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Anonymous wrote:This little piggy saying has been going on for generations. Most of our parents used it, you just don't remember. You sound like a pain in the ass daughter in law.

When you wonder why your kids don't want you anywhere near your grandchildren, know that your attitude is the reason why.

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Anonymous wrote:I call my son stink man. Doesn't mean he really stinks!

Janet Lansbury (of RIE fame) says not to call kids names like this, even in an endearing way. It makes them feel self-conscious for no reason. Normally, I'm not nutty about stuff like this, but here's an anecdote - my DH has an 11 year old son. Since the age of about 4, my DH would call him stinky feet and pretend his feet stunk. He didn't mean any harm, but his son actually has an enormous complex about it now.

Don't all parents play this game with their kids? I've done it with all four of mine.

My kids nicknames are: Monkey Mash, Spider Stew, Booger Bear & Pigeon Pie. Hell my dad still calls me Princess Monster Face sometimes and I'm 44.

I understand what you are saying but how come kids are not allowed to call their parents/grandparents lovingly piggy. I mean why is it the person with more authority is allowed to say sth in a loving manner and the weaker person is not allowed to say any such thing? Makes no sense to me and that's why I only use sweet nick names that I would not mind to be called either.

Um ... who said the "weaker person" is not allowed to use a term of endearment? Your post makes no sense to me.

Do you really think grandma would allow her grandchild to call her miss piggy while she's eating?

That's what's wrong with the dynamic. It's not a nice nickname. It's not sweet or kind. It's mildly making fun of the kid.

Anonymous wrote:This little piggy saying has been going on for generations. Most of our parents used it, you just don't remember. You sound like a pain in the ass daughter in law.

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Anonymous wrote:I call my son stink man. Doesn't mean he really stinks!

Janet Lansbury (of RIE fame) says not to call kids names like this, even in an endearing way. It makes them feel self-conscious for no reason. Normally, I'm not nutty about stuff like this, but here's an anecdote - my DH has an 11 year old son. Since the age of about 4, my DH would call him stinky feet and pretend his feet stunk. He didn't mean any harm, but his son actually has an enormous complex about it now.

Don't all parents play this game with their kids? I've done it with all four of mine.

My kids nicknames are: Monkey Mash, Spider Stew, Booger Bear & Pigeon Pie. Hell my dad still calls me Princess Monster Face sometimes and I'm 44.

I understand what you are saying but how come kids are not allowed to call their parents/grandparents lovingly piggy. I mean why is it the person with more authority is allowed to say sth in a loving manner and the weaker person is not allowed to say any such thing? Makes no sense to me and that's why I only use sweet nick names that I would not mind to be called either.

Um ... who said the "weaker person" is not allowed to use a term of endearment? Your post makes no sense to me.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm on your side. If say I liked that nickname, I'd be fine with it, but I don't like it, in this case. It'd be more tolerable if it was a name I was fine with.

But the relationship between a child and his grandparent is not your own. As you said you don't like the name but its not your name to like. Its a term of endearment between her and her grandchild. She isn't abusing him.

The only reason a person would live and die on this hill is if they didn't like their MIL and wanted to exert control over the MILs relationship with the child. Which says way more about the mother than the grandmother.

This is the world's most stupid argument - the relationship is between the grandparent and the child, so OP cannot say anything?

Yes, that is the world's most stupid argument.

I feel bad for you.

You are right. I exaggerated. Allow me to correct myself.

Your point is stupid. Just because it is a grandparent relationship, this does not mean the wishes and instincts of the parent are irrelevant, and it doesn't mean the OP is trying to "exert control" over the relationship. She doesn't like her daughter being called a pig when she is eating.

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Anonymous wrote:I call my son stink man. Doesn't mean he really stinks!

Janet Lansbury (of RIE fame) says not to call kids names like this, even in an endearing way. It makes them feel self-conscious for no reason. Normally, I'm not nutty about stuff like this, but here's an anecdote - my DH has an 11 year old son. Since the age of about 4, my DH would call him stinky feet and pretend his feet stunk. He didn't mean any harm, but his son actually has an enormous complex about it now.

Don't all parents play this game with their kids? I've done it with all four of mine.

My kids nicknames are: Monkey Mash, Spider Stew, Booger Bear & Pigeon Pie. Hell my dad still calls me Princess Monster Face sometimes and I'm 44.

