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Anonymous wrote:Yet another way kids travel sports can be so disruptive to family life. Don't even get me started...

+1. The dumbest time and money sink there is. Shocking how many smart people I know sucked into this lifestyle. And nearly all brats are ungrateful for the sacrifices.

So, your kid isn't good enough?

Single Dad here. My daughter was on a HS dance team that performed at a national level so there was a lot of long distance travel. The dance Moms were so into it that it was bizarre. I was one of the few dads that ever made the trips and I always felt like an outsider because I was just a dad and not a "dance dad". We were at a state tournament where the girls shared rooms and I had my own room. After a big team dinner I went back to my room while the moms hung out in the bar. About an hour later there was a knock on my door and one of the moms pushed her way in an announced something like "I haven't had sex in two years and I need it now." Wine infused women have never had any appeal to me despite the fact she was quite attractive. I couldn't shove her back into the hall or be seen escorting her back to her room so I called security and asked for some help which they thankfully provided. If she had been single I might have taken her up on the offer but a married woman no way. So, stuff can happen. I was very happy that my DD was a senior and the season was almost over.

At my kids travel game this weekend, a couple of parents snuck off and started humping under the bleachers.

Well, not really, but I kept looking under the bleachers hoping I'd see it happening.

Anonymous wrote:Two of my three kids have played various travel sports and the amount of drunkeness that goes on amongst some of the parents sets up a situation made for extra-marital hookups. My friend's father was her softball coach. He left her mother for a teammate's mother. Like someone else said earlier in the thread, the actual hookups don't have to be during the tournaments, [b]but the stage can definitely be set at tournaments for affairs to happen once everyone's at home. Personally, I find it somewhat disturbing that so many parents find it necessary to get drunk off their asses during the downtimes at tournaments. For many of those parents, I really think the whole experience is about them and the kids' sport is a way to justify their behavior.

Most* parents obsessed with the travel sport scene are bored and living through their kids.

Anonymous wrote:Yet another way kids travel sports can be so disruptive to family life. Don't even get me started...

+1. The dumbest time and money sink there is. Shocking how many smart people I know sucked into this lifestyle. And nearly all brats are ungrateful for the sacrifices.

I have never seen two parents hook up.

But I have seen a couple of the single moms get it popping with the coach (also single).

We wondered why one of the boys suddenly had a huge spike in his playing time. He told the other boys that his mom "went on a date" with the coach.

Anonymous wrote:I have five children, in various travel sports. Maybe I'm naive but I have NEVER seen this, ever. The parents all know each other fairly well and I just can't even think of circumstances where this *could* go on. Usually, you are staying in a hotel room with your child - at least until age 15 or so, so where are you going to do it? Often people hang out at the hotel bar, or a restaurant or something, but that's it. And I would think they would have to be a different level of stupid because it would definitely get back to the spouse.

That's not true, I've seen it myself.
One parent had a "movie night" in their room & all of the kids went to the one room & watched a movie On Demand. This left every other room open & available & two of the parents took advantage of the access & availability, as well as the kids being completely distracted, immersed in the movie & totally unaware that their parents were even missing. They kids actually felt "cool & older" because their parents weren't there hovering over them. It wasn't until the parents came back towards the end of the movie looking totally disheveled & guilty thatI realized what had happened... the kids though, completely clueless.

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Anonymous wrote:All that time spent at games and practices give the opportunity to get to know each other, just like time spent at the office together can lead to an affair.

Except you are surrounded by children, yours and other people's. Can't think of another situation less sexy.

Remember the time in high school you sneaked your boyfriend into the house and had sex in your room with your parents on the other side of the wall?

You wanted to have sex, so you found a way, despite the un-sexiness of the situation.

My kids played travel sports for years. As a male there were way too many opportunities. Kids all eat together and some mom takes me to a bar for dinner, or brings take out and wine back to my room. I never did take advantage as the consequences are way too serious.

Point is that the repeated and constant contact builds a connection, not that suddenly Dad A and Mom B start undressing each other on the soccer field.

Sure that could end up just as a platonic friendship.

But it could also lead to private contact (email, text, drinks, whatever) that take place away from the actual sport events which could lead to an affair.

Anonymous wrote:All that time spent at games and practices give the opportunity to get to know each other, just like time spent at the office together can lead to an affair.

Except you are surrounded by children, yours and other people's. Can't think of another situation less sexy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Band trips. Talking, flirting and he let her know the size of his 'lego' which just added to her interest. Long story short, it didn't happen on a trip but it did happen.

Lego? So it was small, bumpy and red?

Let's think these euphemisms through before using, people.

Sunday morning belly laugh!

I used that intentionally. He called it his third leg.

And I only shared that here to show there are more avenues of 'travel' activities where it can happen.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Affairs happen everywhere there is an opportunity

But only among deeply flawed people. I have had plenty of opportunity through work travel, etc., but it never happened

Good grief, we are all flawed.

Seriously.

PP, You can't possibly understand the relationship dynamics of other people. But assuming they are "deeply flawed", whatever that means, really just tells everyone you're quite naive, without much in the way of REAL life experience.

Anonymous wrote:Two of my three kids have played various travel sports and the amount of drunkeness that goes on amongst some of the parents sets up a situation made for extra-marital hookups. My friend's father was her softball coach. He left her mother for a teammate's mother. Like someone else said earlier in the thread, the actual hookups don't have to be during the tournaments, [b]but the stage can definitely be set at tournaments for affairs to happen once everyone's at home. Personally, I find it somewhat disturbing that so many parents find it necessary to get drunk off their asses during the downtimes at tournaments. For many of those parents, I really think the whole experience is about them and the kids' sport is a way to justify their behavior.

This.

All that time spent at games and practices give the opportunity to get to know each other, just like time spent at the office together can lead to an affair.