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Anonymous wrote:

Sherriscott wrote:My friend and I were in a restaurant and there were some guys beside us they were staring at us like mad. One of my friend stood up and went to them with a glass of wine and poured on him. I know it's not a revenge, but I felt like sharing it. It was fun looking at there shocked expressions.

What? that is such a whacked out over reaction to a man "staring" at a woman. I hope those guys realized that the vast majority of stable and sane women would never do something like that.

Not to mention a waste of (probably overpriced) wine!

+a million

Wtf?

Anonymous wrote:This happened a long time ago. I was dating this guy then moved in with him. Apparently he was still seeing his ex, and another woman who called. To say I was beyond mad would be an understatement. I moved out. Probably within 3 weeks he moved his ex into the home. It was all quite shocking, and I admit I stewed about it. I still had a house key, and remember I left something there...ok not really. While I knew they were both at work I drove over there, parked around the corner and went into the house. Messed up the bed a little, put the toilet seat up, put some underwear under the sheets, and threw a earring into the washer and dashed out of there.

I know really not nice, and stupid thing to do. Thankfully I've progressed. Ok so 3 days later his ex calls me thinking he had me to their house, and in their bed. I said, "no way I was done with him, and moved out because he was cheating." Then she said the underwear were like a size 10. I said, "do I look like a size 10!" Of course she believed me and why I put bigger underwear there to begin with. Apparently she was pretty upset with him, smacked him on the head, started packing and moved out a week later.

Still can't believe I did that, but back then I was pretty happy about it and moved on.

A bit crazy? Yes. BUT, I like it! Thanks for sharing that and I am glad you have elevated yourself.

Many n0obs here are confused by internet terms such as 'revenge trolling'--they should consult hard copy Fishing and Gaming/AARP Guideline manuals.

This happened a long time ago. I was dating this guy then moved in with him. Apparently he was still seeing his ex, and another woman who called. To say I was beyond mad would be an understatement. I moved out. Probably within 3 weeks he moved his ex into the home. It was all quite shocking, and I admit I stewed about it. I still had a house key, and remember I left something there...ok not really. While I knew they were both at work I drove over there, parked around the corner and went into the house. Messed up the bed a little, put the toilet seat up, put some underwear under the sheets, and threw a earring into the washer and dashed out of there.

I know really not nice, and stupid thing to do. Thankfully I've progressed. Ok so 3 days later his ex calls me thinking he had me to their house, and in their bed. I said, "no way I was done with him, and moved out because he was cheating." Then she said the underwear were like a size 10. I said, "do I look like a size 10!" Of course she believed me and why I put bigger underwear there to begin with. Apparently she was pretty upset with him, smacked him on the head, started packing and moved out a week later.

Still can't believe I did that, but back then I was pretty happy about it and moved on.

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Anonymous wrote:The son isn't providing more value than seasoned, experienced employees. I promise you that. Giving the kid $22/hour - nearly 100% more than full-time employees - is merely a tax dodge by the father. A means to transfer assets without triggering inheritance taxes. I have a few friends with "jobs" at their parents' companies. They get paid very well and work, maybe, 20 hours per week. They provide little value.

So, if you know that, and it is legal btw, WTH was your problem? It was an intern position and he was still in college. His father was the boss, and likely owned the business, and he has a right to do whatever he wants to. And inheritance taxes for a college kid? No. It was about giving the kid cash with better after tax dollars.

And yes I do own a business and if I had a child in the same circumstance, and since it would be legal, I would do the same damn thing. Why have them do work for others when I can get some value from their efforts, I get to deduct their income and their tax rate is a LOT LESS than mine so the net result is to my benefit.

Now, if that had been some woman he was bedding who didn't even know how to type, well, that would be his prerogative but I could see your complaint being more legitimate. Right now all I see is envy and perhaps resentment from the boss being able to do what he did. And if you and everyone that left got better paying jobs then great. But to quit over that alone was asinine.

Donald, is that you??

Anonymous wrote:I believe that DCUM is at full FFU with this thread. Let it be noted for the historical demise record.

There's never been any real difference other than having the temperament to hide it better.