I understand what you are saying but how come kids are not allowed to call their parents/grandparents lovingly piggy. I mean why is it the person with more authority is allowed to say sth in a loving manner and the weaker person is not allowed to say any such thing? Makes no sense to me and that's why I only use sweet nick names that I would not mind to be called either.

Grandchildren call their granparents all sorts of weird slightly demeaning granparent names "pop-pop" etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I call my son stink man. Doesn't mean he really stinks!

Janet Lansbury (of RIE fame) says not to call kids names like this, even in an endearing way. It makes them feel self-conscious for no reason. Normally, I'm not nutty about stuff like this, but here's an anecdote - my DH has an 11 year old son. Since the age of about 4, my DH would call him stinky feet and pretend his feet stunk. He didn't mean any harm, but his son actually has an enormous complex about it now.

Don't all parents play this game with their kids? I've done it with all four of mine.

My kids nicknames are: Monkey Mash, Spider Stew, Booger Bear & Pigeon Pie. Hell my dad still calls me Princess Monster Face sometimes and I'm 44.

I understand what you are saying but how come kids are not allowed to call their parents/grandparents lovingly piggy. I mean why is it the person with more authority is allowed to say sth in a loving manner and the weaker person is not allowed to say any such thing? Makes no sense to me and that's why I only use sweet nick names that I would not mind to be called either.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm on your side. If say I liked that nickname, I'd be fine with it, but I don't like it, in this case. It'd be more tolerable if it was a name I was fine with.

But the relationship between a child and his grandparent is not your own. As you said you don't like the name but its not your name to like. Its a term of endearment between her and her grandchild. She isn't abusing him.

The only reason a person would live and die on this hill is if they didn't like their MIL and wanted to exert control over the MILs relationship with the child. Which says way more about the mother than the grandmother.

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Anonymous wrote:I call my son stink man. Doesn't mean he really stinks!

Janet Lansbury (of RIE fame) says not to call kids names like this, even in an endearing way. It makes them feel self-conscious for no reason. Normally, I'm not nutty about stuff like this, but here's an anecdote - my DH has an 11 year old son. Since the age of about 4, my DH would call him stinky feet and pretend his feet stunk. He didn't mean any harm, but his son actually has an enormous complex about it now.

Don't all parents play this game with their kids? I've done it with all four of mine.

My kids nicknames are: Monkey Mash, Spider Stew, Booger Bear & Pigeon Pie. Hell my dad still calls me Princess Monster Face sometimes and I'm 44.

I understand what you are saying but how come kids are not allowed to call their parents/grandparents lovingly piggy. I mean why is it the person with more authority is allowed to say sth in a loving manner and the weaker person is not allowed to say any such thing? Makes no sense to me and that's why I only use sweet nick names that I would not mind to be called either.

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Anonymous wrote:I call my son stink man. Doesn't mean he really stinks!

Janet Lansbury (of RIE fame) says not to call kids names like this, even in an endearing way. It makes them feel self-conscious for no reason. Normally, I'm not nutty about stuff like this, but here's an anecdote - my DH has an 11 year old son. Since the age of about 4, my DH would call him stinky feet and pretend his feet stunk. He didn't mean any harm, but his son actually has an enormous complex about it now.

Don't all parents play this game with their kids? I've done it with all four of mine.

My kids nicknames are: Monkey Mash, Spider Stew, Booger Bear & Pigeon Pie. Hell my dad still calls me Princess Monster Face sometimes and I'm 44.

I understand what you are saying but how come kids are not allowed to call their parents/grandparents lovingly piggy. I mean why is it the person with more authority is allowed to say sth in a loving manner and the weaker person is not allowed to say any such thing? Makes no sense to me and that's why I only use sweet nick names that I would not mind to be called either.

Anonymous wrote:It is your child. Tell her you want her to stop saying this.

This is about boundaries. She is overstepping her boundaries here. You'll need to set much more difficult boundaries later on. Start now.

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Anonymous wrote:I call my son stink man. Doesn't mean he really stinks!

Janet Lansbury (of RIE fame) says not to call kids names like this, even in an endearing way. It makes them feel self-conscious for no reason. Normally, I'm not nutty about stuff like this, but here's an anecdote - my DH has an 11 year old son. Since the age of about 4, my DH would call him stinky feet and pretend his feet stunk. He didn't mean any harm, but his son actually has an enormous complex about it now.

Don't all parents play this game with their kids? I've done it with all four of mine.

My kids nicknames are: Monkey Mash, Spider Stew, Booger Bear & Pigeon Pie. Hell my dad still calls me Princess Monster Face sometimes and I'm 44.