What if she has stomach cancer? Waiting could be fatal.

Has the OP said if her daughter has actually lost weight?

She's constantly nauseous, barely eating, and you want to... try saltiness and ginger tea rather than take her to the doctor?

For a week or two while waiting for a medical appointment, sure, that might be reasonable. But unless you're unable to arrange or afford medical care, just deciding not to take her to the doctor for something like this seems like borderline medical neglect. It could be a serious issue!

Anonymous wrote:I'll try one last plea with the parents posting here. Please reserve your judgment on whether symptoms like this point to an ED or a medical disorder. Once your child is put in the ED bin, they pretty much have lost all hope of getting proper care if it is a medical disorder. Insistence that the symptoms must be associated with an ED without appropriate investigation of medical causes could have dire consequences including death.

Totally agree with you, PP... you bring up very valid points.

I think the reason so many posters are saying that it may be an ED, is because the OP is SO insistent that it's not.
She seems to think that an ED only consists of bulimia & forgets about anorexia, so I think a lot of the PP were just trying to educate her (which it sounds like she needs a LOT of).
I feel awful for her daughter that her mother is refusing to take her to the doctor and OP are you listening?? Your daughter is going to resent you for not taking her, especially if it turns out to be something serious.

Mother of the f*cking year.

I'll try one last plea with the parents posting here. Please reserve your judgment on whether symptoms like this point to an ED or a medical disorder. Once your child is put in the ED bin, they pretty much have lost all hope of getting proper care if it is a medical disorder. Insistence that the symptoms must be associated with an ED without appropriate investigation of medical causes could have dire consequences including death.

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Anonymous wrote:OP,

Just out of curiously, how are you sure she doesn't have an eating disorder? Complaining of physical symptoms can be a major symptom. Obviously you know your daughter best, but you should take her into the ped to make sure nothing serious is going on. Good luck, I hope she starts feeling better soon!

Np - why would someone w an eating disorder gave this kind of issue? And wouldn't they keep it on the DL to avoid a parent or dr noticing? Not being snarky - geniuinely wondering.

It's a cover for not eating.

Fist PP here. Some people with EDs complain of physical symptoms to avoid eating. (BTW they're not "lying" in a malicious way, they are just that scared of eating.) also if she's not eating she may be nauseous because of that as well,

I'm OP. DD DOES eat though. On Saturday morning she said she felt a little nauseous and then asked for eggs and avocado. Then didn't finish it and said she was still nauseous. I am wondering if she just needs to eat less in the mornings though - one egg instead of two. We are poor and she knows I don't like wasting food, but I have told her not to force herself to eat if her belly doesn't want it, and that when she's trying a new food it's okay to decide she doesn't like it and does' want to finish it.

OP, please take your daughter to the pediatrician. She needs to be evaluated for ED. This sounds classic. I know it is hard to believe it can happen to your own daughter, but you can't ignore or hope this will go away on its own. It will only get worse if your ignore it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks all. DD is definitely not pregnant and definitely doesn't have an eating disorder. She does take Lactaid when eating any milk products but it happens even without eating dairy or with having a Lactaid.

I am not in any rush to put her on medication for the rest of her life. We will begin with natural remedies and progress if those don't fix things. I will tell her to try a couple of saltines and see about ginger tea, and talk about post-nasal drip first.

Oh for f***** sake take your kid to the goddamn doctor. Saltines and ginger tea. What the f*** is wrong with you?

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She's a goddamn ostrich and doesn't want to know or god forbid she may have to "put her on medication for the rest of her life".

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks all. DD is definitely not pregnant and definitely doesn't have an eating disorder. She does take Lactaid when eating any milk products but it happens even without eating dairy or with having a Lactaid.

I am not in any rush to put her on medication for the rest of her life. We will begin with natural remedies and progress if those don't fix things. I will tell her to try a couple of saltines and see about ginger tea, and talk about post-nasal drip first.

How do you know this for sure? Parents are often the last to know. If she is skipping meals, that is a sign right there. Why don't you bring her to the doctor and see where it takes you? Sometimes with an eating disorder, having a third party helps with the diagnosis and beginning therapy. Don't keep your head in the sand OP.

OP, I think its all about how long your DD has been feeling this way. Definitely do everything you can to help her while you decide if she needs to see a doctor.

Flame away!

Please take your daughter to the doctor. When I was her age I ended up with a hard to diagnose ailment that caused nausea and extreme fatigue. I'm lucky I have a mother who loved me enough to get me proper medical care. Had to take meds for about 3 weeks and then I was all better. You have no idea what is going on with your daughter until you TAKE HER TO THE DOCTOR.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why are you refusing to take DD to the doctor?!?

OP said that they are poor. Maybe they don't have health insurance, or don't have good health insurance, or she'd have to come up with an expensive co-pay, or take unpaid time off work to take her child... or some other reason related to why poor people get less good health care than well off people?

Maybe, and I could sympathize with that. But the reason she gave was not wanting her daughter to be on medication for the rest of her life, and is planning to treat her herself with ginger tea and crackers. That sounds like ignorance and selfishness, not being poor.

OP, if money is the issue reach out to your child's school's social worker for ideas. Or call your local health department. Your current plan sucks.

You know not everyone can afford all the medication they need, right?

Yes, but to not even try the doctor because you have already decided that your child requires medication for an unknown condition that there is no way for you to afford so you'll just give her crackers? And the condition is not serious so crackers are fine? That's not being poor, that's being dumb.