Anonymous wrote:I believe that DCUM is at full FFU with this thread. Let it be noted for the historical demise record.

What is FFU?

This thread has that uniquely unsavory flavor of people that only interact on the internet through FB and people that listen to TALK RADIO. Trumplandia. Horrifying.

I believe that DCUM is at full FFU with this thread. Let it be noted for the historical demise record.

Anonymous wrote:I was leaving a terrible job that reported to a control freak and the boss kept needling me (I said I'd stay for another week or two). She kept at it so I finally took my office key out of my purse, slapped it on the counter, and walked out. It was incredibly liberating.

This is not trolling

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Am I the only one who thinks the exhusband sounds much worse than the exwife? Why wouldn't he use at least a little of that money to fix up the house? Shows that he was never really fully committed to the marriage, if you ask me.

And what is really low.. who GLOATS about the fact that a daughter won't speak to her mother? A good father will try to build understanding between his children and their mother. Not revel in the destruction of their relationship. Using the children against an ex-spouse is about as low as it gets, parenting-wise.

I have a stock portfolio that my parents created for me back in college. It was created as an emergency fund and if needed, house downpayment, etc. They actually put a lot of money into it. I never needed it. I was in my 30s when I got married. We had to have a prenuptial for several reasons and this was one of the items that got included, I put in that this was to be kept as non-marital. It has continued to grow. My wife also had some accounts and her federal retirement that are listed as separate in our pre-nuptial. We have had enough to survive on our own and have kept the pre-marital funds separate. If we get to the point where the kids have graduated college and I have not used it (unlikely), then I have spoken with my parents and it will go into the trust for our children. This way the money stays in our family. But at this point, if we divorce, our marital assets are plenty big enough for both of us as long as we aren't greedy (and neither of us is generally).

Not using pre-marital money that is supposed to be an emergency cushion for frivolous things like upgrades to your house is not a lack of commitment to the marriage.

You don't need a prenup to shelter an inheritance or even pre-marital 401(k) balances or traditional pension entitlement. The law shelters these for you, by making them non-marital. I have an inheritance including trust funds and, while XDH tried his hardest to get his hands on them, it never came close to being an issue. XDH did clamor though our marriage for me to use a bit of my inheritance to buy him cars (yes, cars in the plural) and to my lasting regret I finally broke down and got him a new car a few years. I'm the PP whose XDH is going to have a nasty shock when he retires early. Also, my mom who has major bucks, cut him out of her will.

We had the prenuptial to cover a lot of varied properties that we wanted to assure were kept separate. In addition to the stock portfolio, I owned a house and she rented, so planned to move into my house. It was laid out that should we divorce, the house in it's entirely including any payments made during marriage would be solely owned by me. I would also not have claim to any of her sizable retirement plan despite being eligible by law to half of it. And a number of other issues. As we married later in life, we both had some considerable assets that we wanted to preserve just in case. We laid out all of the things that would be off the table, the lawyers helped to make sure that the off-limits items were fairly balanced and then everything else (which was still considerable) would be marital and split. It was nice to have it laid out so that there were no expectations of inequity, that either of us was keeping too much, etc.

Okay. And are you sure you're only talking kindly about your ex in front of your child? Anything else is not fair to her. (And she may well hold it against you when she's older.) I am very grateful to my divorced parents for speaking respectfully of one another in my presence.

Actually my wife and I (co-parents of both of our children) are still happily married after 15 years with no plans to divorce anytime soon. Very stable marriage and there is very little stress between us about finances or money.

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Anonymous wrote:No, silly- to lose multiple people was a blow to the business. If that's how you plan to prosper- unable to retain the best, constantly wasting time hunting for employees or dealing with inexperienced people you've already failed.

That part of the story I doubt to be real or at the very least connected to the 'revenge' and likely added to make it better. "Luckily it was a co-worker with a big mouth who had been with the company for 5 years and who was only making $30k/year. He along with two others quit that day. Just walked right out the building and did some paper throwing and chair flipping on the way out. About 6 more gave their 2 weeks notice, along with me, and I found out later that 4 more people left over the next few months."

