Protect me from an alien invasion. Duh. These are dangerous times.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH works which pays for everything. But as for "taking care of me" in a nurturing way, almost nothing.

It is not the man's job to nurture you.

Right, but it is the husband's job.

No, it is not the husband's job to nurture you. His job is to provide and protect.

Protect from what?

And many if not most husbands are co-providers. Given that, it is indeed their job to care for and nurture their wives.

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Anonymous wrote:He does yard work. He brings in 50% of the income. He will sometimes do stuff around the house and for the kids if directed. I ask him for sex once a week and he usually obliges.

Do you feel cared for? My DH does the above (except the yard work, wtf) and actually is good doing lots of stuff around the house, doesn't need directions, but I don't feel cared for. and I don't feel loving in return. Need to figure this out.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH works which pays for everything. But as for "taking care of me" in a nurturing way, almost nothing.

It is not the man's job to nurture you.

If spouses don't take care of each other, including nurturing one another, what is the point of marriage?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH works which pays for everything. But as for "taking care of me" in a nurturing way, almost nothing.

It is not the man's job to nurture you.

Right, but it is the husband's job.

No, it is not the husband's job to nurture you. His job is to provide and protect.

According to who? Please do share. I can "provide" for myself and if ever feel in need of protection, i can get an alarm system and a German Shepard. My DH absolutly does nurture me and our relationship and is much more than an ATM+body guard. Its not like we are pioneers heading out west looking for farmland fighting off murdering suquads of Native Americans and bandits. This is 2017 afterall.

Oh gosh, so many things. Always listens when I'm upset. Picks up little chocolates at the store a few times a month. Rubs my back regularly. Always notices when I've done my nails or toes and mentions how cute they look. Compliments my appearance. Makes the morning coffee. Works his ass off so I can pursue my dreams. Asks me to let him know when I've arrived when I have a long car drive.

I do a lot for him too. =)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH works which pays for everything. But as for "taking care of me" in a nurturing way, almost nothing.

It is not the man's job to nurture you.

Right, but it is the husband's job.

No, it is not the husband's job to nurture you. His job is to provide and protect.

Anonymous wrote:He does yard work. He brings in 50% of the income. He will sometimes do stuff around the house and for the kids if directed. I ask him for sex once a week and he usually obliges.

Do you feel cared for? My DH does the above (except the yard work, wtf) and actually is good doing lots of stuff around the house, doesn't need directions, but I don't feel cared for. and I don't feel loving in return. Need to figure this out.

He does yard work. He brings in 50% of the income. He will sometimes do stuff around the house and for the kids if directed. I ask him for sex once a week and he usually obliges.

Nothing.

He works his ass off for our family, to provide us with nice things and great adventures. He splurges on me, we don't gift at every holiday, but every now and then he surprises me with a big one. He listens to me, this year he got me the perfect Christmas, based on something I was day dreaming about last JUNE. He remembered. He rubs my feet and back. I tend to spend little money on myself ~ when I say I need something new he tells me to go get a lot of stuff (clothes, bags, etc). I guess because I'm always relatively frugal I oftentimes. need to be pushed to buy nicer things for myself. He always supports my two major passions, golf and triathlons. He's a great dad to our kids, which is another way he nurtures me.

Mine makes a lot of the money and works hard. He's a good man and father too, but I wouldn't say he does anything else to take care of me in the way many of the women here listed out. He's definitely not romantic, doesn't cook, doesn't know how to work the laundry machine and doesn't like to buy me gifts. But I'm not complaining because we have a good time together and love each other.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH works which pays for everything. But as for "taking care of me" in a nurturing way, almost nothing.

It is not the man's job to nurture you.

Right, but it is the husband's job.

Anonymous wrote:DH works which pays for everything. But as for "taking care of me" in a nurturing way, almost nothing.

It is not the man's job to nurture you.

DH works which pays for everything. But as for "taking care of me" in a nurturing way, almost nothing.