think a man of character and quality can spot a superficial woman a mile away.
Honestly I've met very few of those men in my life time. She'd better lower the bar if she wants children.