But, lets say it is real that three quit immediately with a dozen more to follow. I seriously doubt it was just about that but rather a straw breaking the camels back scenario. Which is far more plausible. In the real world it is very rare that mature and capable people spontaneously quit over such even if they are offended. Most people have bills to pay and without something to walk to they don't just storm out the door creating a scene by throwing paper and tossing chairs. Which the person said they did. What kind of reference would they get? Especially the person with 5 years at the company. And how would they explain that? How would a new potential employer react?

As to the dollars being paid we have no context. 1980? 2010? Nor did they divulge how they came to know what other employees were making or how they obtained the 'damning' evidence. And let's not forget, the whole thing was over nepotism and pay for a temporary position since they were interns still in college. Had I been in that situation decades ago when I was first in the business world I might have felt perfectly justified to be righteously indignant but I sure as hell would quit a job I thought was a good enough one to take over such a situation. I had rent to pay, a car payment, not much in the way of savings and then there would have been my wife's response. But most importantly I would NOT have wanted that on my work history.

I'm the OP of the revenge.

This happened in 2010 in WV. I went to a job fair on a whim before graduation and was hired by this company (not that day, but soon after). Until then I was planning on moving back to VA post grad, but I loved the area I was in and I still had friends in college, including a long term boyfriend. I started working for them about 3 weeks after graduation and was there for just under 2 years.

I was not hired as an intern, but as an entry level HR person. That's how I had access to what the owner's son and his friend made and how I was able to leave his pay stub in the copier. The reason I had the pay stub is because before checks were distributed every 2 weeks (no direct deposit there), I had to make a photocopy of each check for our records. The owner was very much a "paper is proof" person, so everything was photocopied and filed.

In that area of WV, a good paying job was $10-12/hour. That's why when the employee who found the pay stub and eventually circulated it to others was so furious. Two 19/20 year olds who brought nothing to the company and didn't even put in much face time in the company were being paid $42k/year (pre taxes). And when I say they didn't put in much face time, they shared an office and would come in between classes. Most of the time much of their "work" was done outside the office. No one really knew what they did. Sometimes when in the office they'd file. Other times they'd appear to just be sitting in their office working on homework while getting paid.

I'm still friends on FB with many of those people who left and those that quit that day landed on their feet just fine. I have no idea how they justified their abrupt leave and as far as I know no charges were ever brought to the guy who walked through the office throwing papers and turning over chairs.

As for the effect on the company, it was pretty substantial for a mid-size company in a somewhat economically depressed area. I think seeing the proof of the pay gap was just the final straw for many employees there. No one was ever really happy working there from what I saw. It was a job to provide for their families. I also know that those who left and put in their 2 weeks notice helped their fellow co-workers find jobs once they secured employment. One person scored a highly sought after job in a pharmaceutical company in the area and was able to bring in 3 other former employees through job recommendations.

Maybe it's not the best revenge on this thread, but I was proud of it at the time and still think it was pretty good.

Anonymous wrote:

Sherriscott wrote:My friend and I were in a restaurant and there were some guys beside us they were staring at us like mad. One of my friend stood up and went to them with a glass of wine and poured on him. I know it's not a revenge, but I felt like sharing it. It was fun looking at there shocked expressions.

What? that is such a whacked out over reaction to a man "staring" at a woman. I hope those guys realized that the vast majority of stable and sane women would never do something like that.

Not to mention a waste of (probably overpriced) wine!

Anonymous wrote:

Sherriscott wrote:My friend and I were in a restaurant and there were some guys beside us they were staring at us like mad. One of my friend stood up and went to them with a glass of wine and poured on him. I know it's not a revenge, but I felt like sharing it. It was fun looking at there shocked expressions.

What? that is such a whacked out over reaction to a man "staring" at a woman. I hope those guys realized that the vast majority of stable and sane women would never do something like that.

I was at a bar staring off into space, when this crazy lady came up and poured a glass of wine on me. She left the bar in handcuffs. It is assault & battery.

I was leaving a terrible job that reported to a control freak and the boss kept needling me (I said I'd stay for another week or two). She kept at it so I finally took my office key out of my purse, slapped it on the counter, and walked out. It was incredibly liberating.