Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 23:41     Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Because he works with the dental residency program.

I have seen the move though, love Jason Bateman.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 22:44     Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Not a medical doctor, or a psych" yet you can stop seeing her as "patients." We know she's in the medical field. What exactly is her job?


Ffs. I was trying to not divulge every damn detail. She is a dentist


Hi troll! Was Horrible Bosses playing on FX again last night? Funny how your DH works at a HOSPITAL and was at a WORK party with DOCTORS. Why is your dentist there?

https://youtu.be/YnzIA-yu268
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 22:11     Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:"Not a medical doctor, or a psych" yet you can stop seeing her as "patients." We know she's in the medical field. What exactly is her job?


Ffs. I was trying to not divulge every damn detail. She is a dentist
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 22:08     Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
"Not a medical doctor, or a psych" yet you can stop seeing her as "patients." We know she's in the medical field. What exactly is her job?
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 22:00     Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:Op again

The fact that she asked is someone looking at us makes me think she knew what she was doing. Drink or not she couldn't have been that drunk. DH said people has some wine with dinner but nothing crazy.

I don't blame DH. I wish he had gotten up or told her to move but I understand not knowing what to do and make it a big deal Infront of his boss.

I absolutely fault her for being inappropriate.


Believed everything he told you, eh?
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 21:00     Subject: Re:Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Buy him a decorative pin that he can keep on his person. Next time a woman sits on his lap he can stick the pin in her backside!

Man, this is a business opportunity!! I think there is a market for such pins. Need a catchy name for this product now.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 20:39     Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:My DHs boss mentioned it to him today.

She said hey what's was up with x sitting on your lap. What is he thinking? Like everyone and everything is her sofa. My DH said yeah it was really uncomfortable, I didn't know what to do and didn't want to make a big deal out of it. His boss responded yeah because it's x , that's how she is.

I came home to a clean house and flowers and another apology for making me feel uncomfortable. DH asking said if it makes me feel better we don't have to see her as patients anymore


It sounds like it's working out perfectly. If this was the way my fiancé acted after an incident like you described, I would be happy. It's very hard to say how any of us would react in the moment when it happened--it's so awkward for all involved--that a sincere apology (even though he really has nothing to apologize for) and intentions to stay away from her is exactly what would make me feel better about the whole thing!
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 20:05     Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
My DHs boss mentioned it to him today.

She said hey what's was up with x sitting on your lap. What is he thinking? Like everyone and everything is her sofa. My DH said yeah it was really uncomfortable, I didn't know what to do and didn't want to make a big deal out of it. His boss responded yeah because it's x , that's how she is.

I came home to a clean house and flowers and another apology for making me feel uncomfortable. DH asking said if it makes me feel better we don't have to see her as patients anymore
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 20:03     Subject: Re:Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend and coworker is 28. The head of our legal department is like .... 58? He was her law professor and then he got her hired at this firm. Her father is very cold. She has a VERY fatherly relationship with this legal head. She has sat in his lap. She is very in love with her live in boyfriend. It was not a romantic thing at ALL.

(I'm not saying it was professional of her to do, but that's another issue.)


Uh....28 year old girls don't sit in their father's laps.


Naturally. She didn't get physical affection from anyone in her family growing up. It explains why she's such a hugger now. She told me her father gave her a hug for the first time when she was 18. She's trying to make up for lost time.


Do you realize how unhealthy this is?
TwistdMike
Post 04/06/2017 20:01     Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Prediction:

This is the end of transparency for the OP's husband because after this never-ending browbeating he's never going to divulge the full details of anything that happens ever again.



Haha my Husband didn't get a browbeating. Ffs.

I didn't even bring it up , he brought it up immediately and I just let him share. He asked what I would have done. I said it's hard to say I might have frozen too but I think just excusing yourself and offering her your seat would have looked a lot better and made me more comfortable. that was it. We've moved on. He's embarrassed, I'm embarrassed for him. He thought everyone at work would bring it up today. I'm sure if they did be will want to talk about again tonight. And I will let him


A very sane and rational response, props to you!
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 19:34     Subject: Re:Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend and coworker is 28. The head of our legal department is like .... 58? He was her law professor and then he got her hired at this firm. Her father is very cold. She has a VERY fatherly relationship with this legal head. She has sat in his lap. She is very in love with her live in boyfriend. It was not a romantic thing at ALL.

(I'm not saying it was professional of her to do, but that's another issue.)


Uh....28 year old girls don't sit in their father's laps.


Naturally. She didn't get physical affection from anyone in her family growing up. It explains why she's such a hugger now. She told me her father gave her a hug for the first time when she was 18. She's trying to make up for lost time.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 17:42     Subject: Re:Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:My friend and coworker is 28. The head of our legal department is like .... 58? He was her law professor and then he got her hired at this firm. Her father is very cold. She has a VERY fatherly relationship with this legal head. She has sat in his lap. She is very in love with her live in boyfriend. It was not a romantic thing at ALL.

(I'm not saying it was professional of her to do, but that's another issue.)


Everyone I hang out with is 22-30. No one I know sits on the lap of people at work for non-flirty reasons.

Maybe it isn't romantic with your coworker/friend, but like you point out, there's a daddy issue there.

So great, OP! Either your husband's coworker wants to bang him, or he fills the void left by her distant father. Take your pick...
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 17:39     Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here

We've seen her as a provider, probably shouldn't have. But she's never been my DHs bosses?. She isn't a medical doctor, or psych. So no personal info during visits. We see her because she is convenient and she doesn't charge us anything she just bills insurance. She also sees a lot of people from the department/hospital

DH rode home with some people from his department. No one said anything then.

Huh? Your OP said she was one of the doctors. What do you see her for if not medical or mental health?


Perhaps she is an EdD.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 17:36     Subject: Re:Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:My friend and coworker is 28. The head of our legal department is like .... 58? He was her law professor and then he got her hired at this firm. Her father is very cold. She has a VERY fatherly relationship with this legal head. She has sat in his lap. She is very in love with her live in boyfriend. It was not a romantic thing at ALL.

(I'm not saying it was professional of her to do, but that's another issue.)


Uh....28 year old girls don't sit in their father's laps.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 17:32     Subject: Re:Another woman sat on my DHs lap
My friend and coworker is 28. The head of our legal department is like .... 58? He was her law professor and then he got her hired at this firm. Her father is very cold. She has a VERY fatherly relationship with this legal head. She has sat in his lap. She is very in love with her live in boyfriend. It was not a romantic thing at ALL.

(I'm not saying it was professional of her to do, but that's another issue